Boyfriend wants me to have a better body?!
Question: my boyfriend never pressures me to lose weight, and even says im too thin sometimes (i'm 5'6 and 118 pounds, so im fine NOT thin at all, im fine. lol). but when i do lose weight and i ask him if hes ok with it, he says he likes how defined my abs are, and now he's saying he loves how Pink's abs are, and would like it if i got abs like that, just a little less muscled. He said he and his cousin were at the gym the other night, and his cousin mentioned how he'd get it on with Pink easily since his fiance doesn't have those defined abs, and mature as my bf is, he said her abs were nice and agreed. Now keep in mind my boyfriend tells me often that he thinks im beautiful and loves my body, but lately it feels like he really wants me to get a better tummy. Now my muscle mass is actually that of an athlete from what ive researched, even though i dnot workout, but he says itd be nice if i got rid of the womanly fat on my tummy. im 35-25-35.. does anyone agree i should improve my body
Answers: my boyfriend never pressures me to lose weight, and even says im too thin sometimes (i'm 5'6 and 118 pounds, so im fine NOT thin at all, im fine. lol). but when i do lose weight and i ask him if hes ok with it, he says he likes how defined my abs are, and now he's saying he loves how Pink's abs are, and would like it if i got abs like that, just a little less muscled. He said he and his cousin were at the gym the other night, and his cousin mentioned how he'd get it on with Pink easily since his fiance doesn't have those defined abs, and mature as my bf is, he said her abs were nice and agreed. Now keep in mind my boyfriend tells me often that he thinks im beautiful and loves my body, but lately it feels like he really wants me to get a better tummy. Now my muscle mass is actually that of an athlete from what ive researched, even though i dnot workout, but he says itd be nice if i got rid of the womanly fat on my tummy. im 35-25-35.. does anyone agree i should improve my body
I think you sound fine and are lucky to have the body you have. Since he apparently works out and enjoys nice toned ab's, there is nothing wrong with wanting to please him however, I agree with the other posters that you should do it because YOU want to, not because HE wants you too. Great ab's takes effort and dedication to both working out and watching what you eat an a daily basis.
I workout regularly and I love the way my arms and legs look with overall definition. Maybe, since he goes to the gym, maybe you could ask him to "train" you and take an active roll in what you're doing...that way you get to spend time together and you get the benefit of toning up...
I think you should be comfortable with your own body. It sounds like your boyfriend is just a bit superficial and should be more concerned with you as a person than just your body. Your description of yourself sounds just fine to me.
Sounds to me like your fine the way you are. I wouldn't listen to him.
Well, I wouldn't loose any weight you are thin but being thin and being tone is two different things. You dont really have to work out much to get better abs. Just do crunches and sit ups but stay healthy.
you really need to change boyfriends because he apparently is just not happy you are just fine you are my height and i wish i weighed what you do how about him is he ultra perfect and do want him telling you about how you should look and dress what happens if you cant look the way he wants you to think my dear think you don't need that type of person in your life
give him what he wants.... train hard bulk up and kick his butt
Sounds like you need a new boyfriend.
And some confidence. Because really, there will always be thinner/younger/more ripped/stronger/faster women out there.
But there is only one you.
You need to be strong enough in yourself to know that he is male, and will look, but that you are the one you he digs. And that is regardless of your size/haircut/abs/arms/butt.
If he is making you insecure because he's hinting, then he's not the right guy. He should be with you because of who you are, not because of your weight/size/abs.
Incidentally, for a woman to have visible abs like Pink, she needs to work out all the time and be very limited in her eating. If you don't work out now, you won't enjoy it.
No you should not. Why does your bf like putting you down. I put on 25pounds because I'm pregnant and my bf does not care even if I don't lose it after wards. You don't state your bf age so I assume he is under 30. You are not his object and you need to be happy with your body. Keep eating healthy and live healthy. If you listen to your bf you are going to end up with a serious body image issue. Your BMI is around 19 and that is already low for a woman. Losing more weight will interfere with your hormones and you will not be able to conceive. Tell him to become a super model body builder with an Caribbean tan, grow 5 inches change his eye color and then you might think about his suggestion.
Bethany, if you do want to imporve your body then do it, but do not do it for him do it for you. I think that your figure is good, and a little bit of a tummy is not bad, but if you want the rock hard abs the you will have to work to get them, that will require doing exercise targeted to the abs.
I wish you luck.
You don't need to improve your body and you shouldn't be with someone that makes you feel bad about yours!!! Your the perfect size and don't need to change nothing! It seems you have a lack of self confidence! If anything work on that!
All I can say is if YOU want a better body go for it. You sound fine to me, but it your choice. If you like your body then stay the way you are. There is so much more to a person than just their abs!