Staying sober?!
Question: Ive been sober a month now. So far my blood pressure went down, i lost some of my beer belly, my senses are sharper, i have more money,and i feel 100% better. Despite all this i still wanna drink but i know i cant.. My grandfather died of cirrosis of the liver, my dad was involved in a deadly DUI crash, and my moms side of the family drinks heavily. I tried AA but i found people complain and dont do anything about their lives, and i tried church but i dont feel that either. All my friends drink and since i am still single, i find the weekends are still very difficult for me to stay sober!! I sincerely wanna stick with this cause i havent felt better in years, literally since like i was 16 years old.. How can i still enjoy the weekends without getting drunk?
Answers: Ive been sober a month now. So far my blood pressure went down, i lost some of my beer belly, my senses are sharper, i have more money,and i feel 100% better. Despite all this i still wanna drink but i know i cant.. My grandfather died of cirrosis of the liver, my dad was involved in a deadly DUI crash, and my moms side of the family drinks heavily. I tried AA but i found people complain and dont do anything about their lives, and i tried church but i dont feel that either. All my friends drink and since i am still single, i find the weekends are still very difficult for me to stay sober!! I sincerely wanna stick with this cause i havent felt better in years, literally since like i was 16 years old.. How can i still enjoy the weekends without getting drunk?
Bless you for trying. You already know it is a long, hard battle.
Go to different AA meetings. Tell your friends that if you drink you will die -- that's not exactly true in the immediate future - we hope. This will make them see how imperative it is to help you, and maybe they will slow down and find other places to go and drink less or not at all because they are with you.
Church is a good place, but only if the pastor knows and understands your problems, and is willing to help you. S/He may be partner you up with one of two people who are recovering alcoholics. Because all of your life you will be a recovering alcoholic -- my dad quit, but the desire to drink never left him for over 30 years. His will kept him sober.
Change your relaxation methods. Add sports -- where you play, not just watch. Work out at gyms, and find coffee houses to hang out in rather than bars. Do everything in your power to stay away from the environment.
Now, if your friends are true friends, they will help you. I have a friend who plays 2 or 3 softball games on Sat. and again on Sun. He also goes for batting practice. Basketball is a good game and it requires energy, which you won't have when drinking. These active sports will help flush your system faster of the poison that is still in thee from the years of drinking.
Don't give up. No matter what -- don't give up. You already know that your family history will easily lead to an early death -- do other things to replace that beer. Take up running -- start by walking if you need to, but keep active.
My prayers are with you ... you have a very tough road ahead of you. You are not alone.
1) Try a different AA meeting. It works if you work it.
2) Get new friends. you CAN NOT hang with your old drinking buddies and stay sober
3) Find activities that do not involve drinking
Good Luck
Sober 1304 days through AA and more importantly sober today. I was a drunk and addict for 35 years. You can do it.
Please don't risk another bottom.
Go to meetings, work the steps, get a sponsor and don't drink between meetings.
I'm' so proud of you!!!!!!!!
I was married to a party guy and it didn't last. He never tried drugs so I felt lucky for that.....lol...
But he drank so much, He usually slept in his recliner because that's where he passed out.
Beer was okay but the hard stuff made him mean.
He never hurt me or anything like that, he only verbally abused me. I sure don't miss him...lol... :)
Good Luck
:)
every time you feel like drinking, go back and read what you just wrote
God bless you. I hope you find a way. I have no better answers than the people before me, I just wanted to send my support. my step brother's AA place has a pool table etx. in florida..lots of things to do, just like a bar without drinks. My friend's husband's AA does lots of get togethers, which she said are more interesting than the drunk ones because people actually have discussions. Think outside the box. maybe bookstore readings, classes at the local college, or library...anything to start anew. Put up a postitive affirmation on your fridge and bathroom mirror to keep feeding yourself good thoughts about how strong and healthy and determined you are. Bless you.