How can i help and get through to my mum?!
Question: How can i help and get through to my mum!?
My mum is an alcholic,but wont admit it,the only one who doesnt no is her,(she always says lots of ppl drink as much as her!?!? if not more ha!) as soon as she gets up in the morning she starts :( she hardly eats a thing,shes always ill, and falls if she walks anywhere!.!.shes lost loads of weight, i just dont no wat to do,iv made the doctor come out when she was quite bad,but they just dont seem to care,he was going to do this,and that,even call back the next week!.!.but he didnt, and nothing was ever done,shes not been out of her house for 9mths,after she fell and hurt her hip,wich sent her into a downward spiral,im at my wits end,shes got no friends because she so horrible, she drives ppl away,all shes got is her husband!.!.!.who 'if hes ever in' buys her anything she wants to shut her up!! (or kill her off)!.!.but i know that the way shes going she'll be dead soon!
i know ppl will say!.!.'shes got to do it herself!' but i cant just sit by and watch her die!?!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
i know ppl will say!.!.'shes got to do it herself!' but i cant just sit by and watch her die!?!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
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Alcoholism is worse than death because of all the damage it does to the alcoholic and everyone around them!. You can get over a death, but alcoholism doesn't go away!. It is painful to be in your situation, and its common to bounce back and forth between anger and guilt!. Unfortunately, alcoholics place the highest priority on alcohol, and most people in this situation don't change until they hit the bottom and some scary event wakes them up!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Unfortunately its not in your power to do anything else!. If your mum has a self destructive streak there really is nothing you can do!. I know its really hard but you know what, its your mum's life and she has to live it as she chooses!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
a shame that `musicman` comments this way-just for points!.
maybe if you make a app`t with your gp explaining that your mothers `condition` is not only affecting her!.
she`s a lucky person to have a daughter that care about her!.
very best of luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
maybe if you make a app`t with your gp explaining that your mothers `condition` is not only affecting her!.
she`s a lucky person to have a daughter that care about her!.
very best of luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Join Al-a-Teen at your local alcoholics anonymous chapter!. It is for teenagers with alcoholic family members!. You can get tips on how to cope from them!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
best thing you can do is Talk to her!.Without losing your rag!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Simple answer, take the booze off her and make sure she has no money to buy more!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Go on the jeremy kyle showWww@Answer-Health@Com
How awful for you and your mum!.
I know people always say that they have to do it themselves, but it is true!. Your mum HAS to admit that she has a problem!.
You do need to go and talk to your G!.P - explain it from your point of view!. You are involved in this and you are affected by this - you are asking for help!.
If she hasn't left the house in nine months then it may be that the drink is masking a psychological condition such as depression, agoraphobia or anxiety!. The G!.P should be able to talk through your options - something that can always be considered is having your mother sectioned under the mental health act - I don't know how appropriate this would be in your mums condition though!.
You need to come to terms with the fact that this is your mum's decision - I know it is difficult and that you feel guilty for feeling angry towards your mum - I know what it's like!. Yo have every right to feel angry towards her, her husband and at the system that is supposed to be there to help!.
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I know people always say that they have to do it themselves, but it is true!. Your mum HAS to admit that she has a problem!.
You do need to go and talk to your G!.P - explain it from your point of view!. You are involved in this and you are affected by this - you are asking for help!.
If she hasn't left the house in nine months then it may be that the drink is masking a psychological condition such as depression, agoraphobia or anxiety!. The G!.P should be able to talk through your options - something that can always be considered is having your mother sectioned under the mental health act - I don't know how appropriate this would be in your mums condition though!.
You need to come to terms with the fact that this is your mum's decision - I know it is difficult and that you feel guilty for feeling angry towards your mum - I know what it's like!. Yo have every right to feel angry towards her, her husband and at the system that is supposed to be there to help!.
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People are right though, she has to want to do it herself, you cant force anyone to stop drinking, and i know its the worst thing in the world to see someone you love go like this!. It will start to affect her health, if it hasn't already, and then she might want to stop, but it could be too late !.Sorry, i know this isn't what you want to hear, but i have been there with my ex-husband, he wouldn't admit it, and we ended up separating!.You could try sitting her down when she is sober and have a heart to heart with her, tell her you are worried sick about her and her health, don't buy her booze and get her husband to do the same, if she cant walk then she cant buy it herself!. the sad thing is, her doc would help sort her out, but it has to be her decision!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
You can not help her because she has to want to help herself!. People that are addicts do not take responsibility for their behaviour and have absolutely no idea how much their behaviour affects everyone around them!. My Father was an alcoholic and I tried for years to get him help and to help him, but in the end I was physically and mentally drained!. I tried Doctors and mental health professionals and they bent over backwards to help him but he didn't want to stop drinking so eventually they gave up!. In the end I had to give him an ultimatum stop drinking or I will walk out of your life which eventually I did!. My Mum also left him!. He died 5 years ago of liver disease!. I have spent years beating myself up and thinking if there was more I could of done!. I went to Al Anon and they really helped me to understand his addiction and that people who are addicts can not acknowledge anything about their behaviour!. They helped me accept that I was not to blame for his addiction!. Why don't you try them as they will be a great support for you!. You must also look after yourself through this because if you don't you will burn out and that is unfair!. Also don't blame yourself or beat yourself up for not doing enough!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Tell her to get back to being herself before the drink!.
Tell her you love her and ask her to write a list of things that
are stressing her, you are there for her and want to help her change her life as she has done so much for you!.
Try and get her to the doctors anti depressents will help and won't cost her as much I mean her life!.
I have a friend who drinks and no one can tell her to change it's hard but if you try it might work!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Tell her you love her and ask her to write a list of things that
are stressing her, you are there for her and want to help her change her life as she has done so much for you!.
Try and get her to the doctors anti depressents will help and won't cost her as much I mean her life!.
I have a friend who drinks and no one can tell her to change it's hard but if you try it might work!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I am a real believer in prayer!. Right now I am going to pray for this entire situation, your Mom, her husband(where would she be without him to enable her, but he is making sure she has a place to live and a place to eat should she choose to---he could kick her out---and then--where would she be-----drinking--somewhere else--) so this is not really his fault, re read what I just wrote, and see for yourself what you are forgetting he is doing for her!.!.!.!.!.who else would do this, and put up with her alcoholism this long!.!.!.and not kick her to the curb!.!.!.
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Like I said, I believe in prayer, I am going to pray for this entire family to have a change of life right now!. That Jesus Christ promise to heal us if we believe, I am praising him right now to heal this situation in your Mom, and all your lives!.
I know some people will laugh at this, I do not care!. I care about what God promised us that through the stripes placed on his precious son's body, we are healed!.
God richly bless all of you!. This may not start today, but I believe a healing will happen in your family!. I claim the promise for you!. You believe it with me!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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Like I said, I believe in prayer, I am going to pray for this entire family to have a change of life right now!. That Jesus Christ promise to heal us if we believe, I am praising him right now to heal this situation in your Mom, and all your lives!.
I know some people will laugh at this, I do not care!. I care about what God promised us that through the stripes placed on his precious son's body, we are healed!.
God richly bless all of you!. This may not start today, but I believe a healing will happen in your family!. I claim the promise for you!. You believe it with me!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i'm really sorry to hear what your going through, if she cant see she has a problem then its a tough one, all i can suggest is seeking help ask the doctors if there are any support groups near you, or find out if there anyone you can talk to, im sure there will be phone lines, so you can have a chat with somebody who has delt with the same thing your going through and they'll have better suggestions, or if your not getting help from your doctors make a complaint or change doctors till somebody will help you out, good luck and all the bestWww@Answer-Health@Com