My gf's best friend is anorexic!?!
Question: she is in a serious position, she has been over exercising and under-eating for a couple of years. then it got a lot worse, she started to throw up after meals and starving herself badly. she also took some laxatives to help with losing weight. at one stage she got so depressed that she wasn't losing weight that she cut herself. my gf made her promise that she wouldn't do it again, but recently she did. my gf used to be anorexic too, but she recovered from it about 80%. her best friend thinks she is still fully involved, and my gf is too scared to tell her to stop because she feels that she might feel alone and choose not to tell her when something happens (like she cuts herself). my gf understands that it is a psychological disorder and she is recovering but she wants to upgrade the anorexia so that she reaches their target weight before her friend hurts herself badly. then she can say 'this is rubbish dont do it'. i have told her not to but she seems convinced its the only way. help!
Answers: she is in a serious position, she has been over exercising and under-eating for a couple of years. then it got a lot worse, she started to throw up after meals and starving herself badly. she also took some laxatives to help with losing weight. at one stage she got so depressed that she wasn't losing weight that she cut herself. my gf made her promise that she wouldn't do it again, but recently she did. my gf used to be anorexic too, but she recovered from it about 80%. her best friend thinks she is still fully involved, and my gf is too scared to tell her to stop because she feels that she might feel alone and choose not to tell her when something happens (like she cuts herself). my gf understands that it is a psychological disorder and she is recovering but she wants to upgrade the anorexia so that she reaches their target weight before her friend hurts herself badly. then she can say 'this is rubbish dont do it'. i have told her not to but she seems convinced its the only way. help!
even though it's difficult, you should be there to support your gf mentally and emotionally. the anorexic mindset is not something that you can change overnight. with some luck your gf may come to break out of this. just be supportive, never let her feel like she's alone, let her know that you think she's beautiful, and make her happy! suffering from anorexia makes a person depressed and maybe if you can boost her self esteem she'll get better. as for the friend, you should know that it's going to take baby steps. why don't you suggest to your gf to still be close to her friend but just not lose more weight with her?
i guess this is what i'm getting at: you can be a crutch for her, and in turn, she may learn from you and better help her friend. i know this is a very sensitive situation, and i hope everything works out for you. i'll be keeping you in my prayers.
Good thing for ya! You dont have to take her to expensive resturants and feed her..
How old is she? Is she under 18? If so tell her parents so they can get her into a rehab center.
this is really bad..you have to take care of her...and you have to bring her to somewhere where doctors will help her.....you have to do somenthing now....than it will be too late......
i hope you're going to find a way...