I feel so stupid not having a women in my life?!
Question: I am 18 single
I feel like a small kid when i am at my gym working out.I am 5.7,162 lbs,13-16% bf,14.5 inch biceps.Most people at my gym are like 17-21" arms.I feel so stupid that i am short and small.DO you think that i can get a women in my life.Compared to pro bodybuilders i am just a small bodybuilder.I need to get my chest more developed and get my abs more defined and get atleast 17-21" inch arms.Then i will be satisfied in life.
some guy today told me you are so small.Look at my arms .Its 21 inch.You will never get there.Thats why i feel so stupid.I am nothing compared to him.That guy is a pro.bodybuilder like 6.0 and 300 lbs.I am just a beginner and no way there.
Answers: I am 18 single
I feel like a small kid when i am at my gym working out.I am 5.7,162 lbs,13-16% bf,14.5 inch biceps.Most people at my gym are like 17-21" arms.I feel so stupid that i am short and small.DO you think that i can get a women in my life.Compared to pro bodybuilders i am just a small bodybuilder.I need to get my chest more developed and get my abs more defined and get atleast 17-21" inch arms.Then i will be satisfied in life.
some guy today told me you are so small.Look at my arms .Its 21 inch.You will never get there.Thats why i feel so stupid.I am nothing compared to him.That guy is a pro.bodybuilder like 6.0 and 300 lbs.I am just a beginner and no way there.
yep
there's plenty of women under 5'7"
don't worry about it
besides, u have a lot better chances at getting a girl than a 300 pound guy!!
edit: well personally, i don't go running around with a tape measure searching for a guy with the right sized arms..
That guy is an idiot.
Stay out of the gym! Those guys will pull out your soul and stomp on it.
5'7" isn't THAT short. I bet if you asked most women, they'd date a man of that height.
And don't spend so much time obsessing about your bicep diameter. It makes you look self-centered and chicks don't really dig that.
You are average size for a man.You'll get there.I wish I was 18 again.I'm 49.
Let me tell you something.....that pro body builder is a bully!
You Suck....your more worried about yourself than anyone. If a woman is " SANE " ....she will stear as far away from you as possible and go find a guy that is more into her than himself. Did I mention that you suck ?
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its alright, a gorgeous lady probably wants you.
real bad.
Sure, they can be big and have muscles, but their intelligence is the equivalent of a blunt axe.
PS: Don't listen to Billybob. The people who REALLY suck are the ones who insult others behind the safety of a computer screen.
when you meet the right girl she wont care about ur abs or mussels she will love you for u
I feel smarter NOT having a guy in my life!!!
Not all women are into body builders.
In fact I bet few are. The ones that are into body builders are most likely shallow.
Many women would rather have a guy with a great personality.
All girls are not fans of muscle heads...........
try a bar or club for women...........there is always someone bigger, smarter, richer........so what................a couple of billion girls out there................
it took me 10 years of training and 100 lbs of muscle to get my arms from 14" to 20". to make drastic gains in muscle building you have to focus on your diet, it's 80% of the equation. going to the gym and training heavy is the easy part, consuming 5-7 meals daily for years on end is not. dedication to the diet is what separates the big guys from the wanna be big guys.
Do not place so much emphasis on how you look and put more on who you are. Are you nice? Would you treat a woman with the love and respect she deserves? Are you responsible? Women tend to look at guys in terms of their future.
Just be a nice guy. Take care of yourself and they will come to you. Don't worry about those guys that are all into their muscles. they may get the most looks from women, but in the long run its the nice guys girls want!
If that is what he told you than he is just being an ignorant ***. First off how long did it take him to get that big and is he using pharmaceuticals other than protein shakes to get there. It takes time, you are really going to have to be devoted to your goal, you probably already have it but if not pick up Arnold Schwarzenegger's encyclopedia of bodybuilding.
It sounds like he was trying to punk you. FTP..
First of all, most women are not into body builders...but you will find a small group of women that are very much into body builders. So if that is the reason you are into body building, I think you should reconsider. You might set your sights on some girl and find that she is not into you simply because of your over muscled body.
Now if you are doing it for yourself, that is another thing entirely. If you are going to do this, do it for the right reason. Every man starts small. Set little goals and when you reach it, set it a little bit higher. This isn't going to happen over night.
What kind of woman are you looking for? A trophy by your side? Any kind of woman that's worth the effort of a relationship isn't going to run a tape measure around your biceps. If that's what you need to get a woman, it will never last because she'll go for the next meathead that comes her way.
Just worry about getting fit for yourself. This means feeling healthy, not having to become a muscle-bound self-centered meathead yourself. And I don't believe for a second that all it'll take for you to be satisfied in life is to get 17" arms.
I'd be cautious in your quest to be bigger.
You have the same chance of heart disease as a fat guy who weighs the same.
Being over weight with muscle or fat, is still being over weight.
Go for the lean muscle.
Ask your doctor about it.
I know what you are talking about but it looks to me that you are way too worry about your looks than your feelings ,you shouldn't define love by the looks but the feelings ,i'm not a bodybuilder i'm some what skiny and i don't care about the way i look 'cause i have a great woman in my life who happens to be my fiance and she loves me for who i'm and what i'm, just be patience buddy and don't kill yourself exercising too much 'cause most girls like a honest and sweet guy and not a cute guy who don't know how to treat them!!!
The real question is, why do you feel that you need to have a woman? Is it just to make you look like a man in front of others, or rather because you actually enjoy being in the company of one? If it's the former, then you're not ready for a woman yet, boy. Your problem has nothing to do with your body.
Well, part of the problem is that you are 18, and still working on male confidence. Yes, there is more than likely a young woman in the future for you somewhere. You just haven't met her. And you are not exactly a shrimp, you know? Just for the record, my husband isn't that tall. He was the proverbial 90 pound weakling at 18, if the photos are any evidence. You are comparing yourself to people who have been working out for years, possibly people who do nothing else with their lives. As far as the muscle bound idiot passing remarks about your size, well bully for him. How wonderful that the only way he can feel big and good about himself is by putting somebody else down. In my book that certainly doesn't make him the bigger man by any means, on any yardstick you can to use. And it shouldn't phase your efforts either, nor make you feel any less good about yourself. If you continue to work out on a regular schedule, time and effort, and maturity will bulk up your frame. That's pure biology, since you are male. At the moment, most of the females around you, your age group- are not exactly women themselves. Certainly not ready for a real relationship. They are also just begining to become the women they will be. In the meantime, some of them are idiots, some are pretty confused about exactly what kind of man makes a good partner. Not all of them though. Among all the group, there are a few pearls. You will just have to be a little more patient and look a little more, and I suggest you give it a little time before you actually go shopping for "Miss Right". In the meantime, if there is a girl you have your eye on, just ask her out. She'll say yes or she'll say no- can't promise the answer you will want. Then, remember to treat her like a lady, and not a side of beef, and you act like a gentleman. The woman you want is not interested so much in the size and measure of your biceps, and much more concerned with the type of character you have. A few brains are also a nice touch. I personally always found the muscle bound pro weightlifter a little more than self centered for my taste. A guy always sweating it out in the gym doesn't usually make good company. So quit feeling sorry for yourself because you don't look like a pro weightlifter. Quit comparing yourself to them, and don't let them make you feel small. You are as big a man as you think you are, equal to any of them if you believe in yourself. Don't peg your life satisfaction on something as temporal as your physical appearance. While you may be young and buff in a year or so, time is going to have it's affect on you eventually. If the girl you choose to walk through life with is only interested in your container, and you are only interested in hers- then you are not going to stay happy for long. The woman you want is going to know that, and it's a lesson you also need to learn. It's not the container that counts, it's what the container holds that is important. My husband and I have been together many years now. He was a young muscular buff man of 27 when we met and married. He wasn't the tallest in the group. He wasn't the most muscular, although he did have a nice set of shoulders, and a nice butt. What he mostly had was a good personality, a good mind, and a wonderful sense of humor. The hair is gradually disappearing now, the chest is measuring a bit lower now, but the qualities that I adore are still intact. His had a buddy who spent hours working out, always into some sort of program to bulk up. He was an idiot. As long as you talked about muscles and protein powder, he could actually string words together. Beyond that, he was a real lump of dumb. Yes, the girls initially went gaa-gaa. Then they discovered the muscles had replaced his brain, and well- looks weren't enough. So quit obsessing over yourself here. There is a girl out there. You haven't met her yet. You will. And until you do, you would be far better off to cultivate the qualities that will make you a good partner, and less on trying to pump iron to make some magic number. Oh- and learn to ignore the idiots. Life is full of them, and it seems like they congregate in gyms.