Griefmy father?!
Question: Griefmy father!?
my father passed away on monday im heartbroken and my mum is to he was taken into hospital 3 weeks ago with headaches wasnt well since last november but we didnt think it was anything serios he didnt look well he had all sorts of tests they finally told us in canterbury that it was lymphoma of the brain his vision in one eye had blacked over anyway from canterbury he weas sent to kings college in london from there he developed a chest infection which he had a mask and then he was sent to one to one care 2 days later he was sent to intensive care he had to have a pipe going from his throat to make him breathe better he couldnt communicate his voice had gone anyway we were visiying him in london every day me and my mum stayed sat morning we had call from hospital could we go straight to london my dad had a massive heart attack and was being resusated we stayed with him all the time i dont knowif he could hear us talking to him it was heartbreaking knowing my dad would never come home hWww@Answer-Health@Com
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I know how you feel, I lost my father years ago and it was unexpected as well!. Oh yes, I believe that my father has gone on to a better place!.
When I envision him he's playing baseball sliding on clouds, or chatting with his parents that have already passed, or playing with his siblings that already passed!.
Believe it or not, we are worse off then they are!. We get left here to cry and grieve, and make arrangements, it is so hard!.
The body is gone but the love and the spirit live on forever!.
The one thing I realized is that you have to realize what you had not what you lost!. Because what you had remains in your heart forever!.
Another thing I'll tell you, they come to you!. It took my dad a while because he tried to console my mom first!. The day after the funeral she said in a dream he came down the hall, kissed her on the cheek, and told her everything was going to be okay!. Isn't that the sweetest thing!.
Later I got mad, asking why he wasn't coming to me, he finally did in my dreams!. I know a lot of people think I'm crazy but every now and then the phones rings just one time out of the blue, and I know it's him!.
You'll get through this!. And remember how lucky and blessed you are to have had a great dad in your life!. Some people do not get that special gift!.
~God Bless~Www@Answer-Health@Com
When I envision him he's playing baseball sliding on clouds, or chatting with his parents that have already passed, or playing with his siblings that already passed!.
Believe it or not, we are worse off then they are!. We get left here to cry and grieve, and make arrangements, it is so hard!.
The body is gone but the love and the spirit live on forever!.
The one thing I realized is that you have to realize what you had not what you lost!. Because what you had remains in your heart forever!.
Another thing I'll tell you, they come to you!. It took my dad a while because he tried to console my mom first!. The day after the funeral she said in a dream he came down the hall, kissed her on the cheek, and told her everything was going to be okay!. Isn't that the sweetest thing!.
Later I got mad, asking why he wasn't coming to me, he finally did in my dreams!. I know a lot of people think I'm crazy but every now and then the phones rings just one time out of the blue, and I know it's him!.
You'll get through this!. And remember how lucky and blessed you are to have had a great dad in your life!. Some people do not get that special gift!.
~God Bless~Www@Answer-Health@Com
So deeply sorry for your loss!. It isn't fair, and your pain is probably unspeakable right now!. He most definitely is in a better place, and I'm sure he wants the best for you!. So keep his memory alive, and make him proud!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It seems to be a very true saying that only the good die young!.
It sounds like your dad was a wonderful man, and my condolences go out to you and all your family!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It sounds like your dad was a wonderful man, and my condolences go out to you and all your family!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
you have myu sympathy!.
I am sure he is much happier nowWww@Answer-Health@Com
I am sure he is much happier nowWww@Answer-Health@Com
The grief you describe just shows what a fantastic man your dad must have been!. I am so sorry for your loss!. I lost my brother 4 years ago in similar circumstances - he had non hodgkins lymphoma!. I still miss him every day and struggled at first to cope but the saying 'time is a healer' really is true!. It doesnt heal but does dull the pain a bit!. Personally I do believe in life after death and I swear my brother visits us (just through things that have happened that only he used to do)!. I'm sure your dad will walk beside you - just look for the signs !. Also, your dad would have heard you in those last moments!. When my brother was going the doctors told us to keep talking to him as the hearing is the last of the senses to go!. xxxxWww@Answer-Health@Com
I cannot imagine the pain you're feeling right now!. But I don't believe your dad would want you to be sad!. I believe that he is in a better place and is looking over you right now!.
I've thougth about how I would like my own family to face my death!. I woiuld love to have the following on my tombstone because I find it comforting when considering my own passing!.
(by Mary Elizabeth Frye)
Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep!.
I am in a thousand winds that blow,
I am the softly falling snow!.
I am the gentle showers of rain,
I am the fields of ripening grain!.
I am in the morning hush,
I am in the graceful rush
Of beautiful birds in circling flight,
I am the starshine of the night!.
I am in the flowers that bloom,
I am in a quiet room!.
I am in the birds that sing,
I am in each lovely thing!.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there!. I do not die!.
I hope this helps a little!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I've thougth about how I would like my own family to face my death!. I woiuld love to have the following on my tombstone because I find it comforting when considering my own passing!.
(by Mary Elizabeth Frye)
Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep!.
I am in a thousand winds that blow,
I am the softly falling snow!.
I am the gentle showers of rain,
I am the fields of ripening grain!.
I am in the morning hush,
I am in the graceful rush
Of beautiful birds in circling flight,
I am the starshine of the night!.
I am in the flowers that bloom,
I am in a quiet room!.
I am in the birds that sing,
I am in each lovely thing!.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there!. I do not die!.
I hope this helps a little!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i am so sorry for you and your mum its so heartbreaking when things happen so fast you did the right thing talking to him to the last we were always taught that the hearing is one of the last senses to go at a time least your dad would know he was loved and at least you had time to say your goodbyes i never had that chance as my father died on his own of a massive heart attack you would not want him lingering when he could not communicate my husband is dying with lung cancer he is only half the man he was i hope when he comes towards the end he will go quickly and peacefully now when leaving any of my close family i tell them i love them so that each of us will know if any thing happens how we feel to save any regrets think of good times and your memories of him to see you through the hard times i wish you luck time will take away the tears and you will laugh again take careWww@Answer-Health@Com
I am not sure if this will comfort you, and hopefully, it will, because I know that I am much more comfortable knowing the truth and then going from there!. For one, a recent study reveiled that an average of 287 Chemicals are present in the umbilical cords of newborns (this is of "average women ") !.Over 80 of those are known carcinogens! Even though we have a healthy lifestyle and eat "well" etc!. We are STILL exposed to toxic chemicals daily directly from the air we breath, water we drink and food we eat!. There was another study that just concluded that jet fuel is present in ALL mother's milk!.!.!.even from people living in the jungle away from civilization!. The sample was taken from woman ALL around the world!. Your dear father just did not know how many toxins he was being bombarded with (even BEFORE he was born) and how to safely clean the body of these harmful substances!. We are ALL in his boat now, and more so because of global warming and continued use of chemicals worldwide!. I am going to gift your family with information that will help those surviving and continue to keep you well for many, MANY years to come!. Please research the following sites and contact me if you wish through the sharethecause site!. I am very interested in spreading the word about these state of the art "nutraceuticals" that are helping people completely heal from the most horrible of medical problems (that mostly are caused by toxic overload according to the AMA)! I know you did not realize this, but hospitals and Dr!.s themselves Kill more than cancer and automoblie accidents alone!. There are many books that educate people about going to "Drs!." and the dangers of this!. With your Long Life of TRUE Health and Wellbeing in mind and heart, Liz!.Www@Answer-Health@Com