If some1 has got herpes 4rm cheatin and their partner never cheated and no1 had !


Question: If some1 has got herpes 4rm cheatin and their partner never cheated and no1 had cold sores then how else cud t?
Me and my Boyfriend have been together 4 8 months, I have never cheated on him and he never cheated on me either, we both never had cold sores a week r to ago I had a fever and went to the doctors and he said i might have a kidney infection, and then the next three days i was in so much pain when i tried to pee and i could barley walk so i went to the doctors again who thought it was herpes but i said that couldn't of been it as the only person i've had sex with in the past 8 months is my boyfriend but she sent me to hospital just in case and the diagnosed me with herpes, im really scared about the future and boyfriend will find out in two days if he has it and were really scared either way, i have no1 to talk to :'[ and im depressed about what happens if and when we have kids and If he has it can we still have children and will they be healthy, how the hell did i get it if it wasn't some1 else or cold sores, and wat happens if he doesn't have it, he doesn't care he wants to stay with me but can someone help me with advice? please :'[

Answers:

Herpes can lie dormant for many, many months so you or your boyfriend could have already had it. I know suffers that haven’t had an outbreak for over 18 months!! It might be that either of you have had herpes for some time but only mildly therefore were unaware. Although, my understanding is that most often the first ‘outbreak’ is the worst. Not all sores are visible, as you have discovered they could be inside the vagina. When you talk about cold sores, you may be mislead by this term because they also appear as tiny winy pin-prick blisters, as opposed to a large crusty scab we see on people lips with herpes simplex 1. (I do not wish to cast doubts on your relationship with your boyfriend or his honesty but are 100% sure he has not been with anybody else?)

This is not the end of the world; many hundreds of thousands of people lead very normal healthy lives with herpes. So don't panic. There is loads of information and help on the internet so get Googling. And finally go talk to a doctor, preferably one that specialises in STD’s (sexually transmitted diseases), if you have an STD clinic near you go there and chat through all your concerns, don’t worry they have heard it all before and will not judge you, they will be more than happy to help you live with this condition and tell you about the issues with having children –which again isn’t a massive problem. The main problem is if the mother has a bad outbreak in her vagina at the time of birth because as the baby passes through the birth canal it can come into contact with the blisters and burst them thus exposing the baby to the puss. But people with herpes have happy and active sex lives, you just have to refrain when there is a flare up and as I mentioned before this can be less than once per year!

You are in shock at the moment and are clearly very worried. The best thing you can do is get information and then you will be equipped to deal with it. And remember it is not a constant condition, it will come and go on a fairly irregular basis, and stress can be a major trigger for a flare up. So practise any relaxation techniques you know and stop worrying you will be fine.

I had a long term committed relationship with a herpes sufferer. Therefore I researched it.



oh poor baby , yes it is possible you got it from using public bathrooms. Your boyfriend would only get it ONLY if you had sex with him when the herpes were forming ( if in that moment where you had intercourse you felt a heated sensation more like burning , then he probably caught it ) but if it apperead a couple of days after hes fine. Herpes is only caught when there is an outbreak. Everyone holds the herpes cell , but it depends on your body if it will react or not. some are dormant some are not. if he has nothing on his genitals then the doc will never know if he has herpes.

also , the first outbreak is the worst , then it becomes easier to deal with , its really no big deal. When you feel stressed out it is important to relax , shower and dont wear tight clothes on that area , you need to let it breath, or else your more likely to get herpes in tough situations and when your really weak , just take care of your body from now on love...



The sad truth about herpes is that you could get it and not have an outbreak for months. If you have had sex with anyone before you and your current man got together, you could have gotten it from them. Likewise if it turns out you got it from your current boyfriend, he could have gotten it from his last girlfriend, long before he got together with you, and never even known he had it.

As to kids it is possible to have kids ,just more complicated, there are meds that you can take to prevent outbreaks, but if your boyfriend doesn't have it and plans to keep it that way he will have to use protection from now on. But chances are, if you have it so too does he, but as to who gave it to who first.... This i can not say.

Good luck




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