My son who has cancer is on Lovenox?!
Question: My son who has cancer is on Lovenox!?
My son has cancer & now on lovenox due to the blood disorder that was found, he is 17 years old!. He is now going into the next stage after chemo which is radiation!
After chemo he started to feel so much better and through I have so many questions & just the fears on radiation and my son's future!.
My question is in a whole different direction!
Since my son started to feel better he has gone out with his friends, which i don't blame him, but twice he came home drunk and just tonight he did again! Now believe me I do talk to him and try to get him to understand he can't be doing this, he is not out of the clear yet and he is on meds & Lovenox for clotting,
But I think it goes in one ear and out the other! My son will be 18 in a couple of months, he is not a bad kid, never was, he is into ftball so much, but of course he had to stop due to having cancer, I am running out ways to get him to understand this!.
Is he hurting him self by drink while on this!? I think so, I know in my heart he is trying so hard to fit back in with his friends but he is not 100 % yet, Give me some advise pleaseWww@Answer-Health@Com
After chemo he started to feel so much better and through I have so many questions & just the fears on radiation and my son's future!.
My question is in a whole different direction!
Since my son started to feel better he has gone out with his friends, which i don't blame him, but twice he came home drunk and just tonight he did again! Now believe me I do talk to him and try to get him to understand he can't be doing this, he is not out of the clear yet and he is on meds & Lovenox for clotting,
But I think it goes in one ear and out the other! My son will be 18 in a couple of months, he is not a bad kid, never was, he is into ftball so much, but of course he had to stop due to having cancer, I am running out ways to get him to understand this!.
Is he hurting him self by drink while on this!? I think so, I know in my heart he is trying so hard to fit back in with his friends but he is not 100 % yet, Give me some advise pleaseWww@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
I tried looking for specific information about alcohol interactions with the drug you mentioned!.!.!. couldn't find anything but that doesn't mean it isn't a problem!. Have you talked to your sons oncologist about his behavior!? Maybe the doctor could explain to him the effects alcohol has on his recovery!. I think he is acting out as any kid in his situation would!. I know you would still be worried sick if he didn't have cancer and came home drunk but the situation he is in magnifies those feelings!. Here are my suggestions!.!.!.
1!. Talk to his oncologist about the possible effects the alcohol has on his recovery and explain this to your son (if there are negative effects)
2!. Find a support group if you haven't already!. There must be thousands of moms in your same spot who are going through the exact same thing!.
3!. Allow your son to grieve!. I dont mean for his life because no one knows when or how they will leave this earth so theres no reason to cry while you are lucky enough to be breathing!. He is feeling the loss of his "glory days"!. Most teens are exploring their independence while he is worrying about such a grown up problem!.
4!. Keep boundaries but loosen them if need be in the form of permanent rules, not letting him break them as he goes along!. Dont let your son run wild even if he feels he should be allowed too!.!.!. but keep in mind that this is his way of staying connected with his peers!. Acting out might be the only thing he feels he still has control over!. Stability will prevail as being a positive thing later on!.
These are things I think might help but teenagers are tricky beings, lol!. You have probably already done many of them and if so then maybe this will help you confirm those feelings that you are doing your best!. Good luck to you and your son!. My prayers are with you!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
1!. Talk to his oncologist about the possible effects the alcohol has on his recovery and explain this to your son (if there are negative effects)
2!. Find a support group if you haven't already!. There must be thousands of moms in your same spot who are going through the exact same thing!.
3!. Allow your son to grieve!. I dont mean for his life because no one knows when or how they will leave this earth so theres no reason to cry while you are lucky enough to be breathing!. He is feeling the loss of his "glory days"!. Most teens are exploring their independence while he is worrying about such a grown up problem!.
4!. Keep boundaries but loosen them if need be in the form of permanent rules, not letting him break them as he goes along!. Dont let your son run wild even if he feels he should be allowed too!.!.!. but keep in mind that this is his way of staying connected with his peers!. Acting out might be the only thing he feels he still has control over!. Stability will prevail as being a positive thing later on!.
These are things I think might help but teenagers are tricky beings, lol!. You have probably already done many of them and if so then maybe this will help you confirm those feelings that you are doing your best!. Good luck to you and your son!. My prayers are with you!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
due to his problem i believe you should bare with him at least temporarily until he releases all the sadness which he has been feeling inside, the worst case scenario for someone who is diagnosed with this condition is to loose hope Mentally and i believe by going out with his friends and feeling normal like the other kids at least he has something to look forward to in life!. So Basically Let It Be!.!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Your son is doing what most kids at his age are doing regardless of his cancer or not!. He is going to do what he does to fit in, as it is more of a priority to him then his medical condition!. If you have already stressed the importance to him of his medical condition, and he continues this behavior, unfortunately that is all you can do!. Nagging or making attempts to change his behavioral patterns will only end up in his resenting you!. Acceptance is the key!. You have done the best you can, now it is up to him!. I know this hurts you as a parent!. I might suggest you ask him if he is drinking because of the trauma he has gone through, and offer him help through counselling!. But I think your hands are tied on this one!. If he goes on too many benders, and gets sick by them, maybe he will learn something, and back off the booze, maybe not!. But Mom, the ball is in his park for now!. Best of luck, and I would like you to tell me what is happening a month from now, if you would please!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
He should NOT be drinking!. You need to talk to the doc or pharmacist about specific interactions with alcohol and his meds!.!.!. BUT>!.!.!. As you know, inhibitions are lowered when drunk!. If he hurts himself, such as tripping and falling or gets cut somehow!.!.!.!. it would be very very very very bad, as the med IS a blood thinner!.
Another issue with alcohol is the liver!. The meds he is/has been on have/are already putting a lot on his liver!. The alcohol makes it worse!.
And with the radiation, his blood counts will drop, making him more susceptable to infection!.
But, this IS typical teenage behavior, and then add that he has cancer!. This is a combo of being a typical teen, and literally drowning his sorrows!.
Does he see a psychologist!? I would highly recommend one for him, and a support group for both of you (perhaps even seperate support groups!.!.!. one for you one for him!.)!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Another issue with alcohol is the liver!. The meds he is/has been on have/are already putting a lot on his liver!. The alcohol makes it worse!.
And with the radiation, his blood counts will drop, making him more susceptable to infection!.
But, this IS typical teenage behavior, and then add that he has cancer!. This is a combo of being a typical teen, and literally drowning his sorrows!.
Does he see a psychologist!? I would highly recommend one for him, and a support group for both of you (perhaps even seperate support groups!.!.!. one for you one for him!.)!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It is not okay for your son to be doing this!. The reason is, he is young and not able to make mature decisions about what he wants in life!. However, I think something you have to recognize as a parent is that unless you keep him under lock and key, he is going to be doing the things he wants to do!. It's the age old story!.
Here is my advice to you: Take your son aside tomorrow morning, say, during breakfast!. Look him right in the eye and tell him that you love him and that he means everything in the world to you!. Tell him that you are sorry that he got sick, and would do anything to change it (which I'm sure is true)!. Then, and this is the most important part, tell him that you will always be there for him!. You need to let him know that you do NOT approve of his drinking or his rowdy behavior, but if he insists on it, you want to be involved!. Instead of him stumbling home drunk, you want to make sure that he is safe!. Whether this means you allow it under your own roof or not is a choice you will have to make for yourself!. What your son needs now the most is to feel loved, whether he will admit it or not!. Let him feel this, and with time he will come around!.
God bless and I hope your son recovers swiftly!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Here is my advice to you: Take your son aside tomorrow morning, say, during breakfast!. Look him right in the eye and tell him that you love him and that he means everything in the world to you!. Tell him that you are sorry that he got sick, and would do anything to change it (which I'm sure is true)!. Then, and this is the most important part, tell him that you will always be there for him!. You need to let him know that you do NOT approve of his drinking or his rowdy behavior, but if he insists on it, you want to be involved!. Instead of him stumbling home drunk, you want to make sure that he is safe!. Whether this means you allow it under your own roof or not is a choice you will have to make for yourself!. What your son needs now the most is to feel loved, whether he will admit it or not!. Let him feel this, and with time he will come around!.
God bless and I hope your son recovers swiftly!.Www@Answer-Health@Com