How do you react?!
Question: I started uni last September and met a guy who I didn't really know much about. He told me he had leukemia 2 years ago - I was really surprised because I never knew anyone with cancer and didn't really know how to react...I was overwhelmed with empathy and seeing him in a different light - he was indifferent. It was something he wanted to forget about..
Anyway. He dropped out second term.
I was wondering where he went and he told me his leukemia came back...and I asked him if he was going to be okay - and he disconnected. I haven't talked to him in a month - I didn't really want to dig deep.
However, if a close friend of mine got cancer, I still wouldnt know what to do....I am someone who wants to reach out and hug them and tell them it will be okay but ...it doesn't really feel right if they don't want me to.
Answers: I started uni last September and met a guy who I didn't really know much about. He told me he had leukemia 2 years ago - I was really surprised because I never knew anyone with cancer and didn't really know how to react...I was overwhelmed with empathy and seeing him in a different light - he was indifferent. It was something he wanted to forget about..
Anyway. He dropped out second term.
I was wondering where he went and he told me his leukemia came back...and I asked him if he was going to be okay - and he disconnected. I haven't talked to him in a month - I didn't really want to dig deep.
However, if a close friend of mine got cancer, I still wouldnt know what to do....I am someone who wants to reach out and hug them and tell them it will be okay but ...it doesn't really feel right if they don't want me to.
My best friend has cancer. We were 26 when she was diagnosed. We are now in our 30's and she has had very little time in there where she feels "normal"
As a young person with cancer, but no longer a child, the situation is so hard. Who to reach out to? You don't want to be a burden and don't want to be treated like a sick person all the time.
If you were a passing acquaintance, let it go. If you were part of a same group of pals, send an email ask how he's doing, see if he wants to go to a movie or something
then it is up to him
No, don't tell them it will be okay, because you don't know if it will or not. Let someone talk, but don't hug unless you have that sort of relationship.
just be there for him/her/them
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Treat him exactly the same as you would treat him if he did not have leukemia.
Just be their friend and let them know you want to help them. If you really want to help then let them know your available and they will tell you what they need. When I had cancer I withdrew a lot and had to in order to deal with what I was going through, but I appreciated the real friends who were there for me even if all they did was accept my bad mood or sit with me and let me forget about being a cancer "victim" for awhile. Sometimes you just want to be normal and not have to deal with everybodys sympathy even though you know they mean well