I am truly in need for someone to help me figure out what this means...?!
Question: Alright am 25years old, a female and two years ago was dxn with MS. I am in a long term relationship about 6 years. I am on one of the ABC drugs, which is means I have to give myself a shot, which I did fine for a year and a half. Then I was having truble with my hand and could no longer do it, like a good guy he stood up and took over. But he aks angry everytime, and I keep telling him that this worries me, that we need to talk about what if I wake up and can't walk how are you going to be able to learn to help me then? He blows up and gets mad that I would be so untrusting? But do I have a right? Should I demand that we sit down and start figureing this out becuase I need to know wither or not he is not anrgy at helping me do my shot really and that this is his way of being concerned...what should i do.
Answers: Alright am 25years old, a female and two years ago was dxn with MS. I am in a long term relationship about 6 years. I am on one of the ABC drugs, which is means I have to give myself a shot, which I did fine for a year and a half. Then I was having truble with my hand and could no longer do it, like a good guy he stood up and took over. But he aks angry everytime, and I keep telling him that this worries me, that we need to talk about what if I wake up and can't walk how are you going to be able to learn to help me then? He blows up and gets mad that I would be so untrusting? But do I have a right? Should I demand that we sit down and start figureing this out becuase I need to know wither or not he is not anrgy at helping me do my shot really and that this is his way of being concerned...what should i do.
You are probably 'sensing' the exact thing you have implied here...his change in behavior (if after your diagnosis?) is revealing to you "something seems wrong" (?) And chances are, YOU ARE CORRECT! Unfortunately he may be harboring some resentment since your being diagnosed. I HOPE sincerely that you will indeed strive towards keeping the avenues of communication 'wide open'. Communication is of utmost importance now....it is vital that you each share your feelings, fears, apprehensions, disappointments, etc. And equally important is education, learning & being totally informed about your disease, be sure to do this, do it together & it will enhance your lines of communication dramatically. Encourage him to share with you...You both should seek out & join support groups. Even if it be online you BOTH can find others experiencing same as you. I will hold you both in thought & prayer...Visit www.WebMd.com for easy to understand answers, which may also connect you with other resources. Take care~
You have a very supportive BF. I think that men, a lot of times, have difficulty expressing themselves. He probably isn't mad, he is most likely frustrated. Frustrated that you have this disease that he can't just cure you from, a disease that robs you and him of a quality of life that a "normal" couple would have. I trust that with a counseling group (for MS in your area) would be really helpful. Please don't mistake his frustration for anger, and I'm sure he is having great difficulty being able to express himself (like a nervous laugh, or a child who throws a fit because his parents don't understand what he wants). He is very supportive. Please continue to be gentle to him in spirit and remember, you have a really great guy.
i think u are taking a little temper out on him,he must be in a lot of pain to see whom he loves in such a condition add to it when he gives the shot he feels and wishes inside him u dont suffer and everything is ok,try to just relax and treat him with warm tenderness and if he has something he will open up and speak by himself ,pressurizing someone doesnt help them to speak,they have to find the right moment and they speak
Your boyfriend is probably feeling the pressure of having to take care of you when you are sick. There is that phrase, 'In sickness and in health' in the marital vows, but you aren't married. This said, severe illness stresses relationships and can end marriages, despite vows. Its not civilized but it is the reality. He needs to feel that he wants to help you because he loves you. He can't be your slave. If he doesn't want to do it then there is nothing you can do about it. Alot of people would not want to be tied down to someone who is sick in their young lives. You can try to find out if he sees a future between you but you might not like the answer.
Being sick and needing help is hard and i sympathize with you. I will pray for you.
Can you get a nurse to give the shot and do other helping things?
Your partner should be considerate and help you and if he is so uncaring kick him to the curb.... You need love and affection. My dad had Ms... I am sorry I feel your partner is selfish I apologize if this upsets you, but one time I had to get one of my 5 stomache surgeries and my husband cleaned the well I wont describe but he did it lovingly and willingly... I wish you the best and healing energy for you, Hugz