Need some help regarding my son.?!
Question: Need some help regarding my son!.!?
Hello, I have a 22 year old son, and I think he has a serious problem!.
Here's some backstory!.
Lately he developed a cold, nothing major, but it seemed to really be hitting him hard, weeks and weeks passed but his condition just deteriorated, this is when he called me!.
I recommended he go to the doctor, and get some tests done, so he did!. He called me up with crushing news - "Dad, I just tested positive for HIV!." He told me through choked tears!.
I was crushed, and I didn't know what to say!. I was scared and confused!. I tried to be there for him, but my fear and confused soon turned into a sharp feeling of betrayal!.
"Son, are you gay!?!" I shouted at him!. "No!" he yelled, but I knew this was just a ploy, and I hung up the phone!.
I am worried, really worried though, have I been living with a gay for 20 years!? Or did he just recently catch it!? He was in San Francisco for a while, maybe a gay coughed on him or something!. And despite him being gay, he is my son, and I do love him, so is he going to hell for sure!? Or can he repent!?
I am worried Yahoo Answers, please help me!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Here's some backstory!.
Lately he developed a cold, nothing major, but it seemed to really be hitting him hard, weeks and weeks passed but his condition just deteriorated, this is when he called me!.
I recommended he go to the doctor, and get some tests done, so he did!. He called me up with crushing news - "Dad, I just tested positive for HIV!." He told me through choked tears!.
I was crushed, and I didn't know what to say!. I was scared and confused!. I tried to be there for him, but my fear and confused soon turned into a sharp feeling of betrayal!.
"Son, are you gay!?!" I shouted at him!. "No!" he yelled, but I knew this was just a ploy, and I hung up the phone!.
I am worried, really worried though, have I been living with a gay for 20 years!? Or did he just recently catch it!? He was in San Francisco for a while, maybe a gay coughed on him or something!. And despite him being gay, he is my son, and I do love him, so is he going to hell for sure!? Or can he repent!?
I am worried Yahoo Answers, please help me!Www@Answer-Health@Com
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Well I would personally hope that he just got it from a *****!. The last thing we need in this country is a gay *****, although I hear there are many of them, it could prove negative for our country's outlook!. My suggestion- put him down and start from scratch, instead of letting your next one play at a friend's for the weekend, instead tell him that he is only allowed to go to the YMCA on weekends!.
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He's not necessarily gay!. There are other ways of getting HIV!. Many other ways!.
Also, you cannot get HIV or AIDS by being coughed on, sneezed on, or by shaking someone's hand!. It requires the exchange of bodily fluids, like blood or semen, for example!. You can get HIV from sexual intercourse with a person who has HIV or AIDS, or by using a hypodermic needle that was previously used by someone with HIV or AIDS!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Also, you cannot get HIV or AIDS by being coughed on, sneezed on, or by shaking someone's hand!. It requires the exchange of bodily fluids, like blood or semen, for example!. You can get HIV from sexual intercourse with a person who has HIV or AIDS, or by using a hypodermic needle that was previously used by someone with HIV or AIDS!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think you need to get over your idea that God hates gays, this has been a downfall to the Christian belief!. There are plenty of churches that don't think this way!. Right now you need to be there for your son!. Gay or Straight, he just got the news that he will in fact die!. He tested positive dude, get over yourself and just be the loving father you have been his whole life!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
Not only gay people have aids!. You should be there for your son now more than ever, even though if he is gay! He is your son! who knows, maybe he slept with a girl who had aids, and besides, what makes you think that he got it in San Francisco!? You do know aids takes a while to develop, therefore he could of had gotten it before he went there!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
Are you for real!? This seems like a joke cause I can't believe a father would really be upset more by the fact that his son is gay more than being upset about him having a fatal disease!.
Anyhow, you should repent and hope that you're not going to hell!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Anyhow, you should repent and hope that you're not going to hell!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
ok!.!.!.!.!.!.this question can't be for real!.
but, if so, *crazy*, Homosexuals are not the only one's that have HIV/Aids!. He could have sex with a woman and contracted this as well!. You can't be coughed on and "catch" HIV!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
but, if so, *crazy*, Homosexuals are not the only one's that have HIV/Aids!. He could have sex with a woman and contracted this as well!. You can't be coughed on and "catch" HIV!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
Good lord! Straight people can get AIDS too!. Do some research first, before spamming Yahoo with BS!.
Any parent should love their child unconditionally forever!
You're gay, and probably some idiot teen, with nothing better to do, by the looks of your bio!. ;)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Any parent should love their child unconditionally forever!
You're gay, and probably some idiot teen, with nothing better to do, by the looks of your bio!. ;)Www@Answer-Health@Com
No, I cant heaven or hell anyone only God makes that decision!. Please just be there for your son!. He is really going to need you!. The sexuality issue is truely illrelevant issue now!. He has to take care of himself!. I will pray for your family!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Regardless of your son's sexual orientation, the reality is that he has an incurable condition (HIV) which can affect anyone, not just gay men!. He will need your support, not condemnation, as he learns how to treat his illness!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
*****a plz!.!.!.i ****** your son, that ***** was loose befor i got to him though!.!.!.his street name is sexual chocolate!.!.!.i reamed his a$s, knocked him out and left him there, didnt even pay him!.!.!.!.tell him to check for clamidia now!.!.HAHAHAH owned his immune systemWww@Answer-Health@Com
Really, that's for God to decide!.
And your job is to love him and continue to teach him what your Faith has taught you!.
Pray about it!.!.!. and leave it up to God!. I don't think you "catch" gayness!.!.!.!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
And your job is to love him and continue to teach him what your Faith has taught you!.
Pray about it!.!.!. and leave it up to God!. I don't think you "catch" gayness!.!.!.!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
OMG my dads a pastor!.!.!. YOUR SON ISNT GOING TO HELL!!!!! God loves all no matter what!.!.!.lol dont worry your sons just like everyone else no matter what his orientation is!. and you dont even know for sure if he is gay!. :) God bless allWww@Answer-Health@Com
wow i hate gays as much as the next guy, but give him a break plus your not even certain he is gay, he said he wasnt maybe he telling the truth, you should believe him ur his own father!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
"Maybe a gay coughed on him"!?!?!?!? are you kidding me!? This questions shows how truly ignorant some people in the world can be!.
HIV is not an airborne virus!.!.!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
HIV is not an airborne virus!.!.!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
Being gay is not a choice!. You should not have shouted at him in the first place!. Be more accepting-he is your SON!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
talk to him!.
if he sais hes not gay believe him and support him through his dificult time its quite simple and if he is you will have to learn to deal with it
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if he sais hes not gay believe him and support him through his dificult time its quite simple and if he is you will have to learn to deal with it
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Umm what exactly do you think HIV is!?!? You don't have to be gay to catch it!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You're an ***!. Thanks for the 2 points!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
im 14 but if your sons gay support him thats wat i would do!. Sorry if i coudnt help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Being gay is a choice!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
How is your *** feeling today pal!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
First, HIV infection is NOT a disease that only affects homosexual men; it does not care what a person's sexual orientation is!. In fact, the vast majority of people who have HIV are heterosexual!.
Second, HIV is *NOT* spread through ANY kind of "casual contact" such as coughing or touching!. (Well, in theory, it is possible, but very, very, very unlikely; just like it's *possible* but unlikely that an asteroid will hit the earth before the next US Presidential Election!. A very specific, and frankly disgusting, set of circumstances would have to be followed for HIV to be transmitted through "casual contact"!.) Think of it this way, if HIV was spread through coughing, many many more people would have HIV than already do!.
Rather than worrying about whether or not your adult son is gay you should educate yourself on HIV and AIDS and what can be done about and with it!. Here's a quick primer: It is NOT any sort of death sentence!.
Start with looking at the websites I post as my source!. Share them with your son!.
In any event, your shouting at your son when he's obviously going through such a highly distressing emotional time doesn't demonstrate your professed love for him very much!. Consider calling back and apologizing and then starting a conversation about HIV and his health!. And leave YOUR fears and insecurities out of the conversation!. This is when you should put yourself aside and "be there" for your son whom you profess to love!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Second, HIV is *NOT* spread through ANY kind of "casual contact" such as coughing or touching!. (Well, in theory, it is possible, but very, very, very unlikely; just like it's *possible* but unlikely that an asteroid will hit the earth before the next US Presidential Election!. A very specific, and frankly disgusting, set of circumstances would have to be followed for HIV to be transmitted through "casual contact"!.) Think of it this way, if HIV was spread through coughing, many many more people would have HIV than already do!.
Rather than worrying about whether or not your adult son is gay you should educate yourself on HIV and AIDS and what can be done about and with it!. Here's a quick primer: It is NOT any sort of death sentence!.
Start with looking at the websites I post as my source!. Share them with your son!.
In any event, your shouting at your son when he's obviously going through such a highly distressing emotional time doesn't demonstrate your professed love for him very much!. Consider calling back and apologizing and then starting a conversation about HIV and his health!. And leave YOUR fears and insecurities out of the conversation!. This is when you should put yourself aside and "be there" for your son whom you profess to love!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hmm!.!.!.I'm pretty sure that gayness isn't contagious and are you for serious!? God loves everyone regardless of sexual orientation!. Even though it's wrong in the bible, he can ask for forgiveness because it might not actually be up to him!. Sometimes you don't choose your sexual orientation!. It's just there!. So calm down!. Your son is fine!. You're the one who needs to repent for being so close-minded and cruel to someone that you helped give life to!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Aww im so sorry about all this!. but maybe you shouldnt have jumped to conclusions about asking if he was gay!.!. it could of came from blood transfusions!.!. etc!! !. im not making up excuses , ya just never know ,, all tho this may be the case your still his father and hes still your son!.!. just do ur best to be there for him!. he really needs you now more than ever!.!. Good Luck and god bless you both!.!. and !.--horny man how can you be so rude and heartless!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Just because he said he was HIV positive, does not mean he's gay!. He could have contracted HIV from a female or sharing a needle!. Whatever the circumstances are, don't judge him right off the bat!. Be more supportive of your son and try to talk things out!. By asking the question is he going to hell for sure, is really not for "us" to say!. Only GOD can judge us!. I only ask of you is that you don't push your son away, he needs all the help and support he can get!. And to you, I wish you all the love and support there is in the world to help you get through this!. I have two sons myself, and with them I've had to deal with STD's!. I was blessed that it wasn't anything more serious!. But whatever you do, try not to blow up, just be calm and talk this thing through!. Much love to ya!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I am so sorry that your son has HIV!. I don't think the issue you should be focusing on is if you have been living with a gay son or not!. You sound like a Christian, so you should try to remember that all people sin every day!. And all sin is viewed the same in God's eyes!. If you can be forgiven for your sins, anyone can!. The reality is, that your son is going to be dealing with a lot of tough times in the future!. This is going to affect you and your whole family!. What he really needs is your love and support through this difficult time!. For you to show him your unconditional love in spite of the things he may do that you disagree with, is one way to show him the power of God!. All you can do is try to gently show him God's love through your own actions!. Ultimately, his eternal life and judgment will be only between him and God!. Not you and him!. I don't believe that judging him yourself or being less than supportive will help him at all!. Plus you will lose out on precious time wasting it arguing about who is righteous and who is not!.
I honestly don't believe God approves of intolerance!. Good luck and God bless!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
I honestly don't believe God approves of intolerance!. Good luck and God bless!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
Well, first of all lady, I am not gay but I do need to say something!.
If he;s gay or not, that will not count towards the pace his soul will have when he leaves this world!. For example could you please make a difference between this!.!.!.
A guy guy that worships god, goes to church, helps everyone around him, loves his family, harms no one, knows how to behave in public, is respectful towards others, and has committed no crime whatsoever will go to hell just because he's gay!?
So if you're gay satan or whatever you call him will come and take your soul!.!.!. He's your son, even though I don't agree with the idea of being gay, you should be there for him and understand him, specially you, who are his mother and he probably loves you more than anything in the world!.
Being gay or being straight is no reason for one person's soul damnation!. Now if he does whatever he wants, doesnt care about others, is a selfish brat, has no respect for others, then yes, and I pretty much don't even care for those guys!. But a good person!? I mean, I've met gay people that are nicer than regular!. Being gay, lesbian or straight doesn't change the fact that you might eb a good person or a stupid, selfish idiot!.
You must talk to him, and help him out, not help him become straight!.!.!. he won't repent from being gay, he can repent from other things he has made, or from sleeping with so many people without even knowing he could get any dicease, ignorance is the root of our problems these days, so if he's to repent, let him repent for the other sins he may have committed, but not for being gay!.
Anyway, I'm 23, I'm planning on marying a charming loving woman, and I still have some things to repent to, we all have our flaws, no one is perfect, not straight people or gay people!.
Hope I helped, and aid your son, gay or not, let him, know you are there for him, and don't make him stop being gay, teach him how to be a respectful knowledgeable person!. The fact that he ahs aids doesn't mean he's going to die tomorrow, he still has his years to become a good person "gay or straight"
Good luck, and may god bless you!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If he;s gay or not, that will not count towards the pace his soul will have when he leaves this world!. For example could you please make a difference between this!.!.!.
A guy guy that worships god, goes to church, helps everyone around him, loves his family, harms no one, knows how to behave in public, is respectful towards others, and has committed no crime whatsoever will go to hell just because he's gay!?
So if you're gay satan or whatever you call him will come and take your soul!.!.!. He's your son, even though I don't agree with the idea of being gay, you should be there for him and understand him, specially you, who are his mother and he probably loves you more than anything in the world!.
Being gay or being straight is no reason for one person's soul damnation!. Now if he does whatever he wants, doesnt care about others, is a selfish brat, has no respect for others, then yes, and I pretty much don't even care for those guys!. But a good person!? I mean, I've met gay people that are nicer than regular!. Being gay, lesbian or straight doesn't change the fact that you might eb a good person or a stupid, selfish idiot!.
You must talk to him, and help him out, not help him become straight!.!.!. he won't repent from being gay, he can repent from other things he has made, or from sleeping with so many people without even knowing he could get any dicease, ignorance is the root of our problems these days, so if he's to repent, let him repent for the other sins he may have committed, but not for being gay!.
Anyway, I'm 23, I'm planning on marying a charming loving woman, and I still have some things to repent to, we all have our flaws, no one is perfect, not straight people or gay people!.
Hope I helped, and aid your son, gay or not, let him, know you are there for him, and don't make him stop being gay, teach him how to be a respectful knowledgeable person!. The fact that he ahs aids doesn't mean he's going to die tomorrow, he still has his years to become a good person "gay or straight"
Good luck, and may god bless you!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
1!. I am worried - ( of what people will think of ME and MY family)
2!. really worried though( Is it MY faulty that he might be gay)
3!. Have I been living with a gay for 20 years!? (Oh I better get tested too, my son is disgusting)
4!. Or did he just recently catch it!? (Poor Sod - I better get tested)
5!. He was in San Francisco for a while ( Thank god he wasn't near ME!)
6!. Maybe a gay coughed on him or something ( I'M Naive and need a lesson)
7!. And despite him being gay, ( YOUR lesson)
8!. He is my son, and I do love him!. ( MY, I)
9!. So is he going to hell for sure!? Or can he repent!? ( Oh what will people think!)
10!. You will sure be going to hell! Shame on YOU!Www@Answer-Health@Com
2!. really worried though( Is it MY faulty that he might be gay)
3!. Have I been living with a gay for 20 years!? (Oh I better get tested too, my son is disgusting)
4!. Or did he just recently catch it!? (Poor Sod - I better get tested)
5!. He was in San Francisco for a while ( Thank god he wasn't near ME!)
6!. Maybe a gay coughed on him or something ( I'M Naive and need a lesson)
7!. And despite him being gay, ( YOUR lesson)
8!. He is my son, and I do love him!. ( MY, I)
9!. So is he going to hell for sure!? Or can he repent!? ( Oh what will people think!)
10!. You will sure be going to hell! Shame on YOU!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Umm, you don't 'catch' being gay!. Your son is probably really scared!. The problem isn't if you've been 'living with a gay' for 20 years, the problem is getting your son healthy!. Also, you don't have to be gay in order to contract HIV!. Additionally HIV is no longer considered a 'death sentence', depending on what strain he has, he could very well live a long, healthy life!. His immune system is compromised though, and he needs to get medical attention and he needs your support!.
Edit: I see you've added racist comments to your homophobe post!. Aren't you a delight!? Troll!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Edit: I see you've added racist comments to your homophobe post!. Aren't you a delight!? Troll!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I don't even know where to begin!. Your opinion of homosexuality, your obvious racism, and your lack of education regarding HIV are shocking, considering it is 2008!. ANYONE can get HIV under the right conditions--NOT just African Americans or homosexuals!.
Although HIV was first identified in homosexuals in the early 1980's, people soon learned that there are other risk factors, too!. HIV can be transmitted by unprotected sexual contact with someone who is infected, direct contact with infected blood (as in sharing needles for drug use, or getting infected blood into your bloodstream through a cut or open sore), or it can be transmitted from a mother to her baby at birth or by breastfeeding!. Many years ago, before donated blood was tested, people could get infected by blood transfusion!. Infection this way is rare these days, since all donated blood is thoroughly tested before use!.
*HIV is not transmitted by saliva, and it is not transmitted by casual contact!. You can touch, hug, or even kiss someone who is HIV+ without getting infected yourself!.
There is no cure for HIV, but with treatment, many people with HIV can live longer, healthier lives!. Your son needs to see a specialist and follow recommendations regarding treatment!. That will give him the best chance of living longer, healthier!. Most people have no symptoms of HIV until their immune systems are seriously damaged!. It is often transmitted because someone who does not yet know they are infected transmits the virus to other people!.
Also: Being gay is not a disease that a person can catch, nor is it something that needs to be cured!. And most important, there is NOTHING WRONG with a person being gay!. The idea that someone will go to hell because he is gay is outrageous!.
You say you love your son, yet you automatically assumed that because he has HIV, he must be gay, you admit that you yelled at him, and you clearly have not accepted his answer to your direct question!. That does not sound like love to me!. He may be gay, but didn't want to tell you the truth because he was afraid of how you would react!. Considering that you hung up on him, it sounds like he was right!.
I understand that finding out that your son has HIV is a tremendous shock, but it was a tremendous shock to him, too!. He needs your support and understanding right now, not anger, criticism, and avoidance!. It took a tremendous amount of courage for him to tell you about his diagnosis!.
I think it would help you and your family if you all (including your son) get into counseling to deal with the emotional issues associated with this diagnosis, and talk to specialists to learn more about HIV!. Your son should be encouraged to follow doctors' recommendations regarding treatment!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Although HIV was first identified in homosexuals in the early 1980's, people soon learned that there are other risk factors, too!. HIV can be transmitted by unprotected sexual contact with someone who is infected, direct contact with infected blood (as in sharing needles for drug use, or getting infected blood into your bloodstream through a cut or open sore), or it can be transmitted from a mother to her baby at birth or by breastfeeding!. Many years ago, before donated blood was tested, people could get infected by blood transfusion!. Infection this way is rare these days, since all donated blood is thoroughly tested before use!.
*HIV is not transmitted by saliva, and it is not transmitted by casual contact!. You can touch, hug, or even kiss someone who is HIV+ without getting infected yourself!.
There is no cure for HIV, but with treatment, many people with HIV can live longer, healthier lives!. Your son needs to see a specialist and follow recommendations regarding treatment!. That will give him the best chance of living longer, healthier!. Most people have no symptoms of HIV until their immune systems are seriously damaged!. It is often transmitted because someone who does not yet know they are infected transmits the virus to other people!.
Also: Being gay is not a disease that a person can catch, nor is it something that needs to be cured!. And most important, there is NOTHING WRONG with a person being gay!. The idea that someone will go to hell because he is gay is outrageous!.
You say you love your son, yet you automatically assumed that because he has HIV, he must be gay, you admit that you yelled at him, and you clearly have not accepted his answer to your direct question!. That does not sound like love to me!. He may be gay, but didn't want to tell you the truth because he was afraid of how you would react!. Considering that you hung up on him, it sounds like he was right!.
I understand that finding out that your son has HIV is a tremendous shock, but it was a tremendous shock to him, too!. He needs your support and understanding right now, not anger, criticism, and avoidance!. It took a tremendous amount of courage for him to tell you about his diagnosis!.
I think it would help you and your family if you all (including your son) get into counseling to deal with the emotional issues associated with this diagnosis, and talk to specialists to learn more about HIV!. Your son should be encouraged to follow doctors' recommendations regarding treatment!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
while the HIV is a total bummer i think that living with a gay is not a terrible thing!. also, your son might not be gay, just got it via a swimming pool or in airplane air!. talk to him!. HIV does not always equal gay!.Www@Answer-Health@Com