When should I tell him I have herpes?!
Question: Ive been seeing this guy since the beginning of Feburary and he's been wanting to have sex but I keep saying no and Im afraid hes going to get tired of me saying no, so I need to tell him about me having herpes sometime soon. I just dont know if I should tell him next time I see him or wait until we are dating or when?
Im going to tell him before we have sex, I just dont know when I should.
Answers: Ive been seeing this guy since the beginning of Feburary and he's been wanting to have sex but I keep saying no and Im afraid hes going to get tired of me saying no, so I need to tell him about me having herpes sometime soon. I just dont know if I should tell him next time I see him or wait until we are dating or when?
Im going to tell him before we have sex, I just dont know when I should.
Hi there, I was in the same situation last year, it is a very hard thing to talk about especially when you care about a person, and you think that you will scare them away.
In my situation, I was honest, very honest and even brought info I found online to better inform him. I know this wasnt easy for him at all.. Honestly is the best policy.
I often think, what would I do? If i was in the other persons shoes?
Make sure that this guy is serious about you, and really does care.. before you even begin this convo.
seriously tell him before u do anything..karma will bite u if u dont..
Just be honest, The female condom offers much better protection than the standard condum, suggest using those.
You should tell him even before foreplay such as kissing has started, since herpes can be transmitted that way. Ideally, you should be honest and tell any man that asks you on a date about it up front, at the very beginning. Yes, you'll lose a lot of dates that way, and I'm sorry for you, but that is how you help prevent herpes from spreading.
as soon as you talk to him next, or anytime in the near near future, this is his sex life don't ruin it
tell now. Herps is a very serious disease and you should never hide it from your partner. People who does that should go to jail.
i think you should just tell him and or if your religious pray to your higher power to get rid of the disease
just make sure you tell him most speically if you like him ,be honest he might not stay but dont do any thing without telling him first he might not forgive you if you told him after the fact.
hmmm. Kudos for making an effort to tell the guy. Tell him as soon as possible.
I think this is a personal thing and it's something this guy only needs to know if you're dating. But, it's also something you should tell him as soon as you're dating to avoid telling him at the last minute. As a side note, I believe sex should be saved for marriage to avoid heartache and other serious problems--the analogy I like is comparing sex to fire. Sex in marriage is like sex in the fireplace, warm and safe. Sex outside of marriage is sex outside the fireplace that burns the house down. Please know that I'm not trying to put you down, just give you advice that I think will help you. PLEASE check out this amazing website: http://www.everybruin.com/intimacy.php
you need to make a date with him, during daylight time instead of night so that it wont feel so romantic, and then tell him, cause if you really care for him you will tell him and make sure that you are getting treatment, and that you use safe sex pract.
I know its hard to tell someone about your condition, its embarassing and not something you'd want others to know about. The best time to tell him is when you have been dating him long enough to know that you both are committed to the relationship. Relationship first, sex later!
You can approach the subject by saying to him you value the relationship and care about him and need to share something with him. Then just be factual about it and talk about how you are treating it and the importance of you two practicing safe sex for both of your protection. It has such a bad social stigma but remember you are still a good person and the right person will be able to deal with the news.
i think you should tell him when you see him next, i can only imagine how hard this must be, my mum always told me you should treat people the way you'd like to be treated, i wouldn't appreciate my fella if he kept something like that from me. the best of luck to you chick x
Get a tatt on your forehead.
If you had not been promiscuous you would not have this life-long STD. Now you are a carrier infecting everyone you have sex with.
They used to brand people with contagious diseases. Where would you like your brand?