What is the chance that I caught HIV?!
Question: I had an HIV test done in the first week of March 2008. I waited a week for the results and it seemed to be the longest week of my life. Couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, etc. I got my results and they came back HIV negative. This made me very happy.
My boyfriend has been begging me to have unprotected sex for months and I refused. He claims to be clean, yet he never answers me when I ask when he had his HIV test done. We had sex 2 days ago and he again asked me to have unprotected sex. I said no again. To make a long story short, sometime during sex, he took the condom off and I didn't notice it until I felt it against my foot. I immediately told him to stop and I left the room upset. He asked why I was mad and then said "Didn't that feel better"?
I'm about 99% sure that I will be breaking up with him because of this. I don't know how long the condom was off and I'm worried that I could have caught something. What are my chances?
Answers: I had an HIV test done in the first week of March 2008. I waited a week for the results and it seemed to be the longest week of my life. Couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, etc. I got my results and they came back HIV negative. This made me very happy.
My boyfriend has been begging me to have unprotected sex for months and I refused. He claims to be clean, yet he never answers me when I ask when he had his HIV test done. We had sex 2 days ago and he again asked me to have unprotected sex. I said no again. To make a long story short, sometime during sex, he took the condom off and I didn't notice it until I felt it against my foot. I immediately told him to stop and I left the room upset. He asked why I was mad and then said "Didn't that feel better"?
I'm about 99% sure that I will be breaking up with him because of this. I don't know how long the condom was off and I'm worried that I could have caught something. What are my chances?
break up with him, that was so inconsiderate and decietful. you are doing all you can to protect yourself and he should respect that. He has no way to know if he is clean unless he's done tests so why is he refusing?
get tested for STD's and in 3 months for hiv. then in 6 months retest. I am sure you will do that based on your question, so i will tell you that even if he has HIV that doesn't mean you will get it from that one time exposure and even less because he didn't finish.
your chances are higher for other STD's (which can get transmitted through skin to skin contact) than for HIV.
get him out of your life and continue to take your same precations with any other bf. you have to take care of yourself and your body and a congratulate you for your behavior. I wish all females were like you.
OMG that's ridiculous...he tried to have sex with you, unprotected, without your consent? Yea...I'd definitely break up with him...(well, I'm a guy, but you know what I mean...)
If he's so "clean" why doesn't he just get tested, just to make you happy? Makes no sense...
i think ur just paranoid... but good job dumping him!! you should seriously realax, especially if ur test came out negative. im sure you dont have anythign!
its alot easier for a woman to get infected than a man because a womans genitals is a giant mucous membrane, while the guy has a little tiny hole for the virus to get into. otherwise i think the hiv antibodies shows up 3 months after contact, so if your really that paranoid, waith 3 months and take it...
theres an hiv test called Oraquick, and they swap your mouth and its over 99% effective in testing hiv antibodies and RNA and you get your test results in 20 minutes... go to cdi.gov for more info
I do not know what your chances of infection are, but I must say that your boyfriend is an ignorant jerk. Knowing how strongly you felt about this he went against your wishes in a selfish, careless manner.
My advice would be to refrain from sexual relations for some time, and get retested in a month and then in another several months. Hopefully you will be fine and free from infection.
The boy in question has taken great liberty with you, your body, and your sense of security and well-being. He will most likely try all kinds of ways to win back your affection. You should be strong and go on with your life and be happy. You seem like an intelligent person with a strong sense of integrity and human values. You will find in the future a soulmate you can love and TRUST, who will care as much for you as he does for himself. I will pray for you.
Here's the deal. You are at square one again. You could go get another baseline test (but this recent encounter won't show up in the blood for possible 6 mos.) You need to practice abstinence/safe sex and get a repeat HIV test 6 mos from the time you had sex with the boyfriend, and then and only then, can you safely say you are negative. After that, value your HIV negative status and protect it. It is like gold. It's your life. Oh and avoid guys like your boyfriend.
I think if you think he's clean he might just be but, if he is, there's still that chance you might have caught something like pregnancy, your chances of this are very good.
If your BF is this devious I would let him go, you never know what he might pull next.
even if he is HIV negative he was still in the wrong you toOK and gave your self to this man he had a condom on so you trusted him to keep it on and he took it off with out your ok and with out you knowing that's not right, so yeah id get tested and the chances id say 50/50 i guess.
Wow, well not wearing a condom only benefits the guy, so selfish on his part. If a guy won't have that STD talk with me, and believe me it's a terrifying notion, my past is rather checkered, I don't trust them either. Follow your gut, instinct is all about survival. If something tells you this is wrong, follow that. Humanity has been conditioned to have an incredably strong sense of instinct about disease. And no you can't spot HIV in a person. But in a lot of cases that instinct is there to protect us, listen to it.
First off, there shouldn't be any doubt that you need to break up with this guy. He's putting your health at risk for his own sexual pleasure and you need to get rid of him.
Any guy that isn't open with you about his sexual history and then pulls that crap needs to be kicked to the curb, and this guy sounds like scum that would give you gonorrhea or something and think nothing of it.
Second, your chances of catching something depends upon whether or not he ejaculated inside you and whether he has any open sores or symptoms of a flare-up of an STD.
If you think you've been exposed, Go to your doctor right now!
Explain to your GP what has happened and ask if he can give you a course of PEP, Pep is retroviral treatment that can delay/stop the hiv virus from becoming infectious, but studies show it must be started within 72 hour of potential exposure! but there are no garuntee's.
Also, You dont have to wait 6 months. 3 Months is considered safe for an accurate diagnosis.
First of all I want to congratulate you for being smart. You should dump your b/f because he has no respect for you and has no right to impose unnecessary risk on you.
The people on here that are telling you to relax or that you're paranoid lack foresight.... diseases such as AIDS don't give second chances and are caught by taking risks with unprotected sex.
You've figured out that you are responsible to take care of yourself and that's a responsibility that you can't take lightly.
F**K THAT DIRTBAG! look how much he's feenin for it raw that he will deceive you to get it! god knows how many other girls he has done this to! He has no regard for his safety or yours. Take it from me, RUN while you still have a clean bill of health or youll regret it for life.
girl kiss his *** to the curb..don't let them tell you crap about them being clean without you knowing for sure .I will be praying for you that you are clean ...best of luck!