How do you get through a loved one suffering badly from cancer?!

if only I could answer this question for you and tell you that youre friend is going to get well.You sound a good and sincere friend, talk to him about thngs gone by, the good things you did together. Make him laugh about passed memories. Try taking him for short walks perhaps in a wheelchair (nobody likes them!!! ) I don't know why it happens to the good people, m y husband was diagnosed over 15 years with lymphoma, thankfuly he still going strong and believes strongly in the power of prayer, and beieve there is stronger being than all of us who decides upon these things. try to stay positiveMy thoughts are with yiu,

I lost my Dad to cancer 6 years ago, and he was also perfectly fit, and healthy. He would hike and climb mountains every weekend. He lasted a year before the cancer finally took over. If he doesn't make it, be happy that his suffering is over, if he continues to battle it, continue to support him mentally and physically, and if he gets through it, then thats something to celebrate. The important thing is to continue to see him, whether he is in a hospital, or to continue to nurture him if he's at home. (also, try to do fun things, fun simple things with him so he can get distracted from the pain)

past experiences

Just be there for them and don't pity them. Be positive, no matter how bad it seems. They suffer a lot not just physically but also mentally. Enlighten their day. Make them smile, that's all you can do. If you find it hard to cope, always tell yourself that this person is still alive. You didn't say what type of cancer the person has but whether he/she still has a long or just a short life expectancy, at least you have the chance to tell him/her everything you want to say, before it's too late. You can prepare yourself for the worst. See it as a gift, not as a curse.