Help Please.. How do you tell someone you have herpes?!
Question: Hi,
i was just wondering if anyone would have any advice on how to tell someone you have herpes. I would like to start dating but i am so scared of having to tell the other person. I dont know what there reaction will be. Its difficult enough listening to people talk about and say how dirty people are who have it.
Any ideas at all would really help.
Thank you very much
Answers: Hi,
i was just wondering if anyone would have any advice on how to tell someone you have herpes. I would like to start dating but i am so scared of having to tell the other person. I dont know what there reaction will be. Its difficult enough listening to people talk about and say how dirty people are who have it.
Any ideas at all would really help.
Thank you very much
To answer your question is best to say the following:
"I really like you. I feel great when we are together. And like everybody else I want to express how I feel. But, I now have a responsibility to myself and to you. Being close to you is great. However, my responsibility is to tell you that if you want to be with me we have to take care of how we share each other. My responsibility can spread. Its not going to kill u, its a little embarrassing sometimes. But, like I said, I think you are great. I want you know this, so if our feeling grow for each other, it will have a base of totally trust and honesty. I have a responsibility with how I share my body. I have a responsibility to u."
After you say that you give them space and let them choose to do what it best from them. Herpes is label and std because of religious influence. However, what it started out as a form of control only was a biological design to mark those who practise things outside of a religious context. Everyone will be exposed at some point. If they say no to your honesty, you have over 60 million plus people to find love and share responsibility. Also, I found that its behaviour in your body is related to colon health.
You only have a responsibility. You are still you.
Let your light out shine and dark moments for that is where you came from, the light.
Keep your clothes on and don't worry about it.
Be mature and say something like, I can feel we are getting really close and I want to share some information with you for your health and safety. I don't think a casual relationship would want to hear it and I hope you have learned to be very selective before taking a step that would cause you to need to share that type of information. And it doesn't make you dirty, my goodness, who would even think that in this day and age?
You shouldn't go telling everyone you date that you have herpes, I would wait and see if things progress to a sexual level, also you need to be very selective in who you take as a sexual partner. Once you find that person and they love you enough for you to want to share a bed with them they should love you enough to be accepting to the fact you have herpes. If they are not then they weren't right for you anyways. Always have protected sex even if your not in the middle of an outbreak.
If you have herpes , you should get it cured. Its very treatable.
Go to your doctor and he will prescribe your medication.
After your cured, you wont need to tell anyone you have herpes. And you can start to date as usual.
Ps. You should inform the person you got it from so that he/she should undergo treatment as well.
Uhhh, to the person who said get medication, herpes is not cureable, you can only treat the symptoms. Also I think its really great that you are going to be honest, but I wouldn't share the information with everyone, only those who you are sure your going to be sexual with. I would just be honest and tell them.
be open, honest and mature about it. u just have to sit them down and tell them. specially if u think you are going to be sexually involved with this person. give them some information to read and tell them what u know yourself about herpes. if they start treating u different or like some diseased leper then u might want to rethink getting being in this relationship. there are many negative stigmas out there about herpes. some people are in long term monogomous relationships and they got herpes from their partner (like me for example). u don't haveto be a dirty or a sl*t to get herpes. stds don't care who u ae, as long as u have unprotected sex u run the risk of getting one.
have oral herpes and genital herpes both from my bf who didn't know that he had herpes.
dont have sex with him u dont even have to tell him but if u guys are real close and he wants to have sex u guysz can mabey talk about it use condoms and if he dumps u cuz u got it then he's not worth it cuz if he truely cared for u he wouldnt care