How do I stop SO undermining diet/lifestyle efforts?!
Question: I would like to preface this post by saying that I am not unhealthy, too skinny, etc. I am 5'8", and toggle between 140 and 145 lbs at a size 6-8.
My problem is that my SO is constantly trying to get me to eat unhealthy foods, yet encourages me to work out - weight train, etc. He has this lifestyle, and it works for him, but I prefer to maintain my appearance through cardio and diet. (I do weights as well, but supplementally - that's all he DOES).
I have been heavier in my life - the heaviest I have ever been was 163.
He saw pics of me at that weight and went on about how good he thought I looked heavier. He is always saying things like 'I would find you really sexy at 160 or even 180!'. I know that the women he dated before me were 'bigger' - not fat, but definitely 'comfortable'. I worked SO hard to lose the weight, and keep it off, and now I feel that he doesn't appreciate it.
He makes fun of me for buying 'low fat' or 'lite' stuff when we shop together.
Answers: I would like to preface this post by saying that I am not unhealthy, too skinny, etc. I am 5'8", and toggle between 140 and 145 lbs at a size 6-8.
My problem is that my SO is constantly trying to get me to eat unhealthy foods, yet encourages me to work out - weight train, etc. He has this lifestyle, and it works for him, but I prefer to maintain my appearance through cardio and diet. (I do weights as well, but supplementally - that's all he DOES).
I have been heavier in my life - the heaviest I have ever been was 163.
He saw pics of me at that weight and went on about how good he thought I looked heavier. He is always saying things like 'I would find you really sexy at 160 or even 180!'. I know that the women he dated before me were 'bigger' - not fat, but definitely 'comfortable'. I worked SO hard to lose the weight, and keep it off, and now I feel that he doesn't appreciate it.
He makes fun of me for buying 'low fat' or 'lite' stuff when we shop together.
He's just jealous. I don't mean that in a bad way just in a way that involves his image of himself. He apparently is a bigger guy and loves to feel strong and macho so he lifts weights only. He doesn't realize or he is ignoring the fact that a "BALANCED" workout including cardio, stretching and resistance training is the only exercise routine that can possibly allow someone to achieve total fitness. All that plus a well balanced variety-filled diet can help both of you to meet your health goals. It sounds like he likes his heavier "comfort food", so let him have it as part of the diet. Spice up things in the kitchen with flavor by using some new seasonings. Try indian or oriental cuisine. My favorite is the mediterranean diet with lots of fresh veggies and olive oil. At many of the weight loss camps people are allowed to eat until they are full, but they are allowed a small portion of meat or fatty food and the rest has to be fruits and veggies. He should respect your wish to be healthy for yourself as well as for him. It's going to save big bucks on medical care and medication if you are healthy at age 65.
Maybe you should try working out together, a choose a program that is fun and you can both do. There's some cool programs at http://shopping-for-stuff.blogspot.com