Child sneaking sweets?!
Question: A student in a friend's classroom has VERY health conscious parents...
to the point that the child is rewarded with a trip to the dollar store
if she brings home the candy that the teacher gives her as a reward.
The child likes sweets and wants to eat like the other children, so she
has been caught going through the trash can pulling out Goldfish and
popcorn and EATING it. (Yuck, right?) She even takes candy from the
teacher without telling the teacher.
I was wondering what kind of advice I should give this teacher to give
the parent. Are they setting their kid up for an eating disorder? The
girl is only 7...
Answers: A student in a friend's classroom has VERY health conscious parents...
to the point that the child is rewarded with a trip to the dollar store
if she brings home the candy that the teacher gives her as a reward.
The child likes sweets and wants to eat like the other children, so she
has been caught going through the trash can pulling out Goldfish and
popcorn and EATING it. (Yuck, right?) She even takes candy from the
teacher without telling the teacher.
I was wondering what kind of advice I should give this teacher to give
the parent. Are they setting their kid up for an eating disorder? The
girl is only 7...
I don't think they're setting the child up for an eating disorder specifically, but she'll definitely be all wound up about control issues (which can turn into an eating disorder!). It's tough to criticize parents...it's their kid, after all, and are you sure there's not a health reason the child can't have sweets? Is there a school counselor that the child can speak with in confidence?
If not, then it's probably just a good idea to correct the behavior of the child discreetly when she goes through the trash can...but I think it might be a bad idea to correct or undermine the parents in this situation. This whole thing is about a lot more than just food!
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Try to see the happenings and leave everything to God.
Talk to the parents: "I fully understand your reasonas for wanting your child to eat healthy foods. Unfortunately, this method doesn't seem to be working. Can we work together to find another way to handle this in school?"
As a parent, grandparent and teacher, I think these parents are setting their kid up for disaster -- but it NEVER serves any purpose to tell a parent that. Be supportive of the parents' good intentions -- they really are trying to do what's best for their child -- and gently try to lead them to think of other ways to accomplish their goal.
Children naturally like sweets. I think they need the energy and since they are young, they exercise a lot, which gives them more energy to burn the "sugar."
Denying the child a "healthy" amount of sweets is tantamount to child abuse and setting the kid up for eating problems when they are old enough to make their own decisions.
Mother needs to lighten up, giving the kid a "reward" for NOT eating a certain food is likely to have consequences not unlike rewarding behavior WITH food.
Peace.
Wow that's a hard one! A family at my children's school had similar views which is of course their choice but the kids WANTED sweets and fizzy drinks and would go to amazing lengths to get them. I used to give my kids a limited amount of sweets. Your friend is in a hard place if they speak to the parents and give them the facts no doubt the parents will be very defencive and the kid will be in trouble!
im sure the parents aer being a little harsh, but the kid cant take whats not there... just make sure theres nothing for her to take
I DON'T THINK AH EATING DISORDER BECAUSE SHE PROPERLLY EATS BUT GOLD FISH WUTS WRONG WITH THAT
I THINK THE TEACHER CAN'T DO ANYTHING REALLY THE MOTHER IS THE ONE THAT HAS TO SEE THAT SHE IS AH KID
Wow thats like so sad..but its not an eating disorder that they want her to have they just want her to be healthy and umm she has a choice whether she wants candy or a trip to the dollar store and from what you said i guess she likes the dollar store better.