Have you or a loved one survived cancer ?!
Question: Please share your story with me. We just found out that my husband has cancer. We are both just pretty much stunned. I think it would help both of us to read some stories from survivors.
You have my deepest thanks.
Please ...if you feel the need to make crude jokes...this once, keep it in check. I believe most people are good inside. Don't give in to an urge for a cheap shot at drawing attention to yourself. And if you think my husband is going to die...fair enough. But keep in mind that is not what I am asking. And that I am aware that he may die. We are focusing on trying all we can for him to get well.
Again...thank you from the bottom of my heart.
I adore this man ...he has always been the love of my life. I need to hear from those who can help me build hope...so that I can be stronger and help HIM have hope, in spite of the physical pain he is in and the fear he has.
Answers: Please share your story with me. We just found out that my husband has cancer. We are both just pretty much stunned. I think it would help both of us to read some stories from survivors.
You have my deepest thanks.
Please ...if you feel the need to make crude jokes...this once, keep it in check. I believe most people are good inside. Don't give in to an urge for a cheap shot at drawing attention to yourself. And if you think my husband is going to die...fair enough. But keep in mind that is not what I am asking. And that I am aware that he may die. We are focusing on trying all we can for him to get well.
Again...thank you from the bottom of my heart.
I adore this man ...he has always been the love of my life. I need to hear from those who can help me build hope...so that I can be stronger and help HIM have hope, in spite of the physical pain he is in and the fear he has.
i am a survivor.........i am 38 years old and have had throat cancer (foolishly smoked even after the first diagnosis) twice. the last time i was diagnosed was april 2007. my heart goes out to you and him both. in may i took around of chemotherapy. it made me extremely ill for several weeks. in july i went back for my check up and there was nothing. i am a firm believer that hope and prayer and the will to live has alot to do with the outcome. i refused to give up. i had just met a wonderful man in july 2006 and was very much in love with him. he was there for me through it all. i could see him hurting from it all but he really tried hard to hide it from me. you and i both know that when you love someone there actions tell all. even though they think they are hiding it well. be there for him for everything, make him share his thoughts with you. i was never so scared in my life but having someone who really wanted to know what was going through my mind and allowing me to share it with him made a huge difference.. if i cried he cried, it was really nice to have someones shoulder to lean on. and most of all, never allow him to speak in past tense, it starts to settle in your mind that it is over and he will convince his self that you can make it without him and you can but you don't want to. i am speaking from both expeiences because the first time was so much harder, my husband at that time (during the first diagnosis) had bigger fish to fry and moved on before i was even well again. the second diagnosis was not easy but much easier knowing that there was someone there who really loved and needed me. my prayers are with you. try your best to keep hope, enough for the both of you. it will be very difficult at times but your love for him will carry you through it..........good luck. I do still go back every three months for check ups snd still nothing
I am a survivor. I was diagnosed with leukemia 3 years ago at 21 and relapsed one year ago. While I have a lot of post treatment on going care, I am currently in remission and overall doing well.
My cousin has survived breast cancer 2 and I know several other women who have survived breast cancer.
Your docs can help you and your husband find local support groups that will have other survivors and family members.
This board is actually usually pretty serious. The crude/rude comments are few and far between and most of the ones taken as such were meant to be that way.
The most impt thing to know is to always ask questions about everything. The only stupid one is the one you didnt ask. It is also smart to be educated about what is going on with his body. For one, knowledge brings power and choices, but two, docs arent perfect they do occasionally make mistakes. If you are educated and paying attention, the mistake will be caught if/when it happens before it has the chance to physically harm him.
come to a channel its for cancer sufferes and surviver called
http://www.oncochat.org/
i have found it a great support
You haven't said what kind of cancer he has so it's hard to tell you anything. I'm on my 4th round with it. It started in my colon, spread to the cervix and liver and is now in my lungs. I beat all the other ones and I'll beat this one too. I'm almost a senior citizen and I'll never give up. Tell your hubbie that he is not alone and that a strong mind is your best defense. Good luck hon. You will be in my prayers.
check out this research group . we hope to find a cure someday and almost anyone with a computer can help http://boinc.bakerlab.org/rosetta/ we have a message board you can use to ask questions
once I walked through this beautiful cancer memorial park when I was hospitalized two years ago. as I walk through these stands having the quotations from survivors on them,I felt wonderful and it gave me this great pleasure to see how Love, believing and devotion could heal so many people from such disease. I prayed for people then and I pray for you now.
anyone of us need a savior in one point of our lives, and it's your turn now. Just search for the one and believe. It can be your spacialist or even your family doctor and let them watch you and worry for you.
You recently have found out about the sickness,and we just past Valentin's day,maybe this is a sign for you , i'd say rather a very strong sign from Love. That Love is on your side in this.
Any sickness is a bodily condition and no condition is absolute. But one thing that can move any condition back and forth is Love! Love and devotion is all you need.
Maybe this your cherished problem, maybe you have to bless it! all I can say is conditions don't mean a thing and I'm quoting this.
There are lots of survivor stories at Lance Armstrong's LiveStrong.org. I highly recommend spending some quality time there. They also have a free binder you can use to tract doctor's appointments, treatments, etc. It's a great organization.
Hello :)
first of all, i'd like to say you seem like a really supportive person & thats exactly what your husband needs right now.
Well done to both of you :] Just keep thinking positive,really.
Never think of the worst case senario.
I'm a survivor,
I'm nearly 15 years old & i was diagnosed with cancer when i was 13.I spent a year on a ward with other cancer patients from newborn babies - 19 year olds & positivity is the best way to cope.
I know you're both scared, but the amount of treatments & research that has been discovered recently will amaze you.
When i got diagnosed,my first thought was "i'm going to die"
but thats everyones first reaction.
I didn't know how to deal with it at first but trying to keep yourself happy and as positive as possible really helps.
I had a rare type of bone cancer in my right wrist, i had treatment for it asap, surgery, and then some more treatment.
What people can do surgically now,is amazing.
They removed my radius (the wrist, and bone in my forearm) and replaced it with the bone in the back of my right leg.
The doctors are ALWAYS doing the absolute best they can,
so all you need to do is be as happy as possible.
You will get your happy days,and your not so good days, and if you have treatment, you have a long journey ahead of you both. All you need is support from family and friends.
There is also something called the macmillan center which can be useful if one of you need a little something to help you cope. They are usually located in the hospitals, and its great if you're feeling stressed. You can arrange free massages and stuff to help you relax.. i advise finding out about it!
I hope this was helpful.. i know i'm only young & every experience is different..but i just wanted you to know that you shouldn't give up hope and youre already doing a brilliant job.
All the best to you and your husband,
xxxx
When my sister was diagnosed with breast cancer 14 years ago, my first thought was she was going to die and is going strong. My dad had colon cancer about 8 years ago and will be 80 in June. I had breast cancer 4 years ago and underwent chemo and radiation. My sister and dad only needed surgery.
Speaking from personal experience, it's a tough road, but as everyone else on this post says, it's important to have a positive attitude and find things to make you laugh. As the saying goes laughter is the best medicine.
My sister in law survived cancer apprx. 20 yrs ago w/chemo . she still gets checked every 6 months.
Our prayers go out to you & your husband & your families. God is always with you & your family.
Stay strong & positive.