Scared about having sex?!


Question: Scared about having sex?
Well im 13 going on 14, and most people in my year (9) have had sexual intercourse, now i'm not even considering about having sex at this age, but i was wondering that if you do have sexual intercourse does it hurt about 'popping the cherry' or does it hurt when a boy 'fingers you'? These are the worries i have...if anyone could give me a good explanation it would be much appreciated.

Answers:

i lost my virginity when i was about a year older than you. I regret it very much. It's not a decision you can take back. i didn't experience any physical pain, but that should be the least of your worries. the emotional pain is what you really need to remember. just wait it out until you're older and stay strong, please.
also, im only 19 right now, so it's not like im an older parental-figure trying to tell you what's right. sex at that young of an age might leave you with overwhelming guilt..it did for me. it changed me in other ways too. i was not as close to my parents, especially my dad, my perception for sex and relationships since then has been skewed, i developed a lot of bitterness and was not as sweet as i used to be. anyways, i don't mean for this to be about me, but i only hope to keep you from making the mistake that i did. right now youre not considering it, which is great..but keep that thought for the years coming up.



I agree with dsafdaf, if you are scared then you are not ready.

The more relaxed and 'ready' the female is at that moment the less chance there is pain, or so I've heard. 'Fingering' done right should hurt less than actual intercourse. At 14 though, I doubt the boy would know what the heck he's doing. There are a lot of factors for sex and if there's pain: there's the boy and the girl. If the boy is reckless (and inexperienced and immature, he probably would be) he could go too fast and try too much at once. The female could be too nervous, might not be into it, possibly be 'tight'. Concurrently, the boy might be 'wide' (again though at this age, I doubt it).

Obligatory: Sex is a very personal decision and should not be considered lightly at your age even if you've been with someone for a long time. It is not unheard (but uncommon) for some females to still graduate high school as a virgin. If anyone looks down on you for that, they might not understand that part of you. - I doubt any male would look down upon you for being a virgin, but some kinds might not want to wait with you.

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Congrats on your decision to wait. This is wonderful, don't let anybody tell you any different. I can only speak for myself when I say that having sex for the first tme was wonderful emotionally, physically a bit "uncomfortable" (but gets better with time) I was 21, almost 22, with a steady boyfriend, he was very gentle, also a virgin which made it great as we were learning together. For me, my "cherry" didn't pop immediately. He had to penetrate a few times(6 times on different occasions) before my hymen actually broke,it was a bit uncomfortable but not unbearable.Just a bit of blood. Fingering depends on how rough or gentle they guy is, as least this was my experience. Good luck darling and again, good for you on your choice :)



it is really sad that so many people your age are having sex. dont be a stupid girl like them. once you lose your virginity its gone, and you wont get it back. my gf is 26 now and is still a virgin. she is from korea and she didnt even have a bf before me.

it is attitudes like yours that forced me to look overseas for a girl. if you are interested in having sex just to try it, and you are afraid of it, you are definently not ready. why dont you wait until you're married.




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