I am in a stressful situation and need advice, Mom has cancer and I think in den!


Question: I am in a stressful situation and need advice, Mom has cancer and I think in denial, won't talk about it.?
Its only a week since hearing the news but she shuts down when people asks her how she is dealing with it. Plus I have a niece with a chronic illness that will be a lifelong battle and my siblings are of no help at all. Add having a full time job dealing with disabled adults to the mix. Help!!!

Answers:

You help your mom the same way you did before she got cancer and if she wants to talk about it she will.



So what is your question.

Your mother has an illness she doesn't want to burden her children with, that is her choice and her right.

From the way you seem to be reacting and making this about you, I probably wouldn't have wanted to tell you about mine either.



You need to go see your Dr for some tranquilizers before you have a meltdown. My mom died of Acute Mylogenous Leukemia. We were just told that she was going for some tests in another town.

Never trust parents to tell the truth when it's about them, they won't. Anyway she passed on in March 2003. I don''t deal with death too well, so later that year some very close friends were in town and let me get smashed, I mean passed out smashed. That's how I managed to deal with the pain, I don't know what to tell you about how to deal with it.

Not to mention that my father has twice told us something similar and then we get the call, he's having multiple bypass surgery tomorrow, 400 + miles away.

You will have to become numb and go through the motions with your patients for awhile. You desperately need some you time so you can try to pick up the pieces of your mind, I'm sure you're feeling shattered after all of that.

All I can tell you is this, time heals all wounds (mostly), so when you need to be alone and let it all out, you need to tell everybody that you need some space and they are just going to have to live without you for a day or a few days until you get your head straight. Don't tell them all that, just mention that the stress is killing you and you've got to get away for a couple of days. The world will survive while you deal with this.

I hope you manage to survive this and also get away (even if it's across town), but better further away. And turn off your cell phone. OK.




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