How to deal with my mum having cancer?!


Question: How to deal with my mum having cancer!?
About this time last year, my mum was diagnosed with breast cancer!. She didn't want to tell me anything about it rather than saying that she is sick!. I found out that she has cancer when she was checking articles on the internet about cancer and treatments!. I was shocked to know that she has cancer!. Later on, she told me everything and she kept telling me to take care of my sister and brother after her (i'm 14)!. My brother still doesn't know about it and when he asked my mum about her hair loss, she said it will come back and didn't tell him because he is alone in UK for college!. Everytime i hear the word cancer, i just cry and keep asking why did that happen!. Until now i can't accept the idea that one day i'll wake up to know my mum is gone!. Sometimes my mum thinks that i forgot that she got cancer but i didn't!. I just don't know how to tell her that i love her so much and can't go on without her by my side!. My mum is trying to keep it secret from her friends and mine too, so i have no one to talk to!. I know we all will eventually die but i can't imagine that day!. If you have dealt with such thing, tell me what to do!.Www@Answer-Health@Com


Answers:
I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this situation!. You do not need to handle this yourself or be the one with all the burden, you're only 14!. You need to tell your older brother in college what is going on!. He would want to know and if he didn't find out till it was to late he will have a harder time dealing with it!.
He would be a big help to your mother and you!. I just lost my wife to cancer last month and we have 3 young kids!. My children we're better off knowing everything and the chances their mother had!. They knew that Mom was going to die months before she did and we made the most of the time!. Because of that it was easier on Mom and on the children!. All of the experts will tell you that you shouldn't keep things from children ( or adults) they are more resilient then you think and they pick up on things anyways!.
I think what you need to do is call a local cancer support group, tell them what is going on and they can help you!. There are pamphlets out there that you can give her that can advise her on how to share the burden and why it's important for her to do that!.
It is important for her recovery and for you too to do something about this!. I'll pray for you and you are not alone,
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I'm very sorry=( I know everybody has to go through this sometime but you are way to young to go through this!. You can always talk to a psychologist or a really close family friend!. It would make you feel better=) And don't be scared to tell your mom you love her, if you don't tell her now then you'll probably never get that chance againWww@Answer-Health@Com

I'm so sorry to hear your mum is sick!. My aunt died with cancer when my cousin was 14!. It's a terrible thing and you wonder why all the time!.
Talking about it with your mum or someone else close to you is the best thing for you right now!. Tell your mum exactly how you feel, she needs to hear that from you!. I'll say a prayer for you and your mum, family!. God bless and email me if you need to vent anytime!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

im sorry
i have no good advice except love her!
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i am really sorry to hear that!. my mum was diagnosed with advanced cancer in her bowel, liver and ovaries about a month ago, i had to fly home to ireland from australia (i was backpacking for a year) to care for her!. my world was turned upside down in minutes!.
just so you know, she has a very very good chance of beating this thing!. many breast cancer patients survive!. she has a lot of options!. when people get cancer now it doesn't mean that they have been handed a death sentence!. she needs to think positive and fight!. keeping it all bottled up inside isn't helping anyone!. she needs to talk!.
i know what your going through and its very hard, confide in your closest friend,you need to talk!.
feel free to email me at any time!. my thoughts and prayers are with you both!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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