If i marry a girl who has herpes, is it inevitable that i will get it?!


Question: If i marry a girl who has herpes, is it inevitable that i will get it!?
i dont have herpes!. she has HSV-2!. she's only had one outbreak EVER (over a year ago), and since taking Valtrex shes never had another one!. if i have un-protected sex with her or give/receive oral sex, will i definitely get infected!?
should i scratch her from being a potential future wife/mother of my children!?

if i love her, should i just give in to herpes and take Valtrex for the rest of my life!?

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Answers:
I have been married for 15 years now to a man who had only one other sexual partner!. We have two children and he has never shown any symptoms of hsv!. I was entirely honest with him, and we waited until a month before our wedding to consumate the relationship!. That was my choice!.

Though I was open with him, I told him in the dark so I wouldn't have to see his expression!. He thought about it (I don't even remember if is answer was immediate or not), and said that it didn't matter!. I feared the answer to many other questions about whether he meant he didn't need sex; how we would get pregnant if we used condoms; and even wondered if he knew something I didn't!. I called myself 'damaged goods'!. I also hoped he would research the topic before consumating the relationship!. I am sure he did, as he is a VERY smart man!.

You see, as emotionally painful as finding out I had hsv was, it was actually a blessing for me in the end!. I was living life for the now, and unable to make a committment to marriage until this vd caused me to sit down and be honest with myself about my values and what I wanted out of life!. I was twenty five or so and still single, moving from one long term relationship to another!.!.!. all ending the same way!. I entered counseling and reevaluated what was really important in a relationship!. I haven't slept around, but was under the false impression that men who had had many encounters were sexy!.!.!. I wish someone had told me about the statistics!.

One thing that was truly wonderful, was that when he told me it didn't matter to him, I knew in my heart that this relationship would be FOREVER!. No cheating, no divorce, no dating again, or remarriage!.!.!.!. that was one loving committment he made to me!. He is truly the man of my dreams (and logic)!.

As people get older, our systems build up immunity to hsv and we find ourselves with less outbreaks!. (How many elderly people do you see with cold-sores!?) I am 43 now and get one outbreak a year, if even that!. My hubby has never had an outbreak, but I'm sure he has to be a carrier of it!. (You could already be a carrier -scary as it sounds!.) A carrier is someone who carries and sheds the virus, is contagious, yet has no outbreaks!. If you have had sex with four or more people (especially if those people have had multiple sex partners), you are testing the your luck!. The statistics show that- 25-35% have it, and it's only getting higher!.

At first I took acyclovir faithfully to avoid transmission, but my sweetie told me to quit taking it after a couple of months!. I had a lot more break outs than your girlfriend has, and when I had one, I just asked him to wear a condom!. After a couple of months he said that if he was going to get it, just let it happen!.

Like I said, we have two beautiful children (who by the way will be more resistant to the virus since theyy have acquired my antibodies to hsv while in the womb) and have unprotected sex!. Hsv does not cause cancer, it's HPV that you should worry about, and MOST strains of this one are asymptomatic, and the patient doesn't know they have it until they get an abnormal pap smear!.

Many of my questions were answered in time!. He has an incredible sex drive and our bedroom activities ARE important to both of us!.

Good luck - I truly wish you the very best!.
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No its not guaranteed that you will get herpes!. The likelihood is yes, but not a definitive!.

There are many couples that are together for years where one person has herpes, they have unprotected sex, and the partner never gets it!. You just dont know!. The antibodies in your system may prevent you from ever getting it!.

It is a risk you will have to take!.

It is not guaranteed that you have to take medication either!. You can prevent outbreaks, by knowing your triggers, and maintaining your health!.

If you love her, then it wouldnt matter!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

if you're unsure, maybe you should hold out on sex for a while so you know if she's someone you could fall in love with!. with love there isnt guarantees!. things change, life happens, you may be together forever, you may not!. follow your gut!.!.!.

i'm not with the person who gave me herpes anymore!. falling in love with him was one of the bests thing i've ever done, and i'd do it all over again in a heartbeat!.

just so you know, taking valtrex, avoiding sexual contact while she feels symptoms of an outbreak, and using a condom can reduce your risk of contracting the virus down to 2%!. there really isn't a "definite" answer to this question!. you can't stop fate!.

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you will probably get it eventually!. I have had it now for five yeras and you know what!? its not really a big deal after awhile!. The first outbreak is the worst!. Ive never experienced anything serious after that!. More than anything, its a pain in the *** b/c when you get prodomes(symptoms) it gets itchy and swollen but thats about it!. Valtrex helps alot too!. If you plan on gtting married anyway, it will be between the two of you only!. It sucks though if you have to date other people b/c then its not so easy telling people what you have!. Im also having a baby and she is totally normal!. The only thing is that she may have to have c-sections b/c you can transmit it to the baby vaginally but the incidence now adays with suppressive therapy is very low!. Im still not sure what im going to do but im probably going to get a c-section b/c i dont want anything to happen to the baby!. HSV doesnt effect having a baby so you will be okay there!. So many people like 1/5 have herpes!. Its very common today!. At least its not deadly and cause serious problems unless your immunity is low!. Just remember that once you have it, you can also get HIV alot faster too!. The HSV help aid the HIV into your body faster b/c it causes openings through your skin and has been proven to help the HIV mulitply faster!. So if you plan on marrying, do not cheat on her or use protection all the time with everyone bc of this fact as well!. Also, if you do plan on having kids, you can really have intercourse in the last month b/c you may pass it on to each other and give it to the baby!. You also want to be careful after a baby is born b/c you can kiss the baby and pass on the HSV orally too!. So if you have oral sex with your partner after baby is born, make sure your mouth is super clean and sterile before touching the baby or kissing the baby b/c hsv can kill a newborn or fetus!. Its deadly to small babies!. I think you should marry this girl b/c herpes is really such a small thing!. Even if you do catch it, its not that bad!. Ive given it to my exbf!. He was pissed after we broke up but he knew i had it right from the start!. Now with this new bf, he is still with me and we dont really worry about it but he wont have oral sex with me!! I cant even remember when he did that to me last!. I miss it terribly!. Im proud that you continue to give pleasure to your girlfriend and not let this HSV ruin your sex life!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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