How can I convince my parents about my decision to marry a polio affected girl ?!
Question: How can I convince my parents about my decision to marry a polio affected girl !?
Friends, I always wanted to marry someone with a physical disability because something inside me says helping is my integral part !.So I kept on searching matrimonial profiles with such disability and finally I found a girl who is so nice from inside even though she looks just ordinary from out side!. I always cared for inner beauty and I firmly believe that I can love her and never let her feel that she is handicapped!.
Now the problem is , my parents are very religious type of and the girl belongs to other caste and she don't understand our mother tongue too!. We can communicate in English or Hindi language!.
I am yet to propose her and I am not crazy of her!. I can live without her but I want to see her happy always and I don't want her to marry someone inferior to her just because of a physical handicap!.
My parents suffered a lot to provide me the best education they can and I know that they slept with empty stomach so many times!.
Now dear friends please show me someway where by I can convince both parties (parents and girl ) without hurting anyone !? I am earning just enough to live a comfortable life style and i can take care of both parties well and with love !.
Please show me the way!.
thanking you all
with lots of unconditional loveWww@Answer-Health@Com
Now the problem is , my parents are very religious type of and the girl belongs to other caste and she don't understand our mother tongue too!. We can communicate in English or Hindi language!.
I am yet to propose her and I am not crazy of her!. I can live without her but I want to see her happy always and I don't want her to marry someone inferior to her just because of a physical handicap!.
My parents suffered a lot to provide me the best education they can and I know that they slept with empty stomach so many times!.
Now dear friends please show me someway where by I can convince both parties (parents and girl ) without hurting anyone !? I am earning just enough to live a comfortable life style and i can take care of both parties well and with love !.
Please show me the way!.
thanking you all
with lots of unconditional loveWww@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Dear friend really appreciate your concern about that girl!. But one thing you remember it seems your parents struggle lot to educate you well!.
so first priority is parents !. do you know now a days there are many son's who is not even bothering about their parents !. so its our responsibility make them happy !. one thing remember no parent in the world happy with our money and comfort !.they will really happy when you become some thing in your life !.!. that means what they want you to become !.
second coming to religion feelings most of our parents has got that !. so do one thing first sit with your parents and ask what they are thinking about you !.that means what they want from you !.
if they have very high hopes on you !. better dont upset them,
regarding that girl !. i think you dont have love on her !. you have pity on her
so if your intension is only to make her happy !. ask the girl what she is thinking about her future , then you can come to a decision
see all these will not understand easily !. so you must discuss with both the parties individually !. then come to conclusion !.
especially these issues are very emotional !.
first you do that and get back to me with their answer !. i can guide you !.
because mine also love marriage with different caste !. i could convince
REGARDS
DAMUWww@Answer-Health@Com
so first priority is parents !. do you know now a days there are many son's who is not even bothering about their parents !. so its our responsibility make them happy !. one thing remember no parent in the world happy with our money and comfort !.they will really happy when you become some thing in your life !.!. that means what they want you to become !.
second coming to religion feelings most of our parents has got that !. so do one thing first sit with your parents and ask what they are thinking about you !.that means what they want from you !.
if they have very high hopes on you !. better dont upset them,
regarding that girl !. i think you dont have love on her !. you have pity on her
so if your intension is only to make her happy !. ask the girl what she is thinking about her future , then you can come to a decision
see all these will not understand easily !. so you must discuss with both the parties individually !. then come to conclusion !.
especially these issues are very emotional !.
first you do that and get back to me with their answer !. i can guide you !.
because mine also love marriage with different caste !. i could convince
REGARDS
DAMUWww@Answer-Health@Com
wow!. you are a very caring person! :)
but my advise-
if you don't feel like you can't live without this girl maybe you shouldn't marry her, if she knew this would probably really hurt her feelings!. and don't just think of other people, if your not happy in this relationship- stop it nor before its too late and break everyone hearts!.
good luck xxWww@Answer-Health@Com
If you have made up your mind that is your affair, but if you do not feel love for her then it must be pity, that is the wrong reason to marry anyone no matter about beliefs or whatever, You will end up frustrated, I am not a selfish person, but you need something for yourself out of a relationship!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I am going to come from a different angle!. I have a daughter that married into another religion!. She is happy, her husband is perfect for her!. My grand-daughter is going to be raised in a different religion!. Because they are fundamentalist Baptist and I am an atheist we are the opposites in our society!. My son-in-law and I will have deep conversations about what we believe or don't believe!. He will answer my bible questions and I will answer his science questions!. I never try to tell what to believe nor do they try to convince me!.
From outside any religion is wacky!. You would say the same about my beliefs so I am not picking on any body's beliefs!.
I am going to answer this as if I was strongly opposed to my daughter marrying into this this religion!. I don't know how this would work in your society!.
She would first have to introduce me to him as a friend of hers!. He would not be able to discuss anything that we differ on at first!. My daughter would have to give each discussion points that would make us find a common interest!. My daughter likes this person and because my daughter and I are close I will probably start to like him as her friend even when I find out that he has his "wacko" religious ideas!. When I see them spending more and more time together, I would think the possibility of marrying is there!. I would not be blindsided when the subject is brought up!.
Why have you taken a liking to this girl!? It is in your personality!. The sexual interest of identical twins is one trait that has no commonality!. There are 6 billion people in this world!. The possibility of you meeting the right person at the right time is around 12 out of those 6 billion!.
If you can bring this person to an event that your parents are going to be at, start there!. Chat like you would to a friend!. Watch you parents for their reaction!. This will tell you the next thing to do!.
There is one warning!. You will have to custom any advice to you!. No one knows your parents, this girl, your personality, or what you should do!. They know only what they would do!. If you don't use caution you will step into a world that you have never been into and you will flounder!. (Been there got the t-shirt!.) Good luck :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
From outside any religion is wacky!. You would say the same about my beliefs so I am not picking on any body's beliefs!.
I am going to answer this as if I was strongly opposed to my daughter marrying into this this religion!. I don't know how this would work in your society!.
She would first have to introduce me to him as a friend of hers!. He would not be able to discuss anything that we differ on at first!. My daughter would have to give each discussion points that would make us find a common interest!. My daughter likes this person and because my daughter and I are close I will probably start to like him as her friend even when I find out that he has his "wacko" religious ideas!. When I see them spending more and more time together, I would think the possibility of marrying is there!. I would not be blindsided when the subject is brought up!.
Why have you taken a liking to this girl!? It is in your personality!. The sexual interest of identical twins is one trait that has no commonality!. There are 6 billion people in this world!. The possibility of you meeting the right person at the right time is around 12 out of those 6 billion!.
If you can bring this person to an event that your parents are going to be at, start there!. Chat like you would to a friend!. Watch you parents for their reaction!. This will tell you the next thing to do!.
There is one warning!. You will have to custom any advice to you!. No one knows your parents, this girl, your personality, or what you should do!. They know only what they would do!. If you don't use caution you will step into a world that you have never been into and you will flounder!. (Been there got the t-shirt!.) Good luck :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
The fact that you have always wanted to marry somebody with a physical disability is concerning, we should marry somebody we are attracted to and them fall in love with no go out there looking for a "specific" profile yes of course looking for someone with same interest etc!. but to have such a strong conviction about the physical is never a good thing it could be the same as saying you will only marry someone who is black, or thin or tall etc these are all exterior qualities and mean nothing!.Www@Answer-Health@Com