Sexually active and not telling my doctor??!
Question: Sexually active and not telling my doctor!?!?
me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year and recently we had sex!. i cant tell my mom becuase i would be dead!. is it bad that i havent told my doctor!?!?!? we used a condom and i know he is the only guy i will be having sex with!. i couldnt tell my doctor because my mom was in the room, and i couldnt have her leave becuase then that would give it away!. is it bad for my health that my doctor doesnt know!?!? thanks for the helpWww@Answer-Health@Com
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Here is the thing!. Has your boyfriend ever had sex with anyone else!? Is there zero chance he will have sex with anyone else!?
I think you have a a few options here!.
One - you could go to a free clinic for women and talk to a nurse there!. They will give you a pelvic exam and any tests appropriate and they do not tell parents!.
Two - You have decided you are mature enough for sex (and anything that may come from it), but not mature enough to tell your mom and take some responsibility for your health!? That is in now way a slam!. I am just giving you something to think about!. Sex does not end at the act!. There are emotional things, relationship, life!.!.!. Getting up the courage to talk to mom could satisfy or at least help you deal with those things and she would want to! She may not like it, but she would have to understand eventually that it is your body and either help or lose your confidence!.
Three - If you did not want to see another doc and did not want to tell mom, you could call the doc's office and talk to a nurse!. Tell her you are actively having sex, but do not want to tell your mom yet!.
Four - Ask for the help of another trusted adult!. A female is best!. Make sure not to put them into a compromising position with your parents!. Maybe the mother of the boyfriend or a friends mother!. Those women, though, may tell your mother!. The up side is that you would not have to tell your mom directly, your mom would find out but know you have made an effort at responsibility and maybe she would have time to think out her reaction!. You know your own mom!.
Good luck sweetie!. Big decisions!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think you have a a few options here!.
One - you could go to a free clinic for women and talk to a nurse there!. They will give you a pelvic exam and any tests appropriate and they do not tell parents!.
Two - You have decided you are mature enough for sex (and anything that may come from it), but not mature enough to tell your mom and take some responsibility for your health!? That is in now way a slam!. I am just giving you something to think about!. Sex does not end at the act!. There are emotional things, relationship, life!.!.!. Getting up the courage to talk to mom could satisfy or at least help you deal with those things and she would want to! She may not like it, but she would have to understand eventually that it is your body and either help or lose your confidence!.
Three - If you did not want to see another doc and did not want to tell mom, you could call the doc's office and talk to a nurse!. Tell her you are actively having sex, but do not want to tell your mom yet!.
Four - Ask for the help of another trusted adult!. A female is best!. Make sure not to put them into a compromising position with your parents!. Maybe the mother of the boyfriend or a friends mother!. Those women, though, may tell your mother!. The up side is that you would not have to tell your mom directly, your mom would find out but know you have made an effort at responsibility and maybe she would have time to think out her reaction!. You know your own mom!.
Good luck sweetie!. Big decisions!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Your doctor asks these questions because it is part of their job to educate about proper protection for sex!. If she/he knew you were sexually active she/he would probably insist on doing a pelvic exam as part of the physical to make sure you are healthy down there!. Your doctor could also test for any possible STDs if you or your bf had ever had any other partners!. Your doctor may also recommend a birth control pill that is right for you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
yes, you need to tell your doctor!. keep in mind, that just because he is the only person you are going to have sex with, doesnt mean that you are the only person he will have sex with!. people make mistakes sometimes!. Be careful, i got an uncurable STD from a man i was living with and had been with for 2 years!.
AND dont forget that condoms are NOT 100 percent effective protection against all STDS!. You know, really, if you feel that you are mature enough to be having sex to begin with, you should also be mature enough to discuss it with your doctor!. if you arent, you shouldnt be having sex yetWww@Answer-Health@Com
AND dont forget that condoms are NOT 100 percent effective protection against all STDS!. You know, really, if you feel that you are mature enough to be having sex to begin with, you should also be mature enough to discuss it with your doctor!. if you arent, you shouldnt be having sex yetWww@Answer-Health@Com
if your having unprotected sex, then your doctor would need to know, so he can test you for STDs and pregnancy, but if your using protection, and being careful, theres no reason to tell your doctor, just because you lost your virginity!. How old are you hun!? If your not old enough to visit a doctor on your own!.!.are you sure your old enough to be having sex!?!?!?!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
1st thing ur boyfriend used a condom!.!. that is a good thing!.!.!. but u must know that condoms are not 100% safe!.!.!. and about contacting a doctor!.!. u must do nor else u will be the one who will suffer!.!.!. there are many skin diseases that happen during sex near the genitals!.!. so u must be careful!.!.!.!.
by usin condom u can be safe from many STDs but not from all!.!. and if u didnt tell ur doctor then everybody at ur home will be comin to know because they are not kid!.!. they have seen world more than u!.!.
so consult a doctor and be at safer side!.!.!.
if u r so afraid of ur parents!.!.!. then u mustnt do work that hurts themWww@Answer-Health@Com
by usin condom u can be safe from many STDs but not from all!.!. and if u didnt tell ur doctor then everybody at ur home will be comin to know because they are not kid!.!. they have seen world more than u!.!.
so consult a doctor and be at safer side!.!.!.
if u r so afraid of ur parents!.!.!. then u mustnt do work that hurts themWww@Answer-Health@Com
you have a right to not have your mother present in the room during an exam!. and yes, it is important to tell your dr these things!. he cannot legally tell your mother anything about it, even if you're a minor!. call the dr office on your own and tell them if you have to!. it's very important to your health to be open and honest w/ your dr!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
Well, if you are having sex you really need to start making appointments with a GYN!. You will be able to have a private discussion w/ the OB/GYN b/c your mom will not be in the room for that!.
Your doctor should be aware of lifestyle choices that can affect your health!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Your doctor should be aware of lifestyle choices that can affect your health!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Yeah, your doctor should probably know!. And if you tell him he is not legally allowed to tell your mother, or anyone for that matter!. I would tell him when your mother isn't around!. Either that, or go to planned parenthood and get checked out!! They are cheap or free depending on your age and income!. Its also illegal for them to tell!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Your doctor DOES need to know!.
There's always the possibility that your boyfriend may have something you could catch!. Condoms aren't 100%!.
You CAN phone your doctor and talk to her, OR call planned parenthood, or tell your school nurse or clinic!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
There's always the possibility that your boyfriend may have something you could catch!. Condoms aren't 100%!.
You CAN phone your doctor and talk to her, OR call planned parenthood, or tell your school nurse or clinic!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Since you are using a condom, I don't think it is a HUGE deal, unless your boyfriend has had a partner before you!. I think you should tell your doctor as soon as you get the chance to!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I dont think its necessary for you to go tell your doctor unless you think youve contracted an STD
Sex is not bad for your health, as long as u dont have any diseases, then you would need to inform your doctorWww@Answer-Health@Com
Sex is not bad for your health, as long as u dont have any diseases, then you would need to inform your doctorWww@Answer-Health@Com
Honey, you're playing with fire!. You might want to check with a clinic, if you're not going to go to your doctor!. Protection!, Protection!, Protection! Please be safe!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
There is nothing bad about having sex with someone you love!. It can be bad if you don't protect yourself!. but since you did it you are fine!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It's best to tell your doctor when you become active, so he can give you yearly pap smears!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
You don't have to tell everything to anyone!.
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THEY COULD FIND OUT!.!.!.!.!. DOING THE PEE TEST !.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
keep on stiick that dick in you mouth and you will soon find out!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i wouldn't tell etheirWww@Answer-Health@Com
I agree with artsy!.
Although you made sure protection was involved, your doctor still needs to know what is going on!. Does your mom always insist on being in the room!? Is there a way to set an appointment where you won't have to worry about her being in the room!?
Setting up an appointment with a gyno is important!. Even if you go to like a planed parenthood!. As far as your mom finding out, I would just tell her that you have learned through school and such that thir is alt more involved with sex than you previously thought!. You have learned that their are std's and about girl your age getting pregnant!. It's not that you want to have sex, but you want to be correctly educated (which is very important!!! - so really do this!) for when the time comes, whenever that may be!.
Planned parenthood, or places like it, you don't need a parent their at all especially for education purposes!. A gyno will want to check you over and make sure everything is okay - your mom has no reason to be in the room for that, but make sure the gyno and a nurse is!. Never let a doctor or gyno check you without a nurse in the room!.
Worse comes to worse your gonna have to tell your mom hun!. I know it may seem like that would be the end of the world, but it really isn't - it is better to be honest with her now then her finding out about your sexual activity through your ending up pregnant - believe me I speak from experience!.
Best of luck dear!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Although you made sure protection was involved, your doctor still needs to know what is going on!. Does your mom always insist on being in the room!? Is there a way to set an appointment where you won't have to worry about her being in the room!?
Setting up an appointment with a gyno is important!. Even if you go to like a planed parenthood!. As far as your mom finding out, I would just tell her that you have learned through school and such that thir is alt more involved with sex than you previously thought!. You have learned that their are std's and about girl your age getting pregnant!. It's not that you want to have sex, but you want to be correctly educated (which is very important!!! - so really do this!) for when the time comes, whenever that may be!.
Planned parenthood, or places like it, you don't need a parent their at all especially for education purposes!. A gyno will want to check you over and make sure everything is okay - your mom has no reason to be in the room for that, but make sure the gyno and a nurse is!. Never let a doctor or gyno check you without a nurse in the room!.
Worse comes to worse your gonna have to tell your mom hun!. I know it may seem like that would be the end of the world, but it really isn't - it is better to be honest with her now then her finding out about your sexual activity through your ending up pregnant - believe me I speak from experience!.
Best of luck dear!.Www@Answer-Health@Com