If you have herpes i have a question for u?!
Question: If you have herpes i have a question for u!?
so if u have herpes do u tell the person u r getting to know that u have genital herpes b4 getting into a relationship or do u wait until the time comes for u both to getsexually involved!?!? n when u do tell this person, say b4 getting into a relationship, does that person act differently towards u!.!. how do they usually react in ur experience!?!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
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I dont see any need to tell anyone right off the bat!. I also dont see any need to jump right into bed with them!. Having herpes makes us so very aware of how easy it is to catch something!.
When I do start to feel like someone I've been dating and getting to know could be worth sharing my bed with, instead of just saying "this is what I have, do you still like me!?" I ask them when and if they've ever been tested for std's!. Do they get cold sores!? That is herpes type 1!. If they say they have been tested, I ask if they also got the separate hsv2 test, because it's not included 99% of the time you ask to be tested for std's!. I also educate them that it takes about 4 months after exposure for you to test positive for std's with the blood tests they do!. So, if they've had unprotected sex within the last four months - they can't be sure they havent caught something!. Based on this discussion, I'll either decide to stop dating them because of their risky behavior or attitude about it, or if it goes well I'll proceed with telling them I have hsv2!. If they havent been tested I will encourage them to do so!.
Never, ever, wait to have this discussion when things are hot and heavy! That's too late! It should be discussed without either party being drunk!. Some men/women will say anything they need to just to get laid!. These people could likely have another std that I dont want to catch, so I'm very cautious about someone who sleeps around!.
As far as people acting differently towards you when they find out, I havent really found that to be the case, perhaps because of the way I bring the subject up!. Some people are immature and will have a knee-jerk reaction when they dont even know for sure that they dont have it!. I dont know the percentage, but there are many with herpes type 1 or 2 that have never had an outbreak!. They could be spreading it and not believe someone who says they gave them herpes!. Denial at it's worst!.
Bottom line: there are about 25% of the population with this std!. That's 1 out of 4 people!. I have met people who dont have it and are fine with dating me, especially since there is suppressive medication to help keep you from passing it to someone else!. It's not the end of the world, there is still a healthy sex life available to all!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
When I do start to feel like someone I've been dating and getting to know could be worth sharing my bed with, instead of just saying "this is what I have, do you still like me!?" I ask them when and if they've ever been tested for std's!. Do they get cold sores!? That is herpes type 1!. If they say they have been tested, I ask if they also got the separate hsv2 test, because it's not included 99% of the time you ask to be tested for std's!. I also educate them that it takes about 4 months after exposure for you to test positive for std's with the blood tests they do!. So, if they've had unprotected sex within the last four months - they can't be sure they havent caught something!. Based on this discussion, I'll either decide to stop dating them because of their risky behavior or attitude about it, or if it goes well I'll proceed with telling them I have hsv2!. If they havent been tested I will encourage them to do so!.
Never, ever, wait to have this discussion when things are hot and heavy! That's too late! It should be discussed without either party being drunk!. Some men/women will say anything they need to just to get laid!. These people could likely have another std that I dont want to catch, so I'm very cautious about someone who sleeps around!.
As far as people acting differently towards you when they find out, I havent really found that to be the case, perhaps because of the way I bring the subject up!. Some people are immature and will have a knee-jerk reaction when they dont even know for sure that they dont have it!. I dont know the percentage, but there are many with herpes type 1 or 2 that have never had an outbreak!. They could be spreading it and not believe someone who says they gave them herpes!. Denial at it's worst!.
Bottom line: there are about 25% of the population with this std!. That's 1 out of 4 people!. I have met people who dont have it and are fine with dating me, especially since there is suppressive medication to help keep you from passing it to someone else!. It's not the end of the world, there is still a healthy sex life available to all!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I dont date anymore, it ruined my life, I would hate to give it to somebody else, so I just keep it to myself!. If a girl talks to me and shows real interest, then I would probably tell her right from the start, because she is entitled to walk away at that point if she wants to, I shouldnt have t explain the disease to her, and if she is so close minded to walk away at that point, she wouldnt have been the right person for me anyways!. If she wants to listen first, then judge, then I know that she will understand!. So far its been a year, no date, no sex, no life, thanks herpes!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i had to tell my boyfriend at the time but we were already having sex, so i got herpes from him cause he was the only one i was with for 11/2 years!. i had ended a relationship 2 years before that!. he didn't know or was in denial of what herpes is!.
i don't think u should tell them on the first date but definatly when u start thinking your going to have sex with this person!.
my boyfriend was shocked and surprised, but ok with it!. i told him to get tested!. then found out that he has herpes too so guess who i got it from in the first place, when i heard symptoms usually show up within a month of being with an infected person!. i am still with my current boyfriend (and hopefully getting married when we are out of debt) but i wonder if we broke up who would accept me for having herpes!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i don't think u should tell them on the first date but definatly when u start thinking your going to have sex with this person!.
my boyfriend was shocked and surprised, but ok with it!. i told him to get tested!. then found out that he has herpes too so guess who i got it from in the first place, when i heard symptoms usually show up within a month of being with an infected person!. i am still with my current boyfriend (and hopefully getting married when we are out of debt) but i wonder if we broke up who would accept me for having herpes!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Its a given that you should tell them and if your really serious about this person you should want them to know!.!.!.If you respect them enough to tell you they should respect you enough to except!.!.!.but Im not saying can tell you how this will effect your relationship!.!.!.just being honest!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com