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Question: He is 14. I am very fit enjoy a lot of sport, it seems because of this he wants to rebel. He does no sport, does not go out only with his friends to there houses. Even though i have tried talking to him he does not want to tell me what makes him want to eat so much. I do not know how to try and get him to lose weight as it is unhealthy and he cannot even climb stair without becoming breathless.
Answers: He is 14. I am very fit enjoy a lot of sport, it seems because of this he wants to rebel. He does no sport, does not go out only with his friends to there houses. Even though i have tried talking to him he does not want to tell me what makes him want to eat so much. I do not know how to try and get him to lose weight as it is unhealthy and he cannot even climb stair without becoming breathless.
You can start with the basics. First assuming that you do the grocery shopping, buy healthy food, snacks and all. Skip the junk food. No doubt at 14 he will be able to buy his own chips or whatever and get that from his friends house. At least in your home you can promote healthy eating and also set an example by eating healthy yourself.
Secondly get some healthy activities in, this doesn't have to be sports. It could be an easy short hike on a Saturday. Go to your local book store they usually have books on regional hikes in your area. Maybe when it is warm do something fun like rent kayaks if their is water near by.
It will be up to you to try to figure out how you are going to get him to do these things. You want them to be things he wants to do, and enjoys. Don't say we are doing this so you can lose weight. Instead say you need to someone to hike with you on Saturday and if he could please go with you. You will probably have to figure out how to get him motivated and keep him motivated, good luck.
leave him alone, its a good life
Do fitness stuff together. I'm fat and blame my parents sometimes... and myself.... not just them. I do fitness stuff now to try to tone up but they fed me on crap when I was younger and would love to be more healthy. Make it fun and swim. take his friends with you and enjoy it. Hope that helps
even though this maybe mean, you've got to be mean to be nice:
- take everything out of his room like TVs, playstations etc.
- make him walk to school every day and back, or if it is too far, make him walk back and then he may run to get back in good time.
- take him and his friends swimming, so he can have fun whilst being with his friends. (or course make them pay :D )
- let him join a fun sport club in your area, like karate, football or something that he can brag about later.
What kind of food do you keep at the house? Because really, it starts at home. Even if you give him healthy meals for when he IS there, if you have soda and candy and chips in the house he will find those and eat them when you aren't around.
You can't pressure a kid into liking sports, but get involved with him in other ways. Maybe he would like a sport that isn't very traditional, such as hiking, rock climbing, or skiing. Get involved and get him to try different things, maybe take him and a couple of his friends out.
My son was overweight until he was about 14, and all of a sudden he shot up several feet and is now the perfect weight for his height. Just change the foods you buy and serve slightly to lower fat versions. Every little helps.
i was overweight as a 14 year old and my parents always kept on about how much i ate etc etc and i began starving myself,once i didnt eat a single thing,just a glass of water once a day,for 3 days just because i though everything would make me fat,i only started to lose the weight properly when i started martial arts,see if this interests him,he can look cool to all his mates by doing martial arts and help himself by taking exercise,maybe one of his friends may also be interested in it too. i did tae kwon do and it was fantastic,i only did it 1 hour twice a week and i went from 12 stone to 9 st 3lb and kept down to this weight until i stopped when i got pregnant.
buy lots of fruit, get him into that stuff! don't buy snack things for him and don't buy junk food. cook a good meal every night. apart from that, it's up to him!
Only make him healthy meals - give him larger portions, but with more fruit and veg. He may already be unhappy as he will find it hard playing football with his friends etc. He may not want to admit it, and may feel embarrassed by you pointing it out.
You can trick him with treats and things as well - buy sugar-free squash, and sugar-free jelly - he can have as much of these as he wants. Buy lower fat versions of his favourite foods. Although these are only small changes, they can make all the difference.
Take away the video games and the computer. Get him a Wii and games that encourage being physical.
I think you should try to get him to join slimming world as on this diet you can eat a lot of food and still lose weight my aunt lost a massive 7 and a half stone on this and it really doesn't feel like a diet
Get rid of any and all junk food in the house, including sodas which are horrible for you. Make family meals that are healthy. If he refuses to eat healthy tell him that's is only option. Try to do family outings together like going to the park to play ball, join a pool this summer, find a rock climbing wall... anything, surely there will be something out there that will interest him. But NEVER criticize him or name call, this will only make his esteem low and want to do the exact opposite of what is best!
It is NOT a fine line between being slightly large and on the verge of obese - so which actually is it? You can start by not buying stuff that he can snack out on rather than have to wait for a decent meal. I'm guessing he doesn't have too many friends, so stays in a lot on the computer and snacking on junk. Cut down on pocket money so he can't buy crap when out of the house. Make him a nutritious lunch rather than giving him dinner money for school. All common sense stuff really, but 14 is probably the most rebellious age - sometimes they come out the other side different. My son was a little bit like that - now his body is a temple!! Be strong.
Put him on a diet that taste good. Find a sport or something very cardio active, that he likes to get him to loos the weight that way. If he likes to swim or if it is too hot outside get him to do water aerobics. Its all about being clever, outsmart him.
take all fatty food out of your house and tell his Friends to take him swimming it's healthy and fun and he's with his Friends.
I heard the nintendo Wii is good for exercise and people use weight playing it. Maybe get that to replace whatever he has now.
try to talk to him about it,tell him how you feel.
unless he is VERY unhealthy I would leave him be. I am 13 and I am very overweight(5'4 and 175 pounds) if he wants to lose weight than I would ask him, but I'm not sure if he would tell you if he was uncomfortable with his weight. For we overweight teens, its hard to talk about your weight. Especially to a parent. I think he didnt tell you what makes him want to eat so much because he is afraid. It is embarrassing to talk about your weight if you are overweight. It hurts emotionally. If he starts to get very unhealthy I would help him, but otherwise I would leave him be. Sometimes that's all a person wants.
just buy healthy food for your whole family, (no junk food) so you all in it together, and so he can't eat anything thats totally bad for him. so places together something fun i dunno maybe swimming,street dance, climbing, football, judo, even paint balling wud be good excersise anything just to get him moving. even one of those big tramplines in the back garden would be good excersise
Take him to the gym and make healthy meals. Maybe he's depressed about his weight and if he starts to lose weight he may start to feel better about himself.