Herpes help!?!
Question: A month and a half ago, my g/f left me. I was messed up in the head and drinking every night. I ended up having a one night stand with this girl ive known. We went into the bedroom and I asked her to her face if she was clean...she said yes. WE used a condom for a bit then she took it off. I regretted sleeping with her that night and still do since ive never been one for one night stands.
Last night, she calls me up and says she needs to tell me something. Apparently, she was diagnosed with herpes 3 years ago. She told me she has been on medication and has not had an outbreak in 2.5 years. I am extremely sick to my stomach over this. I cannot believe she lied to my face. Everything has been normal on my body, but I am getting tested today. What do you guys think the probability of me having them is? What can I do if I do have them? thanks...
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Answers: A month and a half ago, my g/f left me. I was messed up in the head and drinking every night. I ended up having a one night stand with this girl ive known. We went into the bedroom and I asked her to her face if she was clean...she said yes. WE used a condom for a bit then she took it off. I regretted sleeping with her that night and still do since ive never been one for one night stands.
Last night, she calls me up and says she needs to tell me something. Apparently, she was diagnosed with herpes 3 years ago. She told me she has been on medication and has not had an outbreak in 2.5 years. I am extremely sick to my stomach over this. I cannot believe she lied to my face. Everything has been normal on my body, but I am getting tested today. What do you guys think the probability of me having them is? What can I do if I do have them? thanks...
please leave genuine answers only since this is a life changing event.
I was afraid of this same thing for a while and did plenty of research on it and I also studied HIV/AIDS for a biology report and found out so much that I consider myself more knowledgeable than most on that subject.
First off, let me address user 1024, the one that said "It's almost certain that you have herpes. It is transmittable whether or not the infected partner is having an outbreak."
While half of what they stated is true, it is not "almost certain" that you have herpes.
Here's why:
You stated that she was diagnosed 3 years ago and she is on antiviral medication (the only stuff that would work on herpes). The instances of "viral shedding" what causes transmission between individuals, is reduced over time. Your immune system becomes better able to hold the virus at bay. This is why she hasn't had an outbreak in 2.5 years. Also, some strains are more annoying than others also and are more resistant to your immune system. Hers doesn't seem to be like this based off of the info you provided and that she provided you. Also, the antivirals she is taking reduces transmission rates by something like 75%. It also reduces the chances of asymptomatic viral shedding(AVS), which is viral shedding that occurs when there are NO symptoms. You are most likely to get it when there are symptoms but it is still possible when there are none because of AVS. Since the antiviral medication reduces this down to between 2-7 days PER YEAR, it is far from "almost certain" that you have contracted herpes.
You have a better chance of not getting it in this case than you do of getting it, but unprotected sex is like Russian Roulette: There may be only one bullet in a six shooter revolver, but sooner or later you WILL get shot. Lets just hope that the chamber was empty this time around.
Good luck man.
I hope you haven't been infected because there is no cure for herpes.
It's almost certain that you have herpes. It is transmittable whether or not the infected partner is having an outbreak.
You need to go to the doctor and get tested! You will take medication for the rest of your life, as herpes is not curable. You will also have to tell every partner from here on that you have it, and you will always have to use protection.
well people will lie to your face to get sex. herpes can be passed on even when there is no outbreak. but if she was on medication that would have cut the risk down some and the fact that u used condoms would cut it down more. but condoms are not all that effective against herpes. there is a strong possibility that u could have herpes. if u have them there is no available cure at the moment u will have to see your doctor and make sure that u have them first. u have the right and responsability to tell whomever u want but partners should be notified before sex takes place.
HSV1+ and 2+
I agree with the 1st answer, Herpes is a virus and there is no cure for it, but sweetie relax if you do some research u'll find out that nearly 80% of the US population live with some type of herpes either HSV-1 (Oral) or HSV-2 (Genital) also since it's soo contagious you may have been a carrier for years (Say hypothetically speaking a relative who had a cold sore kissed you when u was a kid and spread the virus to you) and not have known it, ppl will live with this virus their whole lives and may never know they have it! Cold sores are a form of herpes btw, So I feel you and I understand why you are scared but relax it's okay, you will be alright trust me there's worse things than having herpes.
Nevertheless, hope everything comes out good and whatever the outcome is keep your head up, K :)
Oh and I am soo sorry that Lying, Conniving, scanless, b***h did that to you, but what does not kill you only makes you stronger & you live....you learn, right?
If she did not have an outbreak when you had sex then you may not have it. If you start to get bumps on your penis then you probably do have it. I am sorry. I hope everything works out for you. But if she didn't have an outbreak there is a very good chance that you wont get it.
There is apparently only a small chance of infection if no sores were present when you had sex.
If you'd like, buy some Olive Leaf Extract and L-lysine. Both have anti-viral properties. Lysine, especially, has been shown to be effective against the herpes virus; although I'm not sure it can prevent you from getting herpes if she was shedding the virus when you were together... but it certainly can help prevent future outbreaks or minimize the duration when you have an outbreak. I definitely think taking 500-1000 mgs/day of Lysine is worth a try. It won't hurt you.
Sorry! I guess you've learned a painful lesson. I hope you didn't pick this up and I hope you gave that woman an earful... horrible thing to do to you.
Your Chances are most likely slim that you got it. If she was contagious she most likely would have had too much pain to have sex. But, being that there is always a chance it is best that you get checked out and keep an eye on yourself. Good luck and I wish you well.
Having sex with someone who has herpes means that, condom or not, you could have it. If she is on meds that will decrease the risk, and if she was not having an outbreak at the time, that is also in your favor. The only way to be sure is to get tested.
Good luck, I hope it is negative. But remember how you are feeling right now the next time you get ready to have sex. If you ARE positive, don't do to someone else what that girl did to you. If you are negative, don't chance it again, make sure that condom stays put no matter what.
Man, that sucks. Try and tell me if you can what the results are. I hope you'll be ok...
I don't think so she gave it to u. She was under medication, It reduces in 73% per year is like during 3, 4 days she have a chance to transmit to you. Unfurtunately she lie to u.
But maybe she was confidente about her status of taking VALTREX . I take it for a time and I didn't give to anyone.
Plus try to were condon always.
Can u please make me a favor ? Let me know what did u get? Please, is important to me.
Good lucky! u can write me.
Since she hasn't had an outbreak, is on meds, and you used a condom you have the best chances of the test being negative. Also as a male it is harder for you to catch herpes. (Women can catch it easier due to there being more paths ex: small cuts from shaving, small (painless) tears due to intercourse) The only way you would have caught it is the virus was active on her skin and came in contact with a break in your skin. I'm sorry to tell you but getting tested this soon will more than likely give you a negative result even if you have become infected. I would say wait and be on the look for any bumps or sores. (If one appears go to the doc immediately and get a culture done) Other than that if there is no sore all they can do is a blood test. The blood test looks for antibodies and if you were just recently exposed your body will not have had time to create antibodies. I would keep an eye out for sores and if you don't get any after a few months go get a blood test done.
Much of the population will test positive for hsv1 though. Which most commonly causes cold sores, and many people catch it as children.
And as someone said sometimes people will say whatever to have sex. You say you were drinking ... was she? That can blur judgment even more, and with anyone having the "are you clean" talk just before sex is NOT a good idea. There are too many other things going on, and it makes it too easy to lie. She obviously feels guilty, which is why she told you. Would you rather her have still not told you?
I hope everything works out for you, and if nothing else you will have learned a lesson from this. Feel free to contact me if you have any more questions. Good luck.
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