How could I motivate a friend to get started with losing weight?!
Question: A friend of mine wants to loose about 40 pounds. She tends to have depression and I doubt she will stick to an exercise regime or eating plan. What suggestions could I make to her and how could I motivate her over the long run? She is 50. It must be hard to have to loose so much weight( I am normal weight but I have more motivation then her to keep it this way )
She wants to achieve this until May. Is this possible at all?
Answers: A friend of mine wants to loose about 40 pounds. She tends to have depression and I doubt she will stick to an exercise regime or eating plan. What suggestions could I make to her and how could I motivate her over the long run? She is 50. It must be hard to have to loose so much weight( I am normal weight but I have more motivation then her to keep it this way )
She wants to achieve this until May. Is this possible at all?
Remember the following:
-Try to understand what's stopping her.
-Be a example and do not tempt her
-Do not be cruel and stay positive throughout the process.
-Reward good behaviors, don't criticize bad ones.
-Do be subtle, though.
-Make sure you do not appear as a threat or someone she dreads after this.
-Listen when your friend wants to skip a day, take a break, or talk about their bad feeling/emotions/struggles.
-Don't get competitive and do not push her limitations.
-Let the process bring you both closer together.
You can help her, but it is unhealthy to lose that much weight by May.
Be sure to have realistic goals.
it is possible, start small, walking to start
look at is a extending her life...
do shopping together so you two cant cheat on foods
Work out with her. Or, find someone who will. Having someone next to you telling you that you can do it makes all the difference. Also, make a bet. Whomever ventures off the track loses. Make it something that she really wants (other than the weight loss), for an added incentive. Also, switch (or, if you aren't going to do this with her, tell whomever is going to help her to) switch up the exercise routines. Repetition can get boring, especially when there is hard work involved.
As for probability of losing the weight, I don't think she can lose a full 40 pounds in three months, it is just not healthy. She can, though, lose about 15-20, while getting toned. She would still look amazing, while also losing weight.
inform to her that , if she put on weight the changes of getting sick (BP and diabetes) is high.So put down weight in proper way may help her to take care of her good health and she may look more younger than her age.
Engage your friend in non-exercise, high impact energy using activities. take her to a large mall and mall walk at a higher speed then she is use to. Invite her to engage in a sport that you play. As she gets tired she will either decide to work towards improving her stamina or not. The key is doing a function that you participate in is not a "workout" and people will be more inclined to work toward a goal, to get better at an activity . A form a reverse pych.
Ask her if she wants to go on a walk with you because you get bored/want to talk to someone. Just do little things like that. Then during the spring/summer (depending where you live) ask if she wants to go for a swim with you. Then if its possible, maybe you can invite her over for dinner once or twice a week, and you can cook a good, but healthy meal. And most importantly, be supportive!
She could definitely lose 40 pounds, but the problem is that there could be hormones or something else coming into play that make losing weight difficult for her, so she gets discouraged. Is she on any medications or anything? I would first tell her to have a checkup and to let her doctor know she's having a hard time losing weight. The older you get the easier weight is to put on and the harder it is to take off - that's just the way it is. She could join Weight Watchers - the meetings are really motivational and you DON'T have to get weighed in front of people, if that's what she's worried about. 40 lbs isn't a huge amount to lose compared to some people, so she shouldn't feel ashamed - as a matter of fact, you could offer to go to a few meetings with her until she gets used to it. They really teach healthy eating habits, and we can all use that these days!
I would keep calling her fat, tubby, lard butt. You get the idea ,be creative. There are tons of names to call fattys like her to help get her motivated to help her lose weight. And remember a real friend will come up with as many names as possible, so rack your brain. Get the pounds off that fat girl.
First of all your comment in parentheses is pretty bitchy. What you are essentially saying is that you have a husband and she doesn't so she has no reason to want to look good.
Trust me you'll get yours. Your husband/boyfriend is probably cheating on you anyway or wants to very badly. What you should do is shut your mouth and stop acting like you are concerned about this woman when the truth is that you pity her and she represents someone who you think you are better looking than and you enjoy that. Unfortunately for you there is another woman at your job that pity's you. Your friends depression stems from ridiculous meaningless competitions with other women over attractiveness and desirability from men(either husbands or not). The truth is unless you are between 18 and 28 and are very desirable you're not ideally what a guy would go for if he could get what he really wants. So the simple truth is that at 50 years old it doesn't really matter whether she loses the weight or not. The only reason she should lose the weight is if she wants to be in a sexual relationship with a man or for honest health reasons.
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