How do I help my mom?!
Question: I love my mom very much. And I want her to live a long and healthy life. But she is morbidly obese. And I worry about her so much! She knows her weight is unhealthy. She had weight loss surgery, but ended up gaining a lot back after losing. I know that some people truly have an addiction to food. And I know it's harder for woman to lose weight sometimes, that's just how women are (I know personally, lol). I've brought up my worrying about her. But nothing seems to get through to her. I don't see her making any big changes in diet or anything. She has a gym membership, but she rarely goes. I think that she thinks she has no time between work and stuff to go. I just don't know what to do, I am scared for her. What can I do to get through to her and really help her? What I have said so far hasn't made any impact it seems.
Answers: I love my mom very much. And I want her to live a long and healthy life. But she is morbidly obese. And I worry about her so much! She knows her weight is unhealthy. She had weight loss surgery, but ended up gaining a lot back after losing. I know that some people truly have an addiction to food. And I know it's harder for woman to lose weight sometimes, that's just how women are (I know personally, lol). I've brought up my worrying about her. But nothing seems to get through to her. I don't see her making any big changes in diet or anything. She has a gym membership, but she rarely goes. I think that she thinks she has no time between work and stuff to go. I just don't know what to do, I am scared for her. What can I do to get through to her and really help her? What I have said so far hasn't made any impact it seems.
This choice rests with your mom. Sadly, nothing in the world will make her kick her bad habits except herself. Some people are extremely difficult to get through. But I'd encourage you to keep on encouraging her to work out. Talk about the possibility of her dying before seeing her grandkids (if you didn't have kids already), or other things she will miss out on life if she dies because of her unhealthiness.
Talk a lot about the future, and that should work...
Maybe she doesn't want to go through it alone? You should go with her to the gym and start eating healthy foods with her. She'll feel better because she has her little girl with her and standing by her :)
There are 1000 reasons for failure but not a single excuse. She has to have the self discipline and want to get healthy in order for it to work. Eat healthy, hit the gym religiously. She has to recognize and do something about the problem. If she is this far without acting on it, I doubt much will help, unfortunately.
She needs discipline, is what it comes down to.
do it with her. Even if your in shape its always good to excersise.
I think you should encourage her more by inviting her to go to the gym, walking in parks, also buying health food.
Why don't you wake up in the morning before she goes to work and b4 you go to school and go to the gym or for a walk ? I do it with my mum and dad and it's definitely hard for them to turn you down when your so determined to go.
Try going to the shop with your mum and go shopping together and when she tries putting something junky into the trolley suggest to her and say "why don't we try something different? maybe something healthy?" See her try make an excuse for that. it Will be hard!
Also, if you have a pool in your backyard, go swimming often and have fun. you can always have a nice BBQ with your whole family and it doesn't always have to be unhealthy! a few sausages some steak and salad is a perfect afternoon lunch or snack. it can also encourage your family to be together more.
If you don't have a pool however- why not try the local pool? there are plenty of things you can do to have fun that also are good for your health. Maybe making dinner for your family will encourage healthy eating? If your mum sits in front of the TV all the time get her to do active things with you. And after she comes home from work go for an exercise
There are plenty of other things you can do to get your mum healthy again and you happy again. Good luck ?
All the other posters have said what you can do.
This is about all you can do.
Youre learning one of life's hard lessons. The only person you can effectively do anything about is yourself.
All you can do, is what you can do...and the rest is left up to them.
Accepting that is the hard part.
Its very hard to handle sometimes, but this is life.
I have a brother I love very much, but he's an alcoholic and its sad.
I cant do anything about it.
Youre not alone in this feeling. Lots of people carry this same burden..
You can learn a lesson. This is now your opportunity to change your eating habits & lifestyle, so your child wont be in your situation some day.
Your eating habits are probably NOT good, because youve been brought up this way. Read some health books.