Girlfriend, losing weight... women please don't crucify and lynch me?!
Question: Alright, here's the situation, I absolutely love this woman, everytime I look into her eyes, it just makes me want to love her some more. After her pregnancy, she has gained 100 pds, I want to be supportive her losing weight... if she doesn't want to lose her weight, that's fine too. But isn't it healthier to eat the right foods and to exercise daily... I am concerned she would think less of me if I suggested this, to work out with me... I am sure women feel the same way about men, but don't usually say it... I am not a shallow person what so ever, and I love this woman to death, I just think we would live longer and feel good about eachother if we both ate more healthy and exercised...again women/men, constructive criticism please
Answers: Alright, here's the situation, I absolutely love this woman, everytime I look into her eyes, it just makes me want to love her some more. After her pregnancy, she has gained 100 pds, I want to be supportive her losing weight... if she doesn't want to lose her weight, that's fine too. But isn't it healthier to eat the right foods and to exercise daily... I am concerned she would think less of me if I suggested this, to work out with me... I am sure women feel the same way about men, but don't usually say it... I am not a shallow person what so ever, and I love this woman to death, I just think we would live longer and feel good about eachother if we both ate more healthy and exercised...again women/men, constructive criticism please
If you love her then you should want her to be healthier so that you can enjoy longer and more fulfilling lives with each other. I see nothing wrong with you wanting her to be healthy.
My husband was a huge help while I was losing my pregnancy weight. I don't know if I could have done it without him. He worked out with me, and changed the diet of the entire household to help me get back to normal.
Just do everything with her 100%. If you both eat healthy and exercise it will be good for you too and she will eventually get back to a more normal weight. There were times my husband would motivate me to work out because he would say that he really needed to go to the gym and he'd tell me how much he enjoyed it when we would work out together. That one always worked like a charm on me, lol.
Good luck, I don't think you're shallow at all for being concerned about the health of the woman you love.
It would be a mistake to tell her that you want her to lose weight. However, you could definitely suggest that she go work out with you sometime. Just tell her you would enjoy her company. You could also take the initiative to cook or suggest something you could both cook that would be healthy. Just make sure that when you do these things, she understands it is not because of her weight. Hope this helps!
Gaining 100 lbs is not acceptable. I would agree with you. If you care about her, you should tell her to eat healthier and exercise to lose weight. It's not about the looks, it's about the health. You said you love her to death. Face it. Who's death? If you and her don't do something about her weight, she won't be around that many years for you to say you love her. Sorry if this sounds harsh but health isn't something to mess around with.
I support you here, don't worry. 100 lbs is quite abit to gain, and the good thing is, that you still love her. Do try and talk to her about it, if she loves you, im sure she will understand.
My advice is if you do start eating healthy and exercising - why not do it togeather! Be right by her side, enduring and eating what she is. Then you can be happy and keep eachother company while you both get healthy, fit, and better for eachother.
How's that?
And obviously, the all around workouts are best for losing weight. Lots of running, jogging, jumprope, weights, whatever it may be.
And eathing healthy is the other step aswell. Lotta fruits, veggies, natural unprocessed meat even, fish, etc. Just NO processed, oily, greasy, fast food, chips, nothing like that. Junk food = no!
I really respect you and give you kudo's for a genuine guy just reaching out for help. Goodluck! If you need anything else, feel free to contact me.
You are right and it would be better,but be soft and if she loves you she would love to workout with you.I used to be 250kg and lost till i was 70 kg out love to my man. just be nice about it and how old is the baby and does she breast feed?
You're right. 100lbs is disgusting.
It's cool that you love her, higher weight or not. Okay, so you want her to lose weight, for her health, good. So, you hopefully will do this thing together.
Please see about meeting with a nutritionist ( if you so desire ), and ask about the diabetic exchange diet. You don't have to be diabetic to use it, all it is is a bit of information on how to eat healthy, with proper proportions, etc. Based on caloric intake.
Whether or not you go that route, all you really need to do is both of you eat proteins, carbs, fruits, veggies each day. Okay-allow one day per week to allow yourself to have a sweet. That way, you aren't really depriving yourself of anything.
Please be sure to drink 8 - 8oz glasses of water per day. Of course, along with other things like juices, etc.
For exercise--why not dance with your girlfriend in your home? Put on some music, and dance for about 15-30 min. per day. Or go swimming, bowling, etc. Also, do you help her around the house with the housework, and with the baby?
It isn't a "diet" that will work, it's life changing eating/activity habits that work the best.
Take care.
as soon as she gained 15lbs i would have taken that ***** to the gym. tell her its false advertisement and if she doesnt lose the weight then your dumping her for a gym bunny whore. works for me