Are there dating websites worth looking at for people who have herpes?!


Question: I can't help but commenting on this, although I know this isn't an answer to your question.

I have herpes, and I have dated on normal dating sites with great success. I know that it's difficult to tell someone you like that you have herpes, but I've been repeatedly surprised by how accepting people have been of my disease.

Since I was diagnosed, I've always told my lovers about my disease - always after we've gotten to know each other and like each other, but always before we have sex.

In fact, there are ways that the disease really improved my dating life. I became much slower to have sex with someone than I was before. I would really get to know them before having sex, and it meant that sex wasn't the thing that got us together. It meant that I was having sex with someone that I already cared about, and who had really chosen me, and that made it so much more special that it had been before.

After the first date or two, or when we had our first "make out" session, I would always tell my dates that I wanted to take things slowly. That it was important to me that we really get to know each other and trust each other before we have sex. I would NOT tell him that I had herpes just yet, but just that, for my own reasons, I really needed us to take things slowly. If the guy didn't like that answer, then I knew that we probably weren't right for each other.

After a few weeks, if we still got along and things were going well, I would tell him that the reason that I wanted to take things slowly was because I had genital herpes, and I didn't want to put him at risk. I had studied up on my disease, so I could knowledably answer all the questions that he had. I would tell him that I was on antivirals - to reduce the likelihood of transmission, that we would need to use condoms all the time, and that there would be times (when I was having an outbreak) that we couldn't have sex. I would also direct him to a great web site (link is below), so that he could learn more. I also told him that I would understand if he needed to pull back, but that I hoped that we could keep on dating.

I never had anyone reject me. I think that I was so concerned about not transmitting it, and about protecting him, that he felt he could trust me.

I understand that you might choose to date only people with herpes, and it does avoid that difficult conversation. But don't rule out dating people who aren't infected. Most mature, adult people who get to know you, and who know that you care enough about them to protect them as best you can, will choose to continue dating you.

Good luck, whatever you decide to do.


Answers: I can't help but commenting on this, although I know this isn't an answer to your question.

I have herpes, and I have dated on normal dating sites with great success. I know that it's difficult to tell someone you like that you have herpes, but I've been repeatedly surprised by how accepting people have been of my disease.

Since I was diagnosed, I've always told my lovers about my disease - always after we've gotten to know each other and like each other, but always before we have sex.

In fact, there are ways that the disease really improved my dating life. I became much slower to have sex with someone than I was before. I would really get to know them before having sex, and it meant that sex wasn't the thing that got us together. It meant that I was having sex with someone that I already cared about, and who had really chosen me, and that made it so much more special that it had been before.

After the first date or two, or when we had our first "make out" session, I would always tell my dates that I wanted to take things slowly. That it was important to me that we really get to know each other and trust each other before we have sex. I would NOT tell him that I had herpes just yet, but just that, for my own reasons, I really needed us to take things slowly. If the guy didn't like that answer, then I knew that we probably weren't right for each other.

After a few weeks, if we still got along and things were going well, I would tell him that the reason that I wanted to take things slowly was because I had genital herpes, and I didn't want to put him at risk. I had studied up on my disease, so I could knowledably answer all the questions that he had. I would tell him that I was on antivirals - to reduce the likelihood of transmission, that we would need to use condoms all the time, and that there would be times (when I was having an outbreak) that we couldn't have sex. I would also direct him to a great web site (link is below), so that he could learn more. I also told him that I would understand if he needed to pull back, but that I hoped that we could keep on dating.

I never had anyone reject me. I think that I was so concerned about not transmitting it, and about protecting him, that he felt he could trust me.

I understand that you might choose to date only people with herpes, and it does avoid that difficult conversation. But don't rule out dating people who aren't infected. Most mature, adult people who get to know you, and who know that you care enough about them to protect them as best you can, will choose to continue dating you.

Good luck, whatever you decide to do.

yes there are dating websites for people with stds. stdromance is one just look up std dating sites on google.

Yes there are a few herpes dating sites. Try any of these:

http://www.harmonyonline.com.au

www.mpwh.com

www.afterh.com

Best of luck,
Harmony

Although RiverGirl has had good luck, I would have to say that men are more accepting of a condition like herpes so I do think it would be harder for a guy with herpes to be accepted by a girl without it, as guys tend to be more willing simply for the fact that their very nature is to think about women and wont turn down an offer for one. Kinda doesnt make sense, but trust me its true. I like to be more realistic than most people you'll find on here, I dont give false hope. I am registered on positivesingles.com, although it isnt that great, maybe it depends where you live, but my location doesnt have many people. I have corresponded with a few, but noting more than that. I suggest you join my club for experiemental research, really you have nothing to lose, but the time you engage yourself in finding a cure for herpes. Probably every single peson on here would tell you there is no cure for herpes, although that might be the case, I do believe there is a natural cure for herpes and that administration of this treatment is feasible under certain conditions. Why its not more widely known is too much for me to say; it became my obsession to search for a cure of the uncurable.People are laughing as they read this, but I ensure you that you're the misinformed one. If I only knew how to convince those who would bet their lives there is no cure, but the more I learn, the more I realize people no longer think.

It saddens and terrifies me that a nation can be so blinded by something that should be considered so logically correct, that there could be no bolder definition of logic. Or you can just live with it FOREVER.





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