Mom died of lung cancer/stomach cancer without knowing it?!
Question: my mom passed two days ago, age 48. fluid around her heart, lungs covered in tumors. that is what i was told when i called the cv icu. someone else... maybe from the morgue told my aunt that my mom had stomach cancer, a tumor size of a soda bottle on her stomach. also we were told my moms heart was that of an 89 year old. there was no autopsy as far as i know, i didnt think to request one at the time. ultimately her heart stopped beating and thats how she died. how could she have had cancer so badly without knowing it? is that possible?
Answers: my mom passed two days ago, age 48. fluid around her heart, lungs covered in tumors. that is what i was told when i called the cv icu. someone else... maybe from the morgue told my aunt that my mom had stomach cancer, a tumor size of a soda bottle on her stomach. also we were told my moms heart was that of an 89 year old. there was no autopsy as far as i know, i didnt think to request one at the time. ultimately her heart stopped beating and thats how she died. how could she have had cancer so badly without knowing it? is that possible?
maybe she did know....... and didn't want to burden her children. on the other hand, people often mistake simple aches and pains. and maybe the doctors never ran any tests on her that would determine her cancer. stranger things have happened. not to sound harsh or cruel just be thankful she didn't suffer and she had a peaceful death. I personally watched my mamaw die from lung cancer and she suffered for several months. her quality of life was so horrible I would much rather she have passed on like your mom did. I know your loss is horrible and I can't say I know how you feel, I still have my mother. unfortunately death is something we all have to experience, we are born, we age and we die. I know this sounds really cold, but be very grateful you had her as long as you did. watching someone suffer for months is much worse. when they do pass on you not only have suffered from watching them suffer you then have to deal with their death as well.
You mother most certainly had some symptoms which she was probably hiding so as not to worry her family. On the other hand if she has had recent examinations it is hard to imagine why her doctors didn't find some clue as to the problem. Very sorry for your loss.
omfg im so sorry.i hope ur better.i know how it would feel if my mom died cause i love her so much and im sure u did to. also she can have cancer by not knowing it bcasue even kno im 14 i kno this stuff.cancer is serious.even kno she felt fine she still had it.there really are no symtoms.and no its not impossible
They probably didn't need an autopsy because if she was in the hospital they had all the info to determine the cause of death (which sounds like it involves congestive heart failure - fluid around her heart and lungs) She probably had health issues for a while that went unchecked. All too often people put off things, sometimes they're put off too long. My parents are like that, they'll ignore something and say it's nothing. Then after awhile they've dealt with it so long it's now normal to them and they don't take care till it gets really bad. It's also a lot of times people don't go for yearly check ups, especially if there's no medical insurance coverage which causes things to go unnoticed. We get the feeling we're too young to have "problems" and yet people suffer and unfortunately die at a younger age than is necessary. I'm really sorry that you lost your mom, I hope you find some peace. And please keep in mind your mom's medical history because as you get older it will be important in keeping yourself healthy and well. Trust me my brother understood it when he had a heart attack at 36 years old - but never thought he needed to see a Dr yearly before the attack - now he's got a schedule for more visits then he'd like. Prayers to you and your family.
I am so sorry for your loss.
Your mom had to of had symptoms. She was probably either ignoring them or hiding them from her family.
A doctor only knows what we tell them, unless they know what to test for it is unlikely that some of this would show up in a normal exam.
When the doctor asks how do you feel? and you answer fine...there is not need to pursue any testing.
Maybe if they listened to her heart they would have heard something, but who's to say for sure they didn't know and your mom chose not to tell anybody.
The treatment for some cancer can be horrible and cut down quality of life. Maybe your mom knew she was severely ill and wanted her last days to be quality, not all drugged up on Chemo. It doesn't sound like she had much of a chance and maybe after all she made the right decision. Still how awful for her and you. My prayers are with you!
I am so sorry about your mom!