Cancer..........?!
Question: what can or what to do to assist my wife as her father and best friend both have the "c" throat and bowel and aged only 61 and 30 how do you keep their minds from breaking down i am at a loss as also the mother in-law is on the verge of a break down and the best friends mother is at a loss any thing is helpful (and i am very thick skinned so any sly remarks are not even noticed )
Answers: what can or what to do to assist my wife as her father and best friend both have the "c" throat and bowel and aged only 61 and 30 how do you keep their minds from breaking down i am at a loss as also the mother in-law is on the verge of a break down and the best friends mother is at a loss any thing is helpful (and i am very thick skinned so any sly remarks are not even noticed )
Not being condescending when I say I'm so sorry sure its the last thing you want to hear...but have been nursing terminally ill close family member now for 3yrs and its so hard but you get there .. you take all the help and support you can get and demand more .not just for you but for the person who your trying to support ..and just wish someone would give me a big hug ....sure do need it ......... so have one from me .....sure you and your wife do ...all you really can do is take each day as comes ..hard ...... what more can I say .......
It is very hard on your wife to have two people close to her with cancer. I think all you can do is be there for her and do special things to cheer her up and give her a break. You will all get through this together by being there for each other. Good luck.
You can't do much really. Just remember to give your wife a cuddle every day and listen to her talk and even cry if she needs to. Don't say it will be alright because it might not. Be patient and willing to listen and perhaps willing to take your father-in-law and mother-in-law to the hospital for treatment if necessary. It will be hard but you can do it.
I have no advice other than be as supportive and understanding as you possibly can. I don't even pretend to know how to deal with something of that nature as most don't.
GOOD LUCK!
All you can do is be there, get them to enjoy the quality time left if it's terminal as it can get to the stage where things get even tougher. It's hard to keep it together when you watch a loved one suffer, i kept it together in front of family&friends but mre often than not became complete much when just me and my hubby. Their minds will recover in time, it's just at this time things are tough.
Sorry for your family members i hope you've the Macmillan Nurses on board as they can help not just the cancer sufferer but also family and friends.
Other than listening and being available, there is not much more than you can do. For many people that is very important.
Be there for her. Let her know each and every day that you are there to be her shoulder to cry on, to be her ear to listen to, and to give her a hug and kiss to get her through the day. My cousin was diagnosed with brain cancer, and the thing that she has told me that is keeping her positive is support from others. You don't need to tell her it will all be okay, and that it will have a happy ending. Sometimes people need to talk to somebody about what is realistic, and not always sugarcoat everything. And be supportive, if she needs to go spend some nights at the hospital, go with her, or bring her dinner. Or even offer to sit with them for the day/night, to give her a break to go shower & eat. And just be there for her. You and your family are in my prayers. Good luck!