I had sex while very drunk, I dont know if we used protection. What do I do?!


Question: I had sex while very drunk, I dont know if we used protection. What do I do?
I did something really stupid last week. I was on a night with my work colleaguesI must have drank a lot as I have hardly any memory of the night. I had not had any food and I was drinking wine. Somehow I ended up at the flat of a male colleague. I woke up and he was on top of me, pulling off my underwear. I remember him snapping off my necklace. He was inside me before I really knew what was going on. I must have passed out again, the next thing I remember is being on the floor and he was having anal sex with me, and he was saying that I was 'dirty'. As soon as he was finished he made me get dressed and told me I had to leave.

I must have walked home but I dont really remember the walk, I woke up in my shower. I spent the whole day in bed trying to forget about how stupid I had been. I should never have got so drunk that I had sex with someone I dont even like.

I dont think he used any protection , I know it sounds terrible but I really dont remember. I am worried as I am not on the pill. I know I should have got the morning after pill but I really couldnt face dealing with anything. I am worried about pregnancy, but also STI, esp as we have anal sex as well.

I saw this guy at work and he just acted as if nothing had happened. I totally dont want anything else to happen between us, but I feel sick everytime I see him. I cant sleep. I just keep thinking about how stupid I have been. I think I must need to see someone about my drinking. Surely getting so drunk that I dont remember if we used protection is a sign of problem drinking?

I dont know what to deal with first.

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I hardly know where to start. First there is always the possibility that he also added something to your drink. These days no one can really afford to get drunk or leave their drinks unguarded. It is too late to look in to that and as you say far too late to use the morning after pill.

You need to go to a Sexual Health Clinic, believe me they have heard it all before, and get an STI check and a pregnancy test unless your period comes on time.

If you are going out and getting drunk you need to look at this as well because if you avoided infection and pregnancy this time you may not be so lucky the next and you may really get hurt.

The more I think about what your work colleague did, the more I wonder if you were set up. He clearly used and abused you. Maybe I am naive but I am not convinced the average chap would take that much advantage of a helpless drunk female.

GP for more years than I care to remember



Ask him, as embarrassing as it can get, confront him as if he remembers using protection, if he's clean. and above all get tested for STDs anyway, and run a pregnancy test, as it's probably too late for the day after pill.



no problem it was just a mistake that you did but, from here you can learn some good things which you need to care always when you drunk.

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Get tested for everything including HIV 3 months from now!!!!!! bad bad bad



great night we had. i thought u had a condom :Z



well its too late for the morning after pill so go to docs get a test and a test for other things if you are pregnant and don't want it then an abortion is just a pill that flushes it out of you like a blood clot period.



That guys a jerk u should ask him but i doubt he will say much and that's horrible (don't leave urself vulnerable next time) tbh u was actually raped by him in a sense cause u was out of it and he just played with ur body without permission and even do anal sex which i think is just nasty! but yes i think u should go dr and gp and have urself checked and if u r pregnant i hope u don't abort it cause it still ur child + u can get child support from him but up to u wat u do.

But yh sorry to hear about that and yh i wouldn't put it past him to not go all the way and *** inside u :/



Im sure plenty of people have been their got drunk and slept with someone they wouldnt have sober, I know i have was drunk and i just couldnt say no like i would when i was sober.

Anyways i guess you could just ask him if he did or not.

And Dr Frank i agree, from what she desecribes she was in and out of conciousness so sounds like very very drunk since i've never been that bad and i drink alot. Personally i'd never sleep with a girl in that state if she cant even keep herself concious then she's in no state to give proper concent. And personally i dont like sleeping with drunk girls, Never slept with anyone who was more drunk than i am, if they get so drunk that they cant walk or stay awake or throw up i usually just take em back too their bed and let em sleep it off. Generally find they usually respect u more then for being a gentleman and if they did actually like u then they'll still like you the next day




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