Herpes & relationship?!
Question: I started a new relationship with this guy i had met, and we recently became sexually active, and i made him go get tested. I had been tested not too long before that, so i knewi was clean. He found out that he has herpes, and that the doctor said it was one of the more simpler strains. He's never had any symptoms or outbreaks.
I was just wondering how i deal with this? I know i have to get tested, but he's scared to be with anyone right now, but i really want to be with him. Is there any advice for being with a person who has herpes? Please, anything would help.
Answers: I started a new relationship with this guy i had met, and we recently became sexually active, and i made him go get tested. I had been tested not too long before that, so i knewi was clean. He found out that he has herpes, and that the doctor said it was one of the more simpler strains. He's never had any symptoms or outbreaks.
I was just wondering how i deal with this? I know i have to get tested, but he's scared to be with anyone right now, but i really want to be with him. Is there any advice for being with a person who has herpes? Please, anything would help.
Without an outbreak, they must have done a blood test. So you don't know where in his body he has herpes.
50% to 80% of all adults have oral herpes. They catch it in childhood from kissing relatives. I'm not sure what "one of the simpler strains" is, but if it means that he's got HSV1, one of the most COMMON types, then I wouldn't worry about it at all. It's so incredibly common that it's not worth worrying about. And half the people that you will date will have it. Just don't have oral sex when he has a cold sore (if he ever has them).
I'd suggest that he find out what "type" of herpes he has (HSV1 or HSV2). If its HSV1, then I wouldn't worry about it at all. And for the sake of space, I won't go into detail about HSV2. First, find out what you are dealing with here.
For more information on herpes types, testing, transmission, etc. I'd strongly recommend checking out the website below. It will have very reliable information for you.
Good luck.
EDIT - If he's never had an outbreak, then they MUST have done a blood test. A swab test can only be done on an active sore. Sorry that I wasn't clearer about that in my original answer.
run!!!!!
Dear, I think u should talk to him and tell him that u love him, and u want to accept him the way that he is. With or without stupid herpes. If he talk with his doctor, the doctor should tell him that he should take Valtrex, so that the risk will be only 3% a year to you. Don't forget to tell him to read and get information about. He justa has herpes, not hiv. This is not the worst thing of the world and, his penis will not fell off, much less he will die! lol take it eazy
Herpes is so common and you don't need to worry about it. If your guy has herpes, you must can find his profile info on the huge herpes social site called pozcupid .com. Use condom.
CONDOM, CONDOM,CONDOM. If he has herpes, you can contract it even if he is not experiencing an outbreak at the time of your intimacy. And remember this - HERPES IS FOR LIFE. THERE IS NO CURE. Any baby born to an infected mother may be brain damaged if delivered vaginally when experiencing an outbreak. Any baby born to a mother with herpes has to be delivered by cesarean section.
Well, first of all let me commend you for wanting to stay with him because a lot of people probably would have left the minute they found out. You just have to protect yourself by using condoms whenever he has an outbreak or feels unsure about it & he has to take medication (Valtrex) to keep from passing it on to you as well. Also when it comes to kissing make sure that he doesn't have any cold sores or bumps. Lots of luck !
First, tell that first girl to shut up. Second, I just found out I have it and haven't told my bf yet. When I do, I'm praying to won't leave me. But when I tell him, I'm coming armed with information. I'll share with you the links I'm going to give him. Just inform yourself and you'll be fine. If he takes his medicine and pay attention, you have a less than 1% chance of getting it. It will be fine.
PS your man really needs your support right now, so make sure you tell him you care for him and you got his back no matter what.
http://www.ashastd.org/herpes/herpes_lea...
http://www.natap.org/2004/jan/010504_13....
u can still have a relationship even if they have hsv1 or hsv2. just take some precautions when he has cold sores, he may even tell u if he feels one breaking out. even while having symptoms they could be passed on. like no sharing utensils, drinks, no oral sex or kissing, while he has cold sores. herpes are really common to have about 80% of the population has them just don't treat them any different then how u treat them now. there realy isn't a simpler strain, herpes is herpes and they are not curable.