I had a breast surgery 3 months ago,I need help from my only son,but he is in lo!
Question: I had a breast surgery 3 months ago,I need help from my only son,but he is in love w/ a woman !?
from another city he can't give me that help, i am against that relationship cause, right now my son is not the same w/me,he is older enough to know what is good for him--but i think is to much for him-- she has 2 kids f/ previous relation!. I really don't know her yet, but i see something wrong w/ this pic!. What can I do!? My son has to open his eyes & see whats going on!? I respect his opinion & his relation w/ women, but w/ this one is different!.Now i need his help & he is rejecting me!. What should I do!?
Some times I feel lonely & depress!. I'm losing my son!? Can someone help me to cope w/ this problem!? Www@Answer-Health@Com
Some times I feel lonely & depress!. I'm losing my son!? Can someone help me to cope w/ this problem!? Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
You are mixing up issues, I am sorry that you have to go though all the pressures and pains of breast cancer, I am sure that friends are willing to assist you also, if not there are agencies that would have volunteers to help you with your needs!.
As far as your son goes, it is his life and he needs to live it!. He is probably rejecting you because he feels strongly about this girl and is willing to (if pressed) take a side because you give him no option!.
You could lose your son through this difficult time if you push your beliefs too much on him and it is your call!.
I know there are people that you can talk to and help you with the cancer, they may also shed some light on issues of your son!.
I believe he knows your position on his new girlfriend, what you should do is now let him learn and don't insist that he make a choice!.
You need to concentrate on healing, it is your life!. Let what you cannot control go, and take care of yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
As far as your son goes, it is his life and he needs to live it!. He is probably rejecting you because he feels strongly about this girl and is willing to (if pressed) take a side because you give him no option!.
You could lose your son through this difficult time if you push your beliefs too much on him and it is your call!.
I know there are people that you can talk to and help you with the cancer, they may also shed some light on issues of your son!.
I believe he knows your position on his new girlfriend, what you should do is now let him learn and don't insist that he make a choice!.
You need to concentrate on healing, it is your life!. Let what you cannot control go, and take care of yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
dont worry!.!.!.u cant always b protective over ur son!.!.itll just drive him away!.!.!.give him some space!.!.!.if he gets hurt he wont make the mistake agian!.!.!.trust him and love him for any decision he makes and u will feel better and so would he, which might even strengthen ur relationship again!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'm sorry that you're facing breast heath issues and you feel like you are alone!.
You don't mention that you are in follow-up treatment (chemo or radiation) that might lend itself to requiring physical help such as transportation to treatment appointments or help with things at home, etc!., so it's difficult to know what you might be needing to depend on him for other than his encouragement and love!.
It's clear in your post that you don't like the girlfriend and I'm sure it's just as clear to your son as it is here!. I don't intend to be harsh or rude, but it sounds a little like you're trying to practice emotional blackmail -- "I'm sick so if you love me, you'll quit seeing your girlfriend that I don't like, and pay attention to me and only me!."
You say you respect your son's opinion and his relationships with women, and I think if you really do, and you convey that to your son, you might find him far more open to helping you!. If, however, he is constantly being criticized for his relationship!.!.!. most of us avoid situations where we are not respected!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You don't mention that you are in follow-up treatment (chemo or radiation) that might lend itself to requiring physical help such as transportation to treatment appointments or help with things at home, etc!., so it's difficult to know what you might be needing to depend on him for other than his encouragement and love!.
It's clear in your post that you don't like the girlfriend and I'm sure it's just as clear to your son as it is here!. I don't intend to be harsh or rude, but it sounds a little like you're trying to practice emotional blackmail -- "I'm sick so if you love me, you'll quit seeing your girlfriend that I don't like, and pay attention to me and only me!."
You say you respect your son's opinion and his relationships with women, and I think if you really do, and you convey that to your son, you might find him far more open to helping you!. If, however, he is constantly being criticized for his relationship!.!.!. most of us avoid situations where we are not respected!.Www@Answer-Health@Com