My dad has found a lump and won't go to the doctor?!
Question: both of his parents and his only sister died of cancer, he refuses to go to the doctor as he doesn;t like hospitals. if it was cancer, to which i will not know, how fast is it likely to spread and how long is he likely to live? any links would be great.
i have no one to talk to as he has made me promise not to tell my brother as he is due to be a father soon and my dad thinks he will worry too much
thank you
Answers: both of his parents and his only sister died of cancer, he refuses to go to the doctor as he doesn;t like hospitals. if it was cancer, to which i will not know, how fast is it likely to spread and how long is he likely to live? any links would be great.
i have no one to talk to as he has made me promise not to tell my brother as he is due to be a father soon and my dad thinks he will worry too much
thank you
Depending on what type of cancer he may have it can spread very fast or it can be one of the slow moving cancers. Try to talk to him and let him know that you love him and he needs to take care of himself. My husband passed away from cancer and it is such a painful medical condition. Keep on encouring him to see a doctor.
You should try an get expert help, contact your local doctor and ask their advice.
I'm sure I read somewhere recently that 80% of cancers if caught early are treatable. Definately try and get him there, he will worry more by not knowing and ignoring it than actually finding out.
He must go see his doctor, most of the time its nothing but there is always a chance. Don't let in bury his head in the sand and not think about it. I know I have been there and it was a huge relife after. good look.
You really must try and get him to see a doctor. If he won't do it for himself tell him to do it for you, your brother and his grandchild. Chances are it may be nothing to worry about, but if it is cancer the earlier its caught the better his chances. All the best.
Is there no one in your family he will listen to?
He really needs to go see a doctor, it may be nothing?
Maybe explain how it is upsetting you. I imagine you already have. Good Luck
Maybe you call your local GP and talk to him, see if he will come around and talk with him
Phone the Drs surgery and go and chat to them. It may not be cancer in which case worrying about that will not help matters. If it is not a good result then he will get the attention needed and the sooner the better. Only diagnosis will give you the answers you seek as if it is bad news then it will be dependent on where and what is wrong.
You must tell your brother and between you both get to a doctors and have the lump checked out.He will thank you for it if they catch it in time and saves his life.How guilty will you feel if he died and your brother found out that you knew.I hope it is nothing to worry about and he will be fine.....all the best.
What a difficult situation to be in. I think you should do whatever it takes to get your dad to a doctor even if it means telling someone. His selfish actions in not going because he "doesn't like hospitals" are a burden to you and that's alot of worry and guilt that you shouldn't have to live with. Get him to a doctor!
Its unfair of your father to confide in you then not expect you to share the burden with your brother, afterall you are both his children.
Your brother is becoming a father so will understand even greater the need to look after and care of family, and would probably be upset if anything happened to your dad and he had been denied the chance to help.
Speak to your brother, and then you can both figure out a way to approach your father about getting help.
You can speak to your GP and book an appointment for your Dad and then hopefully you and your brother together can work on getting him there.
With respect, your Father deserves a good kick up the ----, He has landed this problem on you, then Say's keep it to your self, that to me, is the height of selfishness, go to his GP, explain the situation, and be guided, if your father moans about it, TOUGH, he will get over it, if you do nothing, and it turns out to be Cancer, you may never forgive your self. deal with it NOW.
I'm not surprised he is reluctant to go and see anyone about this. He must be worried sick.
There would be absolutely no way to tell how fast it would spread or how long he would live without the intervention of a doctor and medical tests. But that's jumping the gun a bit. You don't even know if he does have cancer.
Have you told him how scared and worried you are? If you haven't, you need to.
It might even be worth you talking to your doctor, to try and get their advice.
But even if, after you talk to him, he won't accept that he needs to go and see a doctor, there isn't much that you can do. Other than keep on telling him how much you love him and you don't want to lose him. It's not an easy one to deal with. I feel for you.
I hope you get through to him. Good luck.
Show him your worried. say: dad i love you, please get it checked out.
Please no matter what your dad says TELL your brother, do not go through this alone. Tell your dad its not forced to be cancer it could be a cyst or a benign lump, but with your brothers help you may be able to make him go, tell him you will go with him.
Never mind if your brother may be worried what about you and your feelings.
where is the lump? I had a lump on my neck for over a year and was told it was an inflamed lymph node - if you look it up on the search engine it tells you it is probably cancer - I had scans and fine needle biopsy and they didn't know what it was but was told if it is cancer there is cures for everything - I was terrified, I had another scan last week and they tell me it has gone and ther is nothing wrong with me - I have had the year from hell for nothing - get your father to a doctor as soon as possible as he might be worrying over nothing.