How do I know if he has an alcohol problem?!
Question: How do I know if he has an alcohol problem!?
He used to drink just 2 or 3 beers a night!. That was fine!. Since work hours have changed, he's staying up later and I'm seeing that he's having 6 or more a night!. On the weekends its even more!.
I rarely see him drunk (maybe just after an event when I'm usually drunk too) and he's not violent or emotional!. He is a normal person, in fact I would never even know he had any beers if I didn't know he drank them!.
If the only thing that his drinking is affecting is his wallet (not going broke, but still obviously spending a little more) and in the long run his health - does he have a problem!?
I keep seeing information about alcoholics and it says that they miss work, drink in the morning, aren't interested in sports, etc!. This is not him at all!. Like I said, it has had virtually no effect on the rest of his life!.
However - I think that having 6 or more beers every night is not right!. Am I wrong in thinking this!?
We've been together for 3 years (and we live together)!. It has only been the last month that it has increased and I know it is largely due to his work schedule!.
So #1 - does he have a problem!?
#2 - if so, what should I say to him!? I don't want him to think I'm trying to control him!.!.!.like I said, 2 or 3 a night doesn't bother me!. It is when I wake up for work and see 7 empty beer cans on the counter that I start to worry!.
Am I nuts!?
Please help!. Thank you in advance!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
I rarely see him drunk (maybe just after an event when I'm usually drunk too) and he's not violent or emotional!. He is a normal person, in fact I would never even know he had any beers if I didn't know he drank them!.
If the only thing that his drinking is affecting is his wallet (not going broke, but still obviously spending a little more) and in the long run his health - does he have a problem!?
I keep seeing information about alcoholics and it says that they miss work, drink in the morning, aren't interested in sports, etc!. This is not him at all!. Like I said, it has had virtually no effect on the rest of his life!.
However - I think that having 6 or more beers every night is not right!. Am I wrong in thinking this!?
We've been together for 3 years (and we live together)!. It has only been the last month that it has increased and I know it is largely due to his work schedule!.
So #1 - does he have a problem!?
#2 - if so, what should I say to him!? I don't want him to think I'm trying to control him!.!.!.like I said, 2 or 3 a night doesn't bother me!. It is when I wake up for work and see 7 empty beer cans on the counter that I start to worry!.
Am I nuts!?
Please help!. Thank you in advance!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Hi there!. It's not easy being in a relationship with an alcoholic or a possible alcoholic!. I can't answer directly whether your boyfriend is an alcoholic because I don't know him!. It does sound like a red flag that his consumption of alcohol has increased!. Many alcoholics use alcohol to medicate feelings that they don't wish to feel!.
But the more importation question is how can you take care of yourself to make sure that you're okay!.!.!.
It may make sense to get some help with this because if he's an alcoholic, you aren't strong enough to control his drinking!. You may want to check out Al Anon!. They have a list of 20 questions entitled "Are You Troubled by Someone's Drinking!?"
http://www!.al-anon!.alateen!.org/S17web!.ht!.!.!.
Good luck to you!
P!.S!. You may wish to also seek the advice of a therapist because you mentioned something about being drunk yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
But the more importation question is how can you take care of yourself to make sure that you're okay!.!.!.
It may make sense to get some help with this because if he's an alcoholic, you aren't strong enough to control his drinking!. You may want to check out Al Anon!. They have a list of 20 questions entitled "Are You Troubled by Someone's Drinking!?"
http://www!.al-anon!.alateen!.org/S17web!.ht!.!.!.
Good luck to you!
P!.S!. You may wish to also seek the advice of a therapist because you mentioned something about being drunk yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
a person can be an alcoholic without getting drunk, a need for a daily drink or two is an alcohol problem, so is not being able to drink without getting drunk everytime!. If you are concerned and want some help with this look into meetings in your area!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
How do I know if I, or someone close, has a drinking problem!?
Here are some quick clues:
Inability to control drinking--it seems that regardless of what you decide beforehand, you frequently wind up drunk!.
Using alcohol to escape problems
A change in personality- turning from Dr!. Jekyl to Mr!. Hyde
How Can I Tell If a Friend or a Loved One Has a Problem With Alcohol, Marijuana, or Other Illicit Drugs!?
Sometimes it is tough to tell!. Most people won't walk up to someone they're close to and ask for help!. In fact, they will probably do everything possible to deny or hide the problem!. But, there are certain warning signs that may indicate that a family member or friend is using drugs and drinking alcohol!.
If your friend or loved one has one or more of the following signs, he or she may have a problem with drugs or alcohol:
getting high on drugs!. drinking, getting drunk on a regular basis
lying about things, or the drugs or alcohol they are using
avoiding you and others in order to get high, drinking or drunk
giving up activities they used to do such as sports, homework, or hanging out with friends who don't use drugs or drink
having to use more marijuana or other illicit drugs to get the same effects
constantly talking about using drugs or drinking
believing that in order to have fun they need to drink or use marijuana or other drugs
pressuring others to use drugs or drink
getting into trouble with the law
taking risks, including sexual risks and driving under the influence of alcohol and/or drugs
feeling run-down, hopeless, depressed, or even suicidal
suspension from school for an alcohol- or drug-related incident
missing work or poor work performance because of drinking or drug use
Many of the signs, such as sudden changes in mood, difficulty in getting along with others, poor job or school performance, irritability, and depression, might be explained by other causes!.
Unless you observe drug use or drinking, it can be hard to determine the cause of these problems!. Your first step is to contact a qualified Muslim counselor, Imam or alcohol and drug professional in your area who can give you further advice!.
How Can I Tell if I Have a Problem with Drugs or Alcohol!?
Drug and alcohol problems can affect every one of us regardless of age, sex, race, marital status, place of residence, income level, or lifestyle!.
You may have a problem with drugs or alcohol, if:
You can't predict whether or not you will use drugs or get drunk!.
You believe that in order to have fun you need to drink and/or use drugs!.
You turn to alcohol and/or drugs after a confrontation or argument, or to relieve uncomfortable feelings!.
You drink more or use more drugs to get the same effect that you got with smaller amounts!.
You drink and/or use drugs alone!.
You remember how last night began, but not how it ended, so you're worried you may have a problem!.
You have trouble at work or in school because of your drinking or drug use!.
You make promises to yourself or others that you'll stop getting drunk or using drugs!.
You feel alone, scared, miserable, and depressed!.
If you have experienced any of the above problems, take heart, help is available!.
The alcoholic just like the drug addict has to hit rock bottom before they ealized they have a substance abuse problem!. No amt of help can do any good unless the desire to help come from within!.
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Here are some quick clues:
Inability to control drinking--it seems that regardless of what you decide beforehand, you frequently wind up drunk!.
Using alcohol to escape problems
A change in personality- turning from Dr!. Jekyl to Mr!. Hyde
How Can I Tell If a Friend or a Loved One Has a Problem With Alcohol, Marijuana, or Other Illicit Drugs!?
Sometimes it is tough to tell!. Most people won't walk up to someone they're close to and ask for help!. In fact, they will probably do everything possible to deny or hide the problem!. But, there are certain warning signs that may indicate that a family member or friend is using drugs and drinking alcohol!.
If your friend or loved one has one or more of the following signs, he or she may have a problem with drugs or alcohol:
getting high on drugs!. drinking, getting drunk on a regular basis
lying about things, or the drugs or alcohol they are using
avoiding you and others in order to get high, drinking or drunk
giving up activities they used to do such as sports, homework, or hanging out with friends who don't use drugs or drink
having to use more marijuana or other illicit drugs to get the same effects
constantly talking about using drugs or drinking
believing that in order to have fun they need to drink or use marijuana or other drugs
pressuring others to use drugs or drink
getting into trouble with the law
taking risks, including sexual risks and driving under the influence of alcohol and/or drugs
feeling run-down, hopeless, depressed, or even suicidal
suspension from school for an alcohol- or drug-related incident
missing work or poor work performance because of drinking or drug use
Many of the signs, such as sudden changes in mood, difficulty in getting along with others, poor job or school performance, irritability, and depression, might be explained by other causes!.
Unless you observe drug use or drinking, it can be hard to determine the cause of these problems!. Your first step is to contact a qualified Muslim counselor, Imam or alcohol and drug professional in your area who can give you further advice!.
How Can I Tell if I Have a Problem with Drugs or Alcohol!?
Drug and alcohol problems can affect every one of us regardless of age, sex, race, marital status, place of residence, income level, or lifestyle!.
You may have a problem with drugs or alcohol, if:
You can't predict whether or not you will use drugs or get drunk!.
You believe that in order to have fun you need to drink and/or use drugs!.
You turn to alcohol and/or drugs after a confrontation or argument, or to relieve uncomfortable feelings!.
You drink more or use more drugs to get the same effect that you got with smaller amounts!.
You drink and/or use drugs alone!.
You remember how last night began, but not how it ended, so you're worried you may have a problem!.
You have trouble at work or in school because of your drinking or drug use!.
You make promises to yourself or others that you'll stop getting drunk or using drugs!.
You feel alone, scared, miserable, and depressed!.
If you have experienced any of the above problems, take heart, help is available!.
The alcoholic just like the drug addict has to hit rock bottom before they ealized they have a substance abuse problem!. No amt of help can do any good unless the desire to help come from within!.
Www@Answer-Health@Com
Ok, first off, alcoholism doesn't have specific "symptoms"!. Missing work, not doing things, etc are all possible symptoms, not definitive ones!. An alcoholic is simply someone addicted to alcohol!. Half a dozen beers or more a day is more than enough to be considered an alcoholic!.
Talk to him about it!. Tell him it's not something you are willing to accept in your life!. He'll give you some BS about how it's not a problem!. When he does, tell him to prove it!. Alcoholism is a problem that only gets worse if it isn't stopped!. I had several friends that were alcoholics!. One stopped drinking for 3 years after he spent 3 weeks in the hospital following a car accident!. None of them (aside from him) learned from it!. Then another died earlier this year while driving drunk!. The one that stopped for 3 years had started again, and quit as a result of the death!. None of the others have stopped!. It literally takes a tragedy for some to stop!. You might consider making that tragedy you leaving him instead of waiting for something more incurable (like death) to happen!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Talk to him about it!. Tell him it's not something you are willing to accept in your life!. He'll give you some BS about how it's not a problem!. When he does, tell him to prove it!. Alcoholism is a problem that only gets worse if it isn't stopped!. I had several friends that were alcoholics!. One stopped drinking for 3 years after he spent 3 weeks in the hospital following a car accident!. None of them (aside from him) learned from it!. Then another died earlier this year while driving drunk!. The one that stopped for 3 years had started again, and quit as a result of the death!. None of the others have stopped!. It literally takes a tragedy for some to stop!. You might consider making that tragedy you leaving him instead of waiting for something more incurable (like death) to happen!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i would just ask him to cut back a little!. he'll get a little prickley, i'm sure!. but once he sees you are concerned he might change his ways and cut back!.
if he doesnt take your feelings into concideration!.!.!.!. you have begger problems on your hands and maybe you should start talking about each other's feelings more!. get to know whats making him drink more than normal!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
if he doesnt take your feelings into concideration!.!.!.!. you have begger problems on your hands and maybe you should start talking about each other's feelings more!. get to know whats making him drink more than normal!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com