Please, im so scared...?!
Question: um.. well i have had sex once in my life. why didnt i use a condom?! i dont know.. i dont think he broke my cherry tho. i get these red bumps down below but seem to only come when i shave, but they itch like crazy and spread.. im so worried about it. i asked the guy if he had any STD's and he said he goes to the doctors often and he doesnt have one. last month there was a few days i had brown discharge about 10 days after my period! im so scared, do you think i have an STD? sometimes it burns when i pee.. i know i should go to the doctors so i have an appointment for next friday! still in need of advice.. also what exactly do they do at the doctors, does it hurt?!
Answers: um.. well i have had sex once in my life. why didnt i use a condom?! i dont know.. i dont think he broke my cherry tho. i get these red bumps down below but seem to only come when i shave, but they itch like crazy and spread.. im so worried about it. i asked the guy if he had any STD's and he said he goes to the doctors often and he doesnt have one. last month there was a few days i had brown discharge about 10 days after my period! im so scared, do you think i have an STD? sometimes it burns when i pee.. i know i should go to the doctors so i have an appointment for next friday! still in need of advice.. also what exactly do they do at the doctors, does it hurt?!
I agree with the others, but let me say about the guy going to the doctors often: GUYS LIE. Very few guys go to the doctor often, most don't ask to get tested for STD's, and the ones that do don't get tested for all the STDs. So don't believe a guy who says he doesn't have an STD, or that he's never done this before, or he is a virgin, or he's only slept with girls who were virgins, or whatever: always use condoms.
Oh, and if you didn't feel pain, it may have been because your hymen (cherry), was already broken, just through regular activities like gym. If you had intercourse, your cherry is officially broken.
I strongly suggest you get some information about sex before you have it again, like how to use condoms every time and how to insist that guys use them, and what STDs do to you.
As to what the doctor does, she or he will examine you by checking your blood pressure and pulse, having you stand on a scale, asking about your family medical history. You need to say that you're now sexually active and are concerned about disease. S/he will look in your vagina and use a cotton swab to take a sample, called a pap smear, and may also take blood to test for HIV and other diseases. It doesn't hurt, although it can feel uncomfortable. If you see a male doctor, ask that a nurse or your mom be present in the room, and that will make it easier for you to feel comfortable.
The brown discharge after your period is probably normal. It is just flushing out stuff that was left over after your period but didn't come out at first.
The red bumps that come only after you shave is normal as well. You irritate the hair follicles when you shaved. Are you using shaving gel? If not then you should so that you don't get irritated as easily. The itchiness also happens after you shave sometimes. You can try to put some lotion on the area to stop the itching.
The burning sensation when you pee could be from a urinary tract infection...which can happen without sex.
If you are still worried you can always see a doctor, but I highly doubt that you have an STD.
First, calm down. You'll be fine. What you describe the bumps could have always been there, but now that you've had sex you're noticing. Oh, and they always say that. My ex fiance was clean as a whistle... HA! The burning when you pee is likely just a UTI. For the future, pee before AND after sex, even if its only a little. The brown discharge is the only part of your entry that mgiht be cause for concern, but then your body just experienced something new, so it could be nothing. It's good that you're going to get checked, but really I think you're fine.
And let this be a lesson for you: USE A CONDOM EVERY TIME. I didn't, and now I have herpes to show for it.
1) the bumps are probably from shaving-it's called razor burn. Try using something for sensitive skin next time you shave and use a moisturizer afterward
2) The brown discharge is just a little more blood left inside after your period. It's ok. When blood sits longer than normal, it gets brown. Drink a little more water to help flush out the blood.
3) The burning when you pee copuld be a UTI, it could be irritation from your soap or detergent, or it could be lack of water and too much caffiene. Like I said, drink a little more water.
4) Depending on what you tell the doctor, the most you will have to is pee in a cup.