My friend's mum has cancer...?!
Question: My friend's mum has just been diagnosed with bowel cancer which has spread to her liver. Her and her mum are extremely close and I'm crying as I write this as it's all so sad... is there any hope for her?... Is there anything I can do to help my friend? She knows I'm there for her, but we live at opposite ends of the country. From anyone who's been in this situation is there any advice you can offer for something I could do to show how much I care and am thinking of them. It really is horrible. Her mother is such a special person who has had a hard life cause of her husband. Life is just not fair.
Answers: My friend's mum has just been diagnosed with bowel cancer which has spread to her liver. Her and her mum are extremely close and I'm crying as I write this as it's all so sad... is there any hope for her?... Is there anything I can do to help my friend? She knows I'm there for her, but we live at opposite ends of the country. From anyone who's been in this situation is there any advice you can offer for something I could do to show how much I care and am thinking of them. It really is horrible. Her mother is such a special person who has had a hard life cause of her husband. Life is just not fair.
my mum passed away dec 2006 from mallignant mellanoma, i have to say the best thing that you can do is make sure that your friend knows that your there for her at this point, her mom is really ill and although no-one can predict the course this disease takes although the fact that it has spred to the liver in not a good sign, the time your friend will need you the most is after her mum has passed and nothing you say will change how she feels all you need to do is be there for her a shoulder to cry on in her time of need and someone to listen i hope this helps and good luck and god bless
Liver metastases are usually a really bad sign as it means the original cancer has burst and spread throughout the body, the best thing to do is contact a district nursing service and Macmillan cancer support to arrange for counselling and future palliative care.
Best of luck to your friend and her mum.
I'm so sorry for what you and your friend are going through.
What you can do to help - emotional and practical.
Let them both know you are there for them maybe send a card.
Sometimes they may need things doing for them - but of help around the house so suggest you visit regularly and help where you can they may both be very tired. Help with things that may seem silly to you like cleaning can make a big difference.
I hope she gets better soon :-)
ask her to see if she can learn pranic healing. it has some amazing success, when practiced along with regular medication. my aunt and a friend's neighbour were two cases i know off. my aunt didnt even lose hair during her chemotherapy!
its hard to be there without being a nuisance. from my experience the worst time comes after the inevitable happens. then you are really needed
Your right life is crap and not fair, I was diagnosed with cancer at the age of 31 with a five year old to bring up, why? dont know the answers, thankfully (fingers x;d) i have been in remission for 5 years what i can advise is that she is treated at a specialist cancer hospital such as the Royal Marsden where they have the latest ground breaking treatments, a drug called Avastin has been shown to reduce bowel cancer that has spread and sometimes give full or partial remission...also tell her to get on any clinical trials as it has been shown that people who partake in trials fair better than those who do not...dont give up just yet, if it is just in the liver they can do a procedure called liver resection where they take out the cancerous part and the liver is allowed to regenerate by itself.
There is always people that land on good sides of statistics, keep positive, there are some great oncologists out there, have belief, this is not necessarily a death sentence
My love to you all
Ps just wanted to add some uplifting comments i had from my oncologist
"Some cancers are now being treated as a chronic disease, meaning we keep battling it back until you die of something else".....keep those words close
keep contact with your friend
just wanted to send best wishes and love ,take care.
hi !
it's very sad to know about your friend and her mum..
....n im so happy and i'm sure that your friend's very lucky to have u as a friend. i don't have any idea about your situation..but i guess support is what u can give them ! praying for you all.....
Life is not fair at times is it - in fact, it sucks most times doesn't it!
I'm sorry to hear about you friends Mum :(
Unfortunately, it doesn't sound good. As it is spread to her liver, this is known secondary and it will only be down hill from here.
I can understand how upset you are hun, I've got a lump in my throat typing this too.
You just really need to be there for your friend. Some days she could be happy but most days she's gonna be sad. You'l need to listen to her when she needs to talk, hug her when she's feeling down and help her anyway she needs.
I'm sorry the news couldn't be better but it's not worth lying to you.
Good luck & many hugs.