What if you just found out that your lover has Genital Herpes?!


Question: What if you just found out that your lover has Genital Herpes!?
If you were dating someone for a while!.!.!. lets say a year!.!.!. You both were certain that you were going to spend the rest of your lives together!. You are so in love, you have had unprotected and protected sex a million times, you tell each other you can't live without one another!.!.!. than you find out that they have herpes!! Also!.!.!. they have known for a long time but they were in denial and finally came to reality so they told you!. How would you react!?!?

If the love of your life that you have been with for a year is now just telling you that they have genital herpes!.!.!. how would you react!?

Serious answers only please!.!.!. and no, this is not about me so don't yell at me!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com


Answers:
I all ready have herpes but if I didn't!.!.!.!. I would be a little shocked, hurt and angry with him for not tell me earlier (you can spread herpes even if condoms are used by the way)!. After that wore off I would get tested for herpes to be on the safe side!. Many people would want you to dump him for not being honest with you, but it's very hard to tell some one stuff like that!. You should also know that herpes does nothing to your fertility or to your reproductive system!.
If you really love him then you can still stay with him if you want to and that is some thing that the two of you should talk about!. There are measures you can take that would help prevent you from getting herpes!. He should be on some kind of suppressive therapy, he should NEVER have sex if he has or thinks he is getting an out break!. Herpes is more contagious while there is an out break but there is a very small chance of getting it while there are no signs of an out break!. You can be exposed to an std and never get it if you take all of the proper precautions and do some research about it!. He woudln't have purposefully gave you herpes if he didn't know he had them to begin with!. Many people don't know they have herpes until they get tested or have an out break!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

if i really loved the person then i would stich by him,the person has come clean even if a little late,it takes guds to admit something with so much stigma that also admitting it to someone u love,genital herpes is not like AIDS!.it only spreads when the other person is having an outbreak & u have sex at that time!.with time the outbreaks become very less,try to understand that the reason the person didn't tell earlier is becz they r themselfs ashamed of it & afraid of ur reaction & humiliation!.everyone deserves a second chance & i would do exactly that!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Well First of all get tested!. Its better to be safe than sorry!.If you really do love that person you have to overcome the reality that they have this disease!. Learn more about it!. Then if you decide to leave that person, you will learn from your mistakes!. But if not than just be strong!. Love overcomes everything!. Kinda cheesy but the truth!. Oh yeah make sure that the person is on meds!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

If you know him for only a year and have sex with him a million times (2,739 times a day) then this is not true!!

Don't be so naive! Get rid of him and seek treatment so that you will not end up with PIDs or infertility later! This is NOT love at all only Deception!!Www@Answer-Health@Com

I would cut his dick off!. And this is a serious answer!.

If he just found out, that's one thing!. But if he knew all along, he is a real *** hole, and if he loved her, he wouldn't have had unprotected sex with her when he KNEW he had something so awful!Www@Answer-Health@Com

you might as well stay with them if you love them that much!. I'd be pissed that I was lied to, but if you had unprotected sex, you've probably got herpes too!. So, might as well stay together!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I definitely agree with shekillsangels, thumbs up 4 u, why would you stick with someone like that anyways!?Www@Answer-Health@Com

I'd dump that son of a ***** and get myself tested IMMEDIATELY!. Spreading STDs and knowing you're doing it is just wrong!.


Thumbs down!? You mean to tell me you'd stick with a person who purposely gave you herpes!? Oh my!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

So it sucks!.
But realistically if you love him be tested and move thru it!.
These ppl here are being obsurb!.
Face it honey you had unprotected sex to you have to take some blame if you are infected!.
So lets say you leave him!.!.!.!. You run the same risk as before for contracting it because you are more likely to have unprotected sex again based on your history!.

If you forgive him you start with an open honesty that all relationships need!.
Sure he lied about it, but the fact that he did tell you has to count for something!.

Good luck with your situation!. I hope you move through it!.

Lol just a side note!.!. If you think ppl will tell you they have an STD when you are about to sleep with them think again!. The best way is always wear protection and that is not always proven safe!.

You are fortunate he told you period!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Obviously in a perfect world honesty and clear communication is essential in order to have an ideal relationship!. But it isn't a perfect world and sometimes people do hold back things out of shame, guilt, or fear!. Maybe your bf wants to have this relationship with you badly and felt that if he told you about the herpes he might lose you!. Hard to say what he was thinking!.

Anytime anyone engages in sex with another there is a risk of getting an STD!. And all STD's aren't always transmitted through sex!. So if someone finds out they have something the immediate reaction is that they had sex with someone who had that disease and that's how they got it!. Truth is they may have got it some other innocent way and now they are afraid to tell their partner about their condition!.

I would suggest you have an honest discussion about this and then decide if you still really want to stay together!.

And if your friend wishes to get rid of this problem, see the site below!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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