How do you discuss STDs with a spouse?!
Question: Here's the situation: Me and my spouse do not use condoms. We are not trying to have a baby but if it happens, it would not be the end of the world. I have a suspicion that he has an STD and he could not have gotten it from me because I have not had sex with anyone else but him. The problem is- I don't know for sure if he has one. I'm afraid to stop having sex with him because then we will have to discuss why. I don't want to accuse him and I do plan on getting tested but in the meantime (before I know for sure) what should I do?
Answers: Here's the situation: Me and my spouse do not use condoms. We are not trying to have a baby but if it happens, it would not be the end of the world. I have a suspicion that he has an STD and he could not have gotten it from me because I have not had sex with anyone else but him. The problem is- I don't know for sure if he has one. I'm afraid to stop having sex with him because then we will have to discuss why. I don't want to accuse him and I do plan on getting tested but in the meantime (before I know for sure) what should I do?
Depends on what you've seen or heard that leads you to believe that he has an STD...
Seen sores? heard rumors? WHAT?
(and you intend to forgive him and keep him)
you need to openly ask him - and be careful of your wording as to not be accusing.
If you see a sore....ask:
"Any idea what that is? I've heard people can have herpes for YEARS and not know....do you think that's it?"
You're NOT accusing him of cheating...and hopefully you know him well enough to know if he's lying...
If you heard a rumor that he screwed around & caught something...... aaaahhhh.... stop listening to rumors! or do research until you have some proof....
It's totally uncool to accuse or listen to outsiders
see what the test proves, then be open. don't accuse him unless you know. you got it right. just tell him you have a female problem, and are not comfortable with sex now.
why don't you go to the Dr and get tested your self... if he has one you probably do to... when you come home with the diagnosis ask tell him and suggest he gets tested.
I would just get tested and if it comes back positive, then you know for sure and you can point blank say that you know he has been sleeping around! Plus if he is your fiance, you should be able to talk about anything!
If I see anything that looks odd on my bf's penis I ask him or say something to him, I don't care what he thinks!
how long before you get tested..you need to go immediately. I would just ask him about it. Don't do it in a way that seems like you are accusing him..just ask if he has ever been tested. What is it that makes you think he may have 1?
wear a condom until you know but if you're not trying to have a baby why go ungloved? you'll have one sooner then you think if you do.
i wouldnt be discussing anything i would be flipping out at him..it probably means he is out having unprotected sex with other people and who knows what he could pass on to you...
well honey , you need to wait until you get checked, i would just tell him that i have a yeast infection, and doc said not to mess around, than found out if you do? if you do get help and meds and tell him to get meds than tell him to make a choice you are the whore! if you !seek marriage counselor
get a test yourself! it'll prove whether he's cheating or not.