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Question: My daughter is really skinny... How do I help her?? She is 60 lbs. and she is 13. She has to get the smallest size in every mall! But I dont want her to get fat but at least "normal". What should I do?? She also is enorexic...
Answers: My daughter is really skinny... How do I help her?? She is 60 lbs. and she is 13. She has to get the smallest size in every mall! But I dont want her to get fat but at least "normal". What should I do?? She also is enorexic...
Wow thats quite skinny.
Im 16 right now and a couple of years back, my best friend became anorexic, bulimic and clinically depressed
she never became THAT skinny, but she did have to get a doctor.
what she kept telling me she hated was how everyone acted so 'concerned' about her. They were, and rightfully so, however, she never perceived them as acting for her benefit. To her, they were acting and did not care about her.
In a way, she was so caught up in a cycle of doubt and despair that she could not handle anyone's help anymore
what i would most strongly suggest is to stop these thoughts and behaviors as soon as possible.
Try to keep her away from the outside influences that would make her feel insecure (with today's media, that's pretty hard)
But make sure that she has plenty of positive support within her circle of friends and from the family (you) dont keep asking her if she 'needs to talk' because frankly that just gets annoying. Just be understanding when she gets in a bad mood, dont be too harsh on her about school. Understand that she's going through a very difficult period that NOT EVERYONE GOES THROUGh. Well, what i mean is that yes, most people pass through such a phase, but for some, that phase is so hard and so difficult they snap. (ahem* hence the soaring numbers of teenage suicide) Never assume that That can never happen to you.
My best friend almost succeeded.
take her mind off of food. What does she love to do? strengthen the trust and bond between mother and daughter by going shopping, or taking a short vacation.
dont jump to hasty conclusions. always trust her to explain her side to you.
Trust is the Most Important thing! Without it, there can not be a relationship. So build that and maintain it.
I hope i helped! good luck and be patient!
musical cashews :D
if she doesnt mind shakes and soups then try to get her to drink alot more of these ....protein shakes, soups, fruits to start then add some carbs slowly as she increases
Read tips on gaining body mass and more on dietary needs on this site
as a mother you have to do your best in trying to give her some confidence
you both should go to a therapist and nutritionist if that fits in your budget
but youve also have to understand her
eating disorders are very tough
and you have to be as patient as possible
its a slow process
just try telling her shes beautiful and tell her to go through things together
good luck with everything
Go to a doctor. That's the best way.
I also know protein shakes will help her to gain muscle mass. But as I said, go to the doctor. She needs help.
being skinny is a whole nother world from being anorexic, but if she does eat, make sure to cook her meals for her and her lunch, for breakfast, scrambled eggs or however she likes them, with whole grain/wheat toast and a pat of butter, not too much food though, or she'll notice your stuffing her, for snack at lunch pack a bage with cream cheese or peanut butter, or a pbandj sandwhich, etc, pack in healthy and caloric foods as much as you can like salmon, avacado, dried fruits, nuts, peanut butter, etc
&you're totally sure she's anorexic, correct?
You may need to get some...therapy of some sort, only because recovering anorexics often have trouble reverting back to a normal life.
Take her to a dietician so she can understand what her body needs to survive and be healthy and the damage. Don't preach to her or attack or criticize her habits.
Perhaps some of the motivation is physcological, maybe you could just be there for her in small activities like walking the dog/ doing dishes so she has someone to talk to. Maybe going to see a professional phychologist would help her. She is very underweight and this is really damaging her so I wouldn't wait too much longer.
I sincerely think you should seek professional help to have her evaluated for an eating disorder. Your first source for help should be your family doctor if you have one. If not your daughter's school most likely should have a social worker or counselsor who could recommend a professional in your area. Please don't wait do seek help for her since you say she's anorexic. The following web site may be helpful for you and her: http://www.4woman.gov/faq/easyread/anore...
well, you need to seek professional help. at least the counselor at her shcool if you have no other options financially.
also don't pressure her or make her feel guilty about eating. have some heart to hearts with her and tell her you will be there for her. try to get her to eat as much as you can and give her a dif. outlook on her body image.
Get her involved in a over eater/anorexic anonymous group. She's have others to talk to. It's important for her to be able to talk with other with her problem.
Anorexia is not only a EATING disorder but mostly a PERCEPTION disorder. Even if you feed her, it won't change her thinking. You need to take her to someone who can retrain her mind and perception of herself. Then and only then can she gain the weight and keep it on. As easy as it sounds to just FEED her. Its not her stomach that has the problem. Good luck!