My Grandpa is dying and I don't know how to cope?!

I am so sorry your Gramps is dying. Hug him, cry with him and tell him you love him. He understands and will be pleased to hear of your love for him. Spend as much time with him as you can. And don't forget to hug your grandmother and support her. She too is losing someone she loves. Sometimes it helps to write the person a letter and let someone else read it to them. It will be emotional and it will be tough but you and your grandmother will get through this.

I have been through many family deaths in my life including my father and many uncles, aunts and others. There is never an easy way to say goodbye. Regrettably death is an Integral part of this journey. Try not to loose it but do tell him what you feel and that you love him. Now is not the time to hold back. He knows his life is about to end so now is the time for you to tell him what is in your heart. Do not wait till it is to late. It will not be easy for you but it will make his end so much better. Never be ashamed to cry for someone you Love.

Hi John...I'll first start out by saying..I'm deeply sorry that your gramps is nearing the end of this life.Soon your gramps will enter into his new afterlife,and will surely be at peace.I want to give you a good piece of advice....when you said that you want to tell your gramps that you love him,but it's just too hard for you to look at him because it's just too sad? I strongly advise you to please...look at your gramps..and tell him how much you really love him.And,if you don't do this John? And,he passes on? You'll never forgive yourself for not saying those words to him while he was still with you.Please...just think about it.Ok? I'll be praying for you,your gramps and your whole family...GOD BLESS.

And,by telling your gramps you love him and any other words of love,and feelings you've ever had for him over the many years the 2 of you spent together...This will help you through the grieving process/coping process.It helped me when my grandma was dying,I was fortunate enough to tell her that I loved her,and how much she meant to me all my life.And,by expressing my feelings to her brfore she passed? That really helped me through my grieving...and helped me to cope much easier also.Like I said John..I'll be praying for all of you...GOD BLESS.

Jonohh. It's a sad time when someone you love passes on. I know how you are feeling because I have lost someone very close to me. But you will forever regret not saying what you want to say to your gramps, so be brave. Go and sit with him and hold his hand. If you are too emotional to tell him how much you love him, place your head very gently on his neck, chest or just on his pillow next to him (be careful not to make him uncomfortable) and gently hug him or just put your arm over his chest. Take his hand and put it round your shoulders or neck, or just on your head, so that he knows you want to be close to him. Let your emotions ride. If you can master some words, just say I love you gramps. Nothing else needs to be said.

When your gramps passes on, he will be at peace. But his soul will live on and he will move on to another plain. If you are religious, allow your beliefs to support you through this emotional time. Find a nice photo of your gramps and put it somewhere so that you see it often. Grieve for your gramps when he has gone, because it will help you through this sad time. You should also give support to your family members. Keep his memory alive by talking about him often and laughing about the good times. You will recover from your grief, because you come across as a strong and sensitive guy. You're one of the good guys and your gramps will be proud of you. Take care now. Chaz

Hello,

It is difficult to deal with death. What has helped me is to think of all the good memories of the person. The positive impact that they have had on my life which will never go away and which I can share with each and every person I come in contact with. The time each of us is on this planet is short no matter how many years. That is why it is important to make the most of each day. We never know when our last day will be. I would encourage you to tell your grandfather how you feel while you still can. It will matter to him and will matter to you. You won't have regrets of not telling him how important he was to you. It will also probably make his passing easier. We are all spiritual beings. We come from our Creator into this world and then transition back to eternity. Our spiritual essence is never destroyed. Your grandfather when he passes can be an angel for you, always watching over you. Someday you will see him again. His passing is just a temporary physical detachment. Feel blessed that you had someone so wonderful in your life and try to show that to others. How we treat each person that we come in contact with can have such an important impact on their life. Pray for comfort during this difficult time and know that time does heal. I will put you in my ptrayers.

Take care,
Barb Doyle, Sc.

I'm so sorry. :( I've had several deaths in my family in the last year. All I can tell you is how I cope with it. For one thing, most of my losses were older folks, also, and had been bedridden and in pain for quite a while. It sounds like your gpa has probably lost his quality of life because of his Parkinson's (or I imagine he has.) The way I look at deaths like this is to see it as a blessing. This may sound strange to you, I'm not sure how old you are. By blessing, I mean that your loved one is no longer in pain or suffering. I'm not the world's most religious person, but I do believe in Heaven...I have to or I couldn't have gotten through all of the deaths in my life. So, the way I look at it, your loved one is not suffering anymore, he is whole again in a beautiful place, and you will see him again. I know this is hard, God Bless, but I hope you can see what I'm saying. Take care.