How does one tell their children they are going to die of cancer?!
Question: How does one tell their children they are going to die of cancer!?
I'm only curious as someone I know could have to do just that!.
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I faced this question myself!. I have 5 children with the age range of 3-13!. When I was diagnosed I thought about not telling them anything!. I did that for the first bit!. I had my surgery and I could see that by me telling the kids that mom was sick and needed to have this done to make her better wasn't cutting it, especially when I had to re-enter the hospital for treatment!.
I asked my doctor what he thought about it and he told me that I really should talk with my children about it!. I handled it differently with the ages!. I told the older ones in more detail about what I was sick with, what the procedures were for and what the outcome might be!. The younger ones, I explained it as simply as I could!. I merely told them, that the cancer were bad guys and the doctors were helping mommy to get rid of all the bad guys in my body!. This helped them understand why mommy was in the hospital!.
I remember getting home afterwards and my youngest daughter asking me if the doctors took all the bad guys away!. I couldn't help but smile and tell her, I sure hope so!.
The best thing you can do is tell them honestly!.
Depending on the ages of your children!.
My second son, told me that he wished I never told him anything!.!. that he couldn't handle it!. He was old enough to completely understand but didn't want to!. My youngest daughter understood and was thankful I told her!.
There are so many support groups out there for parents that are going through the same thing you are!.
I wish you all the best!.!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I asked my doctor what he thought about it and he told me that I really should talk with my children about it!. I handled it differently with the ages!. I told the older ones in more detail about what I was sick with, what the procedures were for and what the outcome might be!. The younger ones, I explained it as simply as I could!. I merely told them, that the cancer were bad guys and the doctors were helping mommy to get rid of all the bad guys in my body!. This helped them understand why mommy was in the hospital!.
I remember getting home afterwards and my youngest daughter asking me if the doctors took all the bad guys away!. I couldn't help but smile and tell her, I sure hope so!.
The best thing you can do is tell them honestly!.
Depending on the ages of your children!.
My second son, told me that he wished I never told him anything!.!. that he couldn't handle it!. He was old enough to completely understand but didn't want to!. My youngest daughter understood and was thankful I told her!.
There are so many support groups out there for parents that are going through the same thing you are!.
I wish you all the best!.!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Instead of saying, "I'm going to die of cancer," I would be open and honest about it!. I would tell them that I have cancer and it's possible that I will be very sick!. Answer their questions as simply and honestly as possible, but do it in a matter of fact kind of way!. Do your best to keep a positive attitude, but be honest and let them know you are scared and you really don't know exactly what will happen!. If they ask if you are going to die, explain that some people have died from cancer, but a lot of people have lived!. Prepare them this way for the possiblity, but instead of focusing on death and the bad things that can happen, focus on positive things: I'm going to keep on loving you through all of this!. I'm going to take the medicine and do what I can to be as healthy as I can!. I will appreciate the help you can give me, and enjoy the time we spend together!. Just be open and honest, but try not to focus on death!. Good luck to the person you know who might have to have this kind of conversation with his or her children!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
The most difficult thing I ever had to do in my whole life was tell my sons that I had cancer!. I did not tell them I was going to die from cancer tho!. I told them I was going to fight and do what I could to survive cancer!. My adult sons are my strength!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
maybe they dont need to be burdened with that, and just be able to enjoy their last few weeks as much as they can!. kids cnat understand death anyways!.but if you feel that he needs to know, i would tell him/her that they will be able to go to a paradise and see their grandparent or some relative that has died, if there is one!. im so sorry to hear this!. good luck i will pray for you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com