Why does food comfort me so much?!
Question: Anything and everything in my life doesnt matter as much as food does. I want to understand why it is my best friend and why I cant control it. I am only 17 and I feel as though I am 80. I feel so alone all the time and I dont want friends so I turn to food because it wont judge me or call me names, this I know, but why?
Answers: Anything and everything in my life doesnt matter as much as food does. I want to understand why it is my best friend and why I cant control it. I am only 17 and I feel as though I am 80. I feel so alone all the time and I dont want friends so I turn to food because it wont judge me or call me names, this I know, but why?
There are obviously some deep rooted psychological problems going on here that would best be addressed with a psychologist. An obsession with food coupled with an acute anti-social behavior has to point back to some kind of trauma.
It seems to me that you took solace in food at a young age - received negative feedback about its reactions to your body (gaining weight) and then turned to food again.
You're in a losing battle against a vicious cycle that continues to repeat itself. The only way to fight it is to identify the source of your low self-esteem (the event that first turned you to seek food as a comfort - before being overweight).
You need to stop caring what other people think, true. But in some ways you should. A human being can not function, at least for a sustained period of time - as a social hermit. You've already taken a small step by posting a question on Y!A. Take it a step further. Join more on-line communities, blogs, forums, etc.
Fill your time with more positive extracurricular activities. Basically find a hobby that doesn't center around food. In essence you need to exercise and eat less. Use that same determination you have to eat whatever you want to NOT eat whatever you want. This is true - almost fact - it takes a lot of work and determination to eat a lot.
Through the wonderful internet you can find a multitude of friends that share the same likes and dislikes as you - allowing you to branch out from the mundane and monotonous drones of your local high school or town.
Until you can find something that can make you just as happy as food does - it is going to continue to be an uphill battle. Just try to even the playing field - get that incline to decrease - get it level and soon enough it'll be a downhill battle.
From on-line games to music community forums there is a ridiculous amount of 'stuff' that you can get lost in on the internet. But avoid becoming an internet drone. You've go to get up and DO something. Take a walk. Think. Stand up, go outside and just start walking. Swim. Ride a bike. Skate. Even if it's something you THINK you wouldn't like; if you haven't at least tried it - don't rule it out.
Good luck.
People often turn to food when they feel:
Stress
Depression
Anger
Boredom
Loneliness
Frustration
Anxiety
its not just you honey
many people feel that way about food
try expressing your thoughts through poetry instead of turning to food
because if you eat till you're full you feel comfortable and sleepy.
because your depresed
dont listen to the person who called you a pig =]
primitive consciousness, it wasn't that long ago we all struggled to eat 3 times a day. only the fat survived.
I have done the same myself. I eat a lot out of emotions and then feel bad afterwards. I think it might be hereditary because my mom and sister did the same thing. I am learning not to listen to my emotions but it is hard to do. Food really does not give us comfort because if it did we would not eat out of emotions; we just think it comforts us. We are never satisfied because we are not dealing with why we feel the way we do which triggers us to resort to food. It is like a drug or alcohol; the problem is still going to be there once we wake up. You are not alone. I really understand. Try Overeaters Anonymous or find a trusted friend to talk to. Do anything besides eat junk. I think you would feel better and more confident in yourself. Good Luck To You!
Eating various kinds of food is pleasant in many ways. Pleasure is a kind of reward that conditions your behavior and makes you form a habit. And when you have a habit, then behaving in a habitual way is easier than behaving in any other way.
It's not easy to break an entrenched habit. But with enough effort and strong will it is possible.
u might be doing it because your bored or because you've had a bad experience with friends in your past.
if you really cant control it then change what your eating to celery and healthy stuff so that you can always nibble on things but they dont have much of an effect on your weight. xx
It's not nice to call someone a pig. You are wise to be concerned because we should eat to live and not live to eat. I have the same problem and it's harder to break a habit as one gets older.
So while you're young, try to find something to do that does not involve food.
Maybe start writing your feelings in a journal or go walk your dog when you feel hungry and see if you still feel hunger afterwards. Sometimes dancing to your favorite song can
help.
Also if your'e substuting food for friends you should talk to a therapist or counselor. If you can voice your feelings you may better be able to control them.
because even though your out of control you can control your eating...you can say when to start when to stop etc..what you eat and what you dont eat..like you said no one can call you names etc...find a healthier outlet......get counselling..your only hurting yourself
Let me answer it this way in an encouraging manner that helped me. I used to be overweight and a poor athlete, but I decided I was tired of being last when running and embarked on a training regime with the Nike running club. It was tough, but after 4 weeks, I started enjoying it more than eating. It really is like a natural high and if you can do that with some exercise program like spin biking or something else, you will feel much better. The hardest thing is just to start. It works, believe me. Good luck!
I have that problem too, and I know it comforts me, because I tastes to freakin good, and i have no self control
It is because when you eat, it releases some pressure and makes you feel good. So now when you feel bad, the only thing that you know will make you feel good is food so you seek it out.
It's more like a habit turned addiction to some people. Some people smoke, others gamble, in your case binge eating. What you should do is either to seek help or exert self-discipline. Find another outlet instead of binging.
Good luck. ^_^
Cuz it's SOOOO GOOOOOD!!!!!
Honney,
17 it HARD. High school doesn't make it any easier. Get involved in some sports/activities. Get out and do something. Sports saved me. I was SOOOOOO SHYYY! Sports helped out a lot.
College will be better, GO AWAY FOR COLLEGE. But make sure you get involved in things. make some friends. Things'll turn around. The hard part is the first step. Once you get the lonely part taken care of then you fix the eating part.
Good Luck
It comforts you cuz, that's the only way to satisfy yourself whenever you're alone. Food makes you forget about all the sad things you've gone through. But that's not a good way to deal with it. You turn to food probably cuz of depression.
Don't listen to people's teasing, I'm sure there are other people who are willing to be your friend and won't call you names.
You know what I'd do? I'd show those people that teases me all the time that I can say 'no' to food. Why don't you do the same too? Eat a healthy and balanced diet. Consult a dietician. And exercise. Eat only when your stomach asks you to. Not when your mind or heart asks you to.
Good luck with what you're going through. Don't listen to other people. =)
because it is so good