A friend of mine is going through chemo but............?!


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A friend of mine is going through chemo but............?

She was rushed to hospital over the weekend with a kidney infection. The docs say she is responding to treatment but this will delay her chemo treatment and will be few days before we know weather her infection is under control. I went to see her yesterday and she looks really bad and is very weak. Will she pull through or is it going to be simply too much for her already weak body to cope with? No nasty answers please as i am very close to my friend. I need to know so i can prepare myself and she also has a 2 year old daughter if it is bad news how do you tell a 2 year old her mother is dying? Thank you all for answering this difficult question.


Answers:

My heart goes out to your friend who is so ill and yourself. i know it is so painful to watch someone you love become so ill.
It is difficult to tell if this is the end or not. Depends how bad the kidney infection is and how advanced the cancer is....they are probably delaying chemo becuase her immunity is already low with the infection in her body. Only time will tell i am afraid. It is always difficult when i am asked how long is someone going to live when they are diagnosed with cancer. It is like asking how long is a piece of string. Only God knows.
Your friend will look ill at the mo having a kidney infection and going through chemo.
I am not sure how bad your friends cancer is? Many people survive cancer with chemo etc. I don;t want to give you false hope but your friend may recover from the infection and then restart the chemo. Only the doctors will know. have you spoken with the next of kin of your friend as the docs would have told them.
I think helping someone with cancer is stressful for a loved one and friend and you may well benefit from contacting cancer reaearch UK who may be able to give you further info. Also if you are finding this really hard to come to terms with...then maybe you could benefit from some counselling? I only say that as I am a nurse and can see what stress relatives friends etc go through as well as the patient. Also my sister had cancer...and survived but at the time she was ill it did take its toll on me and I had some counselling which helped.
It is so different nursing a patient to a family member. You care a whole lot with a patient but when its family it just hurts more.

Cavorim = I agree that the father will tell the 2 year old if the mummy passes away BUT don not underestimate a child losing a parent! Even 2 year olds feel the absence of a parent! trust me!

I hope no-one gives you any horrible nasty answers.
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