I really like a guy, but he has genital herpes. please help!?!
Question: I really like a guy, but he has genital herpes!. please help!!?
He's a great guy, i adore him!. He told me after a 2 months of getting to know him!. i still like him, but i cannot deal with the herpes situation!. i want to get away from him, but i feel guilty about it!. i'm going to stop picking up his calls, am i messed up!? I've been honest about the way i feel about things!.
i don't want to tell my friends because i don't think they'll understand the way i feel!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i don't want to tell my friends because i don't think they'll understand the way i feel!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Its your personal choice that only you can make!. No one here can make that choice for you or tell you if its the right one to make!. I had to make the same choice!. I chose to date him, I now have HSV1 on my genitals!. I dont regret my choice and I would make the same one again!. But if you dont feel its a risk you want to take then dont take it!. But be honest with him!. He was honest with you!. He deserves that from you!. Dont tell your friends!. Its not your place to tell anyone about his STD!. That is his choice, not yours!. Let him have his privacy!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I am not sure how you feel since me like others who here have posted am on the other side!. All I can say is please just tell him that you are not sure you can handle it!. Just be honest about it like he was with you!. It is a big deal and it is a big deal for others who live with it!. Having to wonder every time you start dating if they are going to stay around after you tell them about having H!. All I want to say is that it is a personal choice and you have to make it!. Either you can deal with it and learn more about it or tell him sorry and move on!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
you have to decide whats more important to you--not having sex with condoms or a chance to have an emotional relationship and gain a new friend!. If hes a great guy, it should not matter that much!. I know it is scary but people with illness need love too!. If you chose to not go further in the relationship, I would definately make it seem like you guys are friends and not lead eachother on!. You're being honest, and that is great!. Maybe you should talk to him about it or learn the possible risks of dating/ sex with someone with herpes (so you know what precautions to take)!. I wish you good luck!. and btw, you guys can be friends but not take it further
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There's nothing wrong with his STD being a deal breaker for you!. I'd tell him the truth, though!. Say that you appreciate his honesty, especially since so many people neglect to tell their sex partners about STDs, but that you are not willing to have a relationship and an eventual sex life with a person who has an incurable sexual disease!. If he continues to call you after that, then you're within your right to stop answering his phone calls!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I thin kit was a great choice that he made in telling you he had Herpes!. Not every guy out there is decent enough to let you know!. Be glad he didn't have unprotected sex with you and pass it on to you!. I don't think that you should stop talking to him because of his STD!. You can still be with him and as long as you use condoms and he takes his medication, you won't have to worry about anything!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You actually found a guy that is HONEST!?!? I wouldn't hold this against him!.!. herpes outbreaks can be controled!.!.not to mention the percentage of people who have herpes is very high! You'll probably end up catching it sometime in your life anyways!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
my opion leave !. if you have kids they can be born with it better hurt now rather than pain later!. my opion/Www@Answer-Health@Com
I just went through the same situation that he's in!. I have herpes simplex 1!. I dated a girl for three weeks, everything was going great!. Good times, kissing, affectionate, movies, wine!. Then I drop the H bomb on her!. She took it hard and now we're not together anymore!. I'd say look up information about herpes, because you might be misinformed about it, as many people are!. There are ways of preventing herpes by using protection and taking medications, which lower the rate to about 2%!. Even with out protection and no out breaks the chances of you getting herpes is 10%!. If you care about this guy as much as you do, you'll see past this small infection which is not life threatening but more of a annoyance!.
I'm sure the guy is going through hell right now, I know I was and I still am recovering from a rejection only people with herpes can ever feel!. The social stigma of herpes is negative!. Did you know that cold sore and canker sore are herpes!? Chicken pock are a for of herpes, but you didn't know that!
You have to sit down with him and talk to him about his condition!. He told you because he wants a open, trusting relationship with you!. He could have kept his mouth shut and said nothing!. At least he knows he has herpes and you can take precautions to not getting!. Most people don't even know they have it, I'd rather know my partner has it and take the steps to protect myself than not know and think that I'm safe because I don't know!.
Would you not date someone that has diabetes!? Diabetes is more life threatening than herpes!.
Check this website out, read forums and ask questions from people with herpes!.
http://www!.herpes-coldsores!.com/messagef!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'm sure the guy is going through hell right now, I know I was and I still am recovering from a rejection only people with herpes can ever feel!. The social stigma of herpes is negative!. Did you know that cold sore and canker sore are herpes!? Chicken pock are a for of herpes, but you didn't know that!
You have to sit down with him and talk to him about his condition!. He told you because he wants a open, trusting relationship with you!. He could have kept his mouth shut and said nothing!. At least he knows he has herpes and you can take precautions to not getting!. Most people don't even know they have it, I'd rather know my partner has it and take the steps to protect myself than not know and think that I'm safe because I don't know!.
Would you not date someone that has diabetes!? Diabetes is more life threatening than herpes!.
Check this website out, read forums and ask questions from people with herpes!.
http://www!.herpes-coldsores!.com/messagef!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com