I feel pathetic............let alone stupid for asking this but, umm...yea.?!
Question: One of my "extened" family memebers mother is dying. she's been sick for a while now. She's got some kind of blood infection that isn't curable, she's on a feeding tube as well... Unfortunately idk much of anything else. She is a sweet lady, and in many ways reminds me of my grandmother.
Anyhow; i got off the phone with my friend/extened family memeber and he told my mother hat his mother's home health aid nurse had told him that when HOSPICE was at the mothers home they told the nurse that she wasn't going to make it through the night. They have her on morphine every hour, and according to the nurse, jis mother has begun the "death rattle". My grandmother had emphezima and she too had/went through the death rattle but i was only nine at the time so i don't really understand much about it. (I've "blocked' it from my memory). So with all this info, and some added pointless info i am asking to see if anyone has an idea about how long until her suffering will end?!?! any nurses,
Answers: One of my "extened" family memebers mother is dying. she's been sick for a while now. She's got some kind of blood infection that isn't curable, she's on a feeding tube as well... Unfortunately idk much of anything else. She is a sweet lady, and in many ways reminds me of my grandmother.
Anyhow; i got off the phone with my friend/extened family memeber and he told my mother hat his mother's home health aid nurse had told him that when HOSPICE was at the mothers home they told the nurse that she wasn't going to make it through the night. They have her on morphine every hour, and according to the nurse, jis mother has begun the "death rattle". My grandmother had emphezima and she too had/went through the death rattle but i was only nine at the time so i don't really understand much about it. (I've "blocked' it from my memory). So with all this info, and some added pointless info i am asking to see if anyone has an idea about how long until her suffering will end?!?! any nurses,
This may sound really off the wall, but pray for her.. do you know her name? Sit and ask God to send her angels to her and for them to take her home.
I am 41, and I am not religious though because of my many many spiritual encounters through life, "as well as my 13 yr old daughter who has this same thing", I do believe the best thing you can do to help her is to pray...
Let me give you an example, I was always one who when someone would say "I will pray for you" I would blow a berry, like yeah, right, sure. Prayers.
But as I got older, I took that a little more seriously and then one night when I found out my father's cousin was beginning to suffer from stomach cancer, she had 2 weeks to live according to hospice, I grabbed my beloved grandmothers bible and I sat and asked that her angels come see her home, that she didn't deserve to suffer. I was not close with my father's cousin, and they are all in their upper 60's to 70's what is left of his family. But I knew her enough to know how nice she was. I felt helpless.
The next evening I was trying to get to sleep, I often struggle to fall asleep easily. I saw her from the neck up, my eyes were closed, and there she was like a tv screen, nodding and smiling, she appeared younger, like a negative from a picture, lots of white surrounding her, my mind thought "Thank you for praying for me" telepathic they call it, her lips never moved when I thought this but it was as if she was saying that to me. She disappeared. I sat up, poked my husband asking if he was awake, told him what happened and that I thought I was losing my mind. Never of all the experiences did I ever have one like that. Made no sense since she hadn't died.
That morning my mother called to inform me that Darlene died through the night, I asked what time and it was within the hour that I saw her.
In addition, my mother has Parkinson's Disease, and my best friend Joe, his dad had PD as well. I loved Joes dad like I love my own, and I went to visit him, I walked in and kissed his forehead as I always did, he was so cute, he was in his 80's sitting in his chair with a baseball cap, tee shirt, jeans and sneakers, cute as could be. I held his hand and asked how he was, and he said "Karen, I want to go" I said "Why" he said "I had enough and I am not well, I ask God to take me home, he won't listen, but I know he will listen to you, will you talk to him for me?" I said "if that is what you want, I promise I will ask him for you". He said "yes, I can't do this anymore".
That night, I kept my promise, knowing what will come of it, feeling sad that Joe and his mother would have to part with him, but I had to honor Joes dad, out of love for him, and respect, I had to. I asked God to send his angels, I explained that I didn't want Joe to lose his dad, or his mom to lose her husband, but that he is not well and just can't do this anymore.
Joes dad was taken to the hospital suddenly within 2 days after that, and died by the 3rd to 4th day.
So even if you doubt you can do this for that wonderful sweet lady, you can. Just pray, ask that God send her angels to come get her and I would bet you will hear the victory in heaven when she gets there, and a huge spiritual thank you.
I thank you for being such a kind hearted selfless beautiful person that you are, to not even know this woman and to give your heart so generously. You are one special lady!
Be proud and please, pray for her.
Tons of love and mega hugs to you, your friend and her mother.
Karen
it depends on how long her life is suppose to be
God gives life and takes life away
if she is eating and drinking maybe sometime
if not 10 days or less maybe
no one really knows
Sweetie it just depends on God and what he has planed They called hospice in for my grandmother about 3 week b4 her passing the called us all in at 7:30 on night and they had started her on morphine about 2-3 weeks before that to keep her comffy! She passed at 12:o2 am that morning you could tell she was in pain and it was hard to stand there and watch but we would all gather around her and talk to her sing to her and just rub her head or hold her hand and that seem to calm things abit she did not know what was going on but it all just depends how long she had been fighting with the illness and whe God see's fit to bring her home! Good luck to you and your family rember to relie on god during this time
Generally if you are on morphine every hour depending on the dose of course you are going to die fairly quickly. Though I have seen some people live for a week in that condition.