My boyfriend says he likes me the way i am (im kinda pudgy) but he's attract!
Question: ok im really short (5'2") and im a little overweight (140lbs) and i have a small frame so i know im supposed to be skinny. my boyfriend says he likes me the way i am (im always telling him i wanna lose some weight and he knows im really insecure about myself) but he's attracted to skinny girls. do you think if i lost like 30 lbs he would like my body more? (i would probably be a lot less insecure) i think he lies to me when he tells me he likes me the way i am b/c he doesn't want to hurt my feelings.
guys, would you do the same?
Answers: ok im really short (5'2") and im a little overweight (140lbs) and i have a small frame so i know im supposed to be skinny. my boyfriend says he likes me the way i am (im always telling him i wanna lose some weight and he knows im really insecure about myself) but he's attracted to skinny girls. do you think if i lost like 30 lbs he would like my body more? (i would probably be a lot less insecure) i think he lies to me when he tells me he likes me the way i am b/c he doesn't want to hurt my feelings.
guys, would you do the same?
from today until you lose that weight.. do not tell your boyfriend that you are dieting or trying to lose weight. once you start losing weight see if he acts differently around you (being more affectionate and touchy feely) if thats the case then he obviously did have a slight problem with your weight but didn't want to confront you about it. but once you lose the weight i know you will be much happier and your relationship with your boyfriend will improve dramatically.
good luck
Your bf likes you the way you are... if YOU would feel better about yourself, try and lose like 15 pounds. Trust me that would make a big difference- 30 ls is alot to lose and you donmt need it!
I agree....my boyfriend tells me the same thing, but will point out a fat girl ( who I think is the same size as me ) and say she's fat and be attracted to skinnier girls...I think they do it just so you dont complain to them, so just try dropping the weight...and dont ask him or say anything about it...just start...he will def be happy wityh your new bod?
Ask any guy if you're fat. He'll say no if he has the slightest hope of getting any.
Are you fat? Based on height and weight I would guess yes.
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well some guys reallly do like "pudgier" girls.
How do you know that he's attracted to skinnier girls? did he tell you that?
I would lose weight, just to see what his reaction is :D
I am 5'3" and I have a medium frame and about the same weight, I am a little muscular though, not all guys are attracted to me, but some are.
but seriously, if he were attracted to skinnier girls, why is he with you?
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I'm not a guy, but it sounds to me like the issue is you're own self-esteem...not whether he likes it or not. If you think YOU are going to be more comfortable in you're skin if you lose 30 pounds--> you should do it for you and you're health. 30 pounds is a lot but if you have the determintation to turn you're life around you can do it! Don't look at it as one big milestone, set smaller 5 pound goals for yourself, it'll be way easier!
Good Luck on whatever you choose!!
WHO CARES WHAT HE THINKS!!! You have to do it for you and you only. Either he will like you big or small it doesnt matter. But to be happy with yourself it starts with you. Do what you feel is best for you. He will either support you or go away. But dont do it for him...please dont. Do it for you!
If you want to lose weight, do it for YOU, not for some guy. How can you expect him to respect you if you don't respect yourself?
I am 5'4" and also weigh 140 lbs. I used to weigh 150, and still didn't think I was fat. A little overweight, maybe, but not "fat". I doubt very much that you are fat.
Well you just pop round my place & I'll show you how much I
appreciate pudgy ladies
Whenever your boyfriend makes a statement about anything else, you believe him right? So why not now. If a guy tells you he is happy with you the way you are, then trust that he is. And who isn't attracted to skinny people in shape? My husband is a little overweight but I love every pound of him. That doesn't mean someone like David Beckham is unattractive to me. And deep down, its whats on the inside that counts and it sounds like your boyfriend loves you very much. So don't treat him like a liar when he pays you a wonderful compliment like "I like you the way you are". You're lucky to have a man that doesn't put you down for your size, cause believe me there are a lot of them out there.
AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, IF YOU WANT TO LOSE 30 POUNDS, DO IT FOR YOURSELF, NOT TO PLEASE YOUR BOYFRIEND!